I never heard of any such thing as a 'dominant lolita'...wait, while I giggle a minute
.....I don't think there is a 'code' for the lolas...if TheOsakaKoneko (TKO) is any litmus, a lola' can be expected to be as diverse as any other friek-culture.
...so, I guess, there HAS to me SOME 'dominant-lolitas'...
(I only laugh at the thought of a lil' lola' trying to drag me to the ground.)