this is what i took to be the main premise of this thread, and it feels like maybe it was missed a bit. i know a lot of people who are really great, but nobody finds out because it's hard for them to start conversations. this is my issue as well - i'm fine once i'm in a convo, but where to/how to start one is difficult.
question - with body language, what's the difference between confident and cocky? or for that matter, confident and aloof/standoffish, or distant, or uninterested, etc.?
my advice for women is to not assume the subtle hints you're dropping, either verbally or through body language, are being perceived. many guys are dumb as a bag of hammers when it comes to reading these things, so be obvious if you're into someone. you may think you're being ridiculously transparent, but most guys won't see it unless you actually *are*. (or is that just me!?)