Ok.......whew.....wipes sweat away.....tries to pull away the smoke.
Here it is. YES I'M STAND OFF-ISH.
Personal experience:
I am brutefully honest with everyone, all the time. I consider it a gift. When I know I want to be in a relationship, I am straight to the point from the get go. I fairly advertise my OLD FASHIONED views and what I will not stand for. And yes, it has crumbled opportunities with some, but, again...thats another gift. Saved me time and pain.
BUT....I have had so many ex's SOOOOOO MAAAANY. (I've been around)that have sworn to me very convincingly that "You have nothing to worry about".
What happened :
Found e-mails
Found phone numbers with obvious signs that they weren't for work or innocent usage
Caught lies
Had to deal with immense amounts of othe women's pictures being stored on hard drives/e-mails/so on
Found them at clubs and bars with other chicks when they said they were staying home
Um.....hey, you name it, I've experienced it.
That is why I am so rigid now.
And you know what, saddly.....it has its destructive times in my current relationship. My TRUST is paper thin (its more like "Please don't hurt me when I leave your presence)
It kills me.
Stand off attitudes come from a long line of bad experiences and the ability to sniff out whats coming around the corner.
And today's "society" is so built up on the "perfect" mate, that those of us who are not pornagraphicly superb, suffer from it.
Thats just the way it is.
example : Was told that I was extremely intelligent and had a great personality....look good when dressed up and so on......same people who said this, played.
And OH_MY_GOTH.....dude, you are more patient than I. The one I'm with danced with another chic at CC one night without me there and I flipped. FLIPPED.
Sometimes I wish I was more relaxed, but when you give an inch.....you know the rest.