Going Back

[DarkVampire]

Rayne said something about this in another thread that I found interesting. So not to make that thread go off topic, we can discuss it here.

If you could, would you go back in time and change the mistakes you made?

[Onyx]

Oh yes. HELL YES.

yes yes yes YES.

This has the makings of a 'Butterfly effect" debate, but I just feel as if I can see exactly where I've made major mistakes and if only someone had given me some gentle guidance when I was in my early 20s I would have had a much better time of it.

I know exactly what I would change. I would have taken that job in the city up north instead of that icky southern Florida hellhole. Therefore I would have never have met my ex and hopefully would have had a better marriage or perhaps even no marriage at all. I would at the very least have had an interesting place to live rather than live through years of boredom in a small Southern town.

All that is useless to contemplate since, alas, my time machine does not work. I must make the most of whatever days remain.

On the bright side, my mistakes seem smaller lately. Over the last few years I'm happy with most of my decisions.

[ManicQueen]

Yes, I would go back.

There are so many stupid things I did, so many things I didn't do..

[paradox]

no.

[saechalyn]

Yes, yes, yes, a thousand times yes.

I'm going to go be sick now.

[Brenda Starrr]

Oh HELL yes. Hell effen yes. Did I say yes? Do I need to spell it out????

[damagedangel]

Yep.

[Fierce Critter]

Some yes, some no.

Hindsight.

[Rayne]

Yes ... I would.

I realize the mistakes I have made in my past have made me the person I am today, but I have made some horrible mistakes that would be worth going back and fixing.

I may turn out differently as a person, but assuming those "horrible mistakes" were changed ... I can't see where that would be a bad thing.

[DarkVampire]

I would go back and beat the hell out of myself for being stupid bu-t that probably wouldn't accomplish anything. I was bullheaded and set in my ways and the only way for me to learn is by living the experiance.

I'm alone and feel the pain of being alone, but I learned a valuable life lesson by losing the best thing that ever happened to me. I was young and stupid (19-22) possesive, controlling, short sighted person who ended up losing her. It was for the best because those negative traits can only lead to worst things. For that loss I learned you can't be like that and it's wrong to treat someone you are suppose to love like that. I've never been like that in any relationship after her.

A hard lesson to learn but it had to be learned.

[Homicidalheathen]

No, I hate second guesses........they usually sqrew me up. I did what ever I did that got me here. So it was ment to be I guess.

[HipsterDufus]

No, I would not change my mistakes. Have any of you ever really tried to make a change in yourself? I don't mean this is in a demeaning sense. I'm always trying to change myself. Trying to be more social, trying to be more artistic, more motivated, etc. Even now, the changes I try to enact in myself are virtually impossible. If I were able to go back and change things, I sometimes wonder if I would even have the power to do so. I guess I can say that I believe in fate to an extent; the extent to which I am who I am and the decisions that I've made are merely an outgrowth of who I am. To change my decisions would mean that the base person who is me would have to change. I don't know if this makes any sense.

Also, I don't want my idea about fate to make me sound completely hopeless about my future (or anyone else's). Perhaps someday I will change and accomplish the different goals I have for my life, but it's almost like I'm at war with myself sometimes. It's like my soul is trying to tell myself, "Not yet. You will be able to change when I say so." Maybe it's just me.

[Hellion]

:devil Hell Yeah, I would avoid the assholes that fucked me over, and avoid working at some of the places where I got exposed to toxic chemicals.

[Shade Everdark]

There are some mistakes that I would desperately want to change. But I don't think I could, because, among other things, some of these mistakes led me to meeting all of you.

[Rayne]

That's my biggest conflict with this question is how it would change me, or my life as it is today ...

But I think I'd still do it. I don't think it would change much ... or anything drastic.

[phee]

I wish I woudn't have left that cap off that marker that one time.... it got all dried out and I couldn't use it anymore....

And there was that guy I killed in Maine...

[Brenda Starrr]

I just wanted to be sure that I said yes.

[pharoh]

Which is why I would never do it, take my Ex for an example, she fucked me over every way but loose, but on a positive note through her I have a great extended family, I actually have faith in something, and in the long run I have the club and you guys =)

So it's easy to see how one small thing can easily change your entire life. And I was just scratching the surface on that one small thing too.

[torn asunder]

i would say, hell no, because i'm here, and i'm alive, and i like who i am. think about it, if you change even one thing, it's quite possible you'd be dead now. (of course, you might be a millionaire, too, but i digress...)

in my opinion, you cannot make a mistake in life - you make decisions, and then you learn from the results of your actions. if you don't like the results, you remember that, and hopefully in the future, you take that into consideration. you create everything that happens to you in this life, and it happens because there are lessons you need to learn. once you learn them, you'll stop experiencing them - if you are still experiencing them, it's because you haven't learned your "lesson" yet. does this make any sense!? :fear

[Steven]

great question, very tempting.....but no.

I am who I am.

I've done what I've done.

I would not be the same today if I went back and changed things, there would be no lessons to learn, there would be no end result.

[Crazed Vampyress]

I would absolutely go back and change some things that just irk on my mind all these years later, but all the big stuff, the stuff i thought i wasnt going to be able to deal with, all that stuff i cant say i would have the mind to change because of it makes up who i am today, and i rather like me.