As I've gotten older I've become more focused on personality than looks, and generally less judgmental. I can lower my standards, to a degree. This hasn't done much yet, but at least given me more opportunities to be social rather than create walls. Introversion and silence tend to create walls for me, and not totally to my disdain, since the brunt of the negativity is not from my perception.
I still get shy around women in person I'm attracted to and don't know, usually if there are a lot of other people around; like its stirring up old anxiety attacks. Between years of studying and practicing mysticism and writing, I've become excessively introverted/silent.
I think you can have a female that's not high on the general scale and her ego hits the ceiling, which I came into contact with somewhat recently.. and vice versa to a lesser extent, with someone very attractive and not obsessed with or knowledgeable of it, which I tend to think would be more likely to happen with someone less Western-minded.