The Detroit "goth" scene is nothing more than EBM kids(ravers in black really hence the term "gravers" you may hear around),emos in fishnets, black/death metal kids, and Marylin Manson/NIN fans all fooling themselves into believing they are "goths". And from what I understand, Detroit is just one of many cities to have a clueless "goth" scene. I'm sure you could ask 99% of City Clubbers about Antiworld,1919,Sex Gang Children, or March Violets and you're going to get blank stares. Hell, do any of the Detroit "goths" even remember Detroit's own Gargoyle Sox? Are there any who know the spook rock sounds of 3-D Invisibles(another legendary Detroit outfit)?
Back in the days of Down Where We Belong @ The Labyrinth you would see where the real goths(deathrockers) would gather. DJs Adam Cadaver and The Brain knew their stuff. You could hear actual goth/deathrock being played down there while upstairs at CC the kids danced in happy oblivion to the industrial/ebm/techno music being played up there. Very indicative of the City Club scene.
As for deathrock.com - they actually know what's what(hell, on this board very little is mentioned in regards to actual goth/deathrock;Detroit Industrial or Detroit EBM would be a more apt name). If the kids don't wanna learn from them then they can always look up the term deathrock online or read about the Drop Dead Festivals.
Simply, look into the real deal before you try to get away with calling yourself "goth". If you're into techno,ebm,industrial that's fine but it ain't goth and neither are a lot of you folks.