Troy Spiral

Its pretty easy to tell if someone is , or is not what your looking for, at least tentatively after a date or two, even if they initially gave a false impression. (yes some people can "fool" ya for much longer) The "online" aspect is just a tool. In terms of the cost, well, anything decent usually has a cost, payed by someone, unfortunately. Not saying im an expert. Just saying that i know people that have had good luck with them. But these guys were serious about it and signed up for the pay sites, contacted the girls, talked to them first, figured out what exactly they were looking for, the moved on from there. Me personally, im currently not boyfriend-worthy. Just speaking from an intellectual pursuit perspective at this point. :laughing

"Meeting on thoes yucky spammy online dating places" About 5-6 years ago my boss at Wayne County (then later at Ford) would preach the gospel of online dating to me, and i was pretty skeptical, then my friend chris started in on me... Im fairly convinced after years of seeing them go out with a never ending string of friendly women. My ex boss was going out litterally 3-4 nights a week via the women he met from the various online dating things hes on. All these women were in the 60k+ , workaholic professioal types, which is what he was looking for. Maybe he just screams "sugar daddy" online, but as far as i know it was pretty easy for him. There was no "spam" problems, not on the pay sites he and my friend chis used. His current fiance' is one he met from Lavalife (although he started out on there just dating everything that moved, kind of suprizing that hes "settling down"). My friend chris met his current wife on one of the various dating sites. (after the afore mentioned boss talked him into the gospel of online dating) You can find out right away what they are looking for and if that meets up with what your looking for, in a way that is virtually impossible due to time constraints in "real life" , on the scale that it can be done online. If they take the trouble to sign up for a dating service, pay for it, and list off what they are looking for, you can assume they are fairly serious and not just screwing around or being flirty for the sake of being flirty. Now ask me if i ever answered an online personal ad... no i havent. hah

Oops nope hes there, just didnt see him for a sec. :grin The one we are missing is the two smileys with the beer mugs clinking together. Havent had a chance to hunt that down (and its not in my usual spots) yet.

Odd i thought i added that lickey one ... hrmm will have to poke around, must have misesed him somehow.

First off dont worry about the "scene" at all. Many people on this board, and at the clubs, an everywhere else besides have no real idea about any of the inner workings of "the scene". So dont sweat that one at all. You can meet people, anywhere there are people. Before the car accident i used to "meet people" just walking into the drug store or the local 7/11 but i have (make that had) a fairly "hi there!" type personality. I met one of my GFs at a gas station. "Hi nice car!...." "....Dont think im a nut or anything but , do you like chinese food?" was what i said. hah. Ok assuming you cant yet do that... (leme work on you for a few months once i start feeling better that will change)...City Club , within the context of you being on DGN, is pretty easy. You'll already know some of us in a sense, and we can introduce you to others pretty much instantly, then from there networking is fairly easy once you have a "base of friendly faces" to start from. If you just cant deal with clubbing, online dating, despite its "geeky" stereotype seems to work well. I know many working-professional types as well as random young teenage types that have had good luck with them. Unfortunatly no matter what ya do its going to be at least mildly uncomfortable at first. Just gotta tuff it out a bit. =)

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We are now over 5 gig of data transfer per month, as well as other back-end features getting heavier use, and as such our hosting costs will go up a bit , from $10 dollars a month to $20. Note: The total cost to run DGN is higher than $20 a month. This is just the "hosting" portion. See the below link for various costs breakdown and donations. Donation & Costs info: http://www.detroitgothic.net/index.php?act...&st=0#entry2604 This is good in general, as we want more traffic and more eyeballs on the site. Tradtionally the more traffic, the easier it is to meet hosting costs as the cost "per user" gets cheaper as traffic increases, yet the number of dontations per user tends to stay the same.

Its the same plan, all day every day, just a ton of work. "Hi >blah blah blahslaps DGN card in persons hand Also emailing friends that you know via online means with the same question works good. Getting us listed on any and all gothy related websites is helpful too. I appreciate the offer and the help, very kind.

Hi nice to see ya on the board. You can use money orders with paypal via the system above. =) Probably will be difficult to try and meet you at luna due to various health/ transporation issues.

Howdy sir. Thanks for the compliments, hopefully we can suck you into posting more often. =) Going to CC again soon? (notes the link to the DGN night link in the thread above >nudge nudge And YAY@MsMaldoror for telling ya bout us. Welcome to the place sir.

the dancing guy is my favorite. These two:

Oh, no i do remember and its appreciated, big time. Thats the absolute hardest thing to get help with. I remember talking to you quite a bit also. I was just making a statement about the value of promotion help. (its a never ending job, and hard to get help with, as such i "value" help with promotion it very highly) was my only point. =)

Added some emoticons. Well not "new" but , returned from the old DGN. and a bunch of others.

havent seen that many of them, but theres one were the kids are playing at being ninjas that i remember as being pretty funny. I do watch a lot of movies / TV , just havnt seen that many SP episodes. I do have all the Aqua Teen Hunger Force DVDs that are avaialble though hah. What was the last bad dream you had about?

>waves hello=)

Mrs. Thompson Her name was Mrs. Thompson. As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs.Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers. At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around." His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle." His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken." Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class." By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs.Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets." A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honours. He assured Mrs.Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he'd ever had in his whole life. Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD. The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference". Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you." Please remember that wherever you go, and whatever you do, you will have the opportunity to touch and/or change a person's outlook. Please try to do it in a positive way. Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Quoted from here: http://www.innertalk.com/Quote_MrsThompson.html

Good question. Trying to rely on my memory at CC is probably to be avoided. Im a bit fearful of trying to remember who gave me how much in a situation were theres probably a 80% probablity that i'll be at least mildly intoxicated . If you dont have (or just dont want to use) a credit card / paypal / other method as listed above (that donation system will take just about anything other than cash) as its paypal, and paypal will take everything (if you dont have a paypal account they are free to setup). What we need help with the most is getting new folks on the board anyhow. A couple of solid, new long-term posters are worth their weight in gold. Help me get a few friendly, new active people on DGN , thats the best "donation" we could get anyhow. =)

my transportation situation has become a bit foggy in the last 24 hours. not sure if im going to be able to make it tonight or not. Still somewhat likely but not certian.

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hi tabby read this here: =) http://www.detroitgothic.net/index.php?showtopic=1947

:tear hope i finally get to at least meet you, all this time and i still dont think we've ever met at CC have we?

>sends Senay some cough medicine=) Hope to meet u

Keep postin or i'll spank ya both!

Clothing wise i think the only thing they dont wana see is spikes, and even then i've seen some allowed in with them. Occasionally occasionaly you'll see a full-scale leather-bondage outfits with chains and leather straps connected by metal O rings and such and they get in just fine.

good =)