Yes, I have heard of these terms as of recently. I personally don't do labels, stereotypes, or stigma. We, as human beings are far too complex to be placed into one specific category, for example, I am a parent, so does that mean that I only do "mommy stuff"? Of course not. I don't think a person has to stick to one genre of music, or one style of clothing, it's all about individuality, in my opinion. There are many dimensions that make a person whole, music and clothing style are a just a piece of that. I can certainly empathize with what you are saying, though.
and I know it sounds like I may be classifying myself based on my commentary under the song, when I called myself "emo", but I am referring to being an emotional person, which is what emo is short for.