Anna Phylaxis

It’s really wild. I didn’t think I was going to find anything when I started lurking here. And I spent a good several weeks lurking before I finally joined. And as I sat there and watched, a.k.a. lurked, I saw people they were like me. People that didn’t fit in any particular place, except for this one. And I gave it a lot of thought. I wasn’t into forums or that sort of thing, but it was the people that drew me in and made me join. Really, nobody “made” me join. But you know what I’m saying. And as I assimilated myself into this community, I became a moderator, then a Sr mod. I do miss those days. Not because of some dumb feeling of power or anything like that, but because I felt like I was being looked up to and relied upon, and that meant the world to me. I never in a million years expected to fall in love with an entire community, fall in love with a whole-ass man from Detroit, and come here to marry him and live, nor did I expect my life to become exponentially better because of it. People talk a lot of shit about Detroit. And it’s OK that they don’t know how truly awesome it is. That’s for us.

It’s crazy, isn’t it? As goths, we’re not supposed to care about what’s popular. To be honest, I’m not a true goth. I feel like I fit in for the simple fact that I’m a misfit of my own kind. I can’t get over how crazy things used to be. Will they get like that again? Who knows? But it’s nice to be back. I’ve actually encouraged both of my daughters to join. They’re both goth babies and it remains to be seen as to whether or not, they come on here. Both are heavy duty in the fashion and make up, and would probably liven up that particular forum. It’s really weird, because I didn’t anticipate any of this happening. At all. But I’d hate to see some thing that was so important to how my life has turned out to be so quiet and lifeless. DGN was a massive part of my life. And even though I haven’t been on the boards that much in the last 10 years, it’s really safe to say that I still view it as an important part of my life because I just wouldn’t be here without it.

“What is with the sudden explosion of activity on here it was just me and 2 or 3 other people posting now we have a lot” Yep. We are the OGs and we have returned. Scary, I know. But back in our day, this place was jumping! It was a wild time, and because of DGN, I now live in the Metro Detroit area. I came from the East Coast, over 16 years ago. But I fell in love with this community and the people in it, closer to 20 years ago. 2004, to be exact. I went under a different name, Brenda Starrr. If it weren’t for this board’s existence, I would probably not be here today. I would never have made the friends that I have made, fell in love with the man who is now my husband, and moved here. this board hasn’t just changed my life, but the lives of my now adult children. And it feels like home.

GRANDPA!!

Yeah, come to think of it, I don’t think I can either

Pretty much just glowing right now because I just found out that I got my second legendary phone call, since February. It’s a big deal to me because I have PTSD from my first marriage. He had a drug problem and his dealers would randomly and regularly call my house at all hours of the day or night, threatening harm to me and my kids, if he didn’t pay. You would think that shit you only see in the movies, but I can assure you that you would be wrong. so today is a massive win for me

Is not wrong

Let me know if there’s anything that I can do to possibly help.

Sees that I am not dead yet

Oh my goth, you guys! Just how did I end up here? kind of feels like home

From the top: Boaz, 11-year-old sphinx rescue. We have had him for over three years, now. He has terrible anxiety, which is great, because me too. He sticks to me like glue. In the summertime, when he gets off of my bare legs, you can hear that weird suction sound. It’s hilarious! Second: Skyndi Laupurr. I got her from a breeder. Her nickname is Tiny Satan. There are so many reasons why 😂 last, but not least is the late, great idea. He was the other rescue. Both Iggy and Boaz came from a particularly rough situation and it just so happened that Jeff and I were the lucky ones to get them. Iggy made it to 20 years of age. He passed away last July, and it broke our hearts. But it wasn’t fair to keep him alive. I will tell you that up to the night before he had to be euthanized, he was fighting us for chicken. But after that, we could tell that he was done. That was his last hurrah before we had to call our home vet and have her come over the following day. it was the worst. But I’m really lucky to have had him for just under three of his 20 years. I wish I could’ve had him for longer. if anybody ever hears of any sphinx cats in need of rescue, please send them to me. They are such amazing creatures. A little harder to keep up with because they don’t have fur to absorb all the dirt and oils they come in contact with their body. but they are absolutely fucking amazing and I want more.

Getting ready to try and go to sleep. I have to go into the office tomorrow. We are required to be there two days a week and tomorrow would be my second day. At least I love my coworkers. They’re pretty cool. But this going to bed early shit is annoying. It makes me feel ancient.😂 i’m only 57, for crying out loud

Is fooled by my ridiculous charade. Muah ha haaaaaaa…

Me too! Back home at Ozzfest. It was the mid 2000s. They were amazing! And, they were walking around the crowd before and after their set. I didn’t stop them because I’m just not one of those people. But they were absolutely phenomenal.

Hell, no!

I don’t know. Part of me thinks that it’s easier to watch them hurt when they are alive because they are still there. You can hug them and touch them and let them know that you care and all of that goodness. When they’re gone, you no longer have control. You can’t tell them. They can’t physically be in front of you and hear you saying these words. They’re not physically in front of you so that you can hug them and feel that warmth. Honestly, it’s difficult and it’s terrifying and it’s so fucking final. I just don’t think I ever expected this to happen. And while he and I hadn’t spoken in about 10 years, this community is what brought me here. This community that he created, for whatever reason he chose to do it, and those reasons are only known to him. But if it wasn’t for DGN, I wouldn’t be here. My life wouldn’t be as amazing as it actually is. I would never have met my husband, nor would I have had this many friends upon arriving here, over 16 years ago. I can’t believe it’s been over 16 years since I moved here with my kids. But I understand what you’re saying, and what you’re feeling. I have been there a few times. And it doesn’t get any easier. It just gets different.

I don’t really have any semi formal goth attire. I’ll be in some sort of a dress, I just can’t say what. Will it be tartan plaid? Will it be something black? No one will know till next Friday. maybe I should see what my daughter’s got in her closet because she’s office goth however, I’m sure that whatever you wear will be awesome. You have a body, you have attire. Do your thing.🖤

OK, spooky kids. I appreciate your patience with me, as I’m re-learning to navigate everything in here, and doing it from my phone. This is a real hoot, let me tell you what. But here we go: Here is the Facebook link for the pop-up goth club night at Downstairs at Joy Manor. It starts at 9 PM, the cover is five dollars, it is a cash bar. DJ Scary Guy will be providing the tunes we all crave. 28999 Joy Rd. Westland, 48185 Proceeds from the door are going directly to Troy’s mother. https://facebook.com/events/s/pop-up-goth-club-troy-spiral-m/1664211470693602/ let me know if there’s anything more that I need to add or any place else you would like me to put this. I swear I’ll get the hang of this again. 😂

I’m still getting the hang of being here again. So, let me do that lol. Or at least attempt to. We’ll see how it goes.

I posted the event underneath your post in the Other Stuff forum ☺️

Hey All, I’m not sure if anybody’s got me blocked, but here is the link for the pop-up goth club night at Downstairs at Joy Manor. It starts at 9 PM, the cover is five dollars, it is a cash bar. DJ Scary Guy will be providing the tunes we all crave. 28999 Joy Rd. Westland, 48185 Proceeds from the door are going directly to Troy’s mother. https://facebook.com/events/s/pop-up-goth-club-troy-spiral-m/1664211470693602/

Has done a very good job in keeping this forum afloat

Is much too kind 🖤