the more i think about it, single is the way to be - i've got way too much shit that i want to do, and most women i've ever met have been the type who need constant companionship/attention, which is fine, but not my style. know how hard it is to find someone who has their shit together, with a career/their own life, with whom you share a mutual physical attraction, and who agrees/is fine with seeing each other once/twice a week, at most? or if more often, shares your hobbies/priorities enough that the time you do spend together is constructive, and works with your mutual goals?
i did some calculations once, regarding the chances of finding someone that you'd like, letting alone the thought that they might like you back... kalamazoo (my town) has a population of 72,700 as of 2006 with an estimated annual population decline of approx. 6%, which would put 2008-2009 at roughly 68,340) only 28% of all people living in kalamazoo are single, without children (important to me), which brings the number down to 19,135. of that number, only 20% are between 20-40yrs old. that means only 3,827 women in that age bracket. now, just because they're "single" doesn't mean they aren't "taken", just not married, so let's say, for the sake of argument, 50% of them are taken. that brings the number down to 1913...
now those are only the basics - if one starts taking into account physical attributes (let's say 50% aren't attractive to you) and then add in interests, hobbies, health/exercise styles/interests, etc, (let's use 50% again for each of those, just for the discussion) that takes the number down to 239.
that's 239 women in a town of almost 70,000 who *might* be compatible. of course, at this point, you have to take into account what she's looking for - are your interests, hobbies, exercise/health habits compatible with hers? again using 50% that takes the number down to about 30. at this point, you have to factor in whether she'd even be attracted to you - giving the benefit of the doubt that people are fairly open-minded, again i'll use 50%. that's 15 women in a town of almost 70,000 - in other words, .00021949% of kalamazoo's population.
now, (and i can't even hazard a guess on how to calculate this) what are the chances that one of those 15 women will end up in the same place as you? google shows a list of 604 bars/restaurants in town, and 7 days in a week.(no, google didn't show that - i knew that one all by myself!!) that means you have a 15/604 chance of being in the same place as one of them, and a 1/7 chance of being there on the same night. i also think it's a safe bet that 50% of them will be out on a date, since they're single.
so let's see... on any one particular night, a guy has a 1 in 563.733 chance of actually meeting a compatible woman....
and don't even get me started on whether you two will even get along!!
to not be so constantly fucking angry as i've been for the last 3-4 days...