Explaination

[JaneDead]

i got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one

[fallennon]

lmao

[Lilith]

fall i think it is great that you found a place where you feel comfy to unload, i personally think it is healthy to type/talk through you issues and gather diffrent points of view.

I personally think this is probally one of the most responsible ways to deal with the crap of daily life, and if it helps keep you sane to raise you baby then please be "crazy" with us. We are adults and should be able to handle it, and identify with you on some level. And those who can not indentify, have been truly blessed to lead such a trouble free life.

[Hermine]

Once again, Lestat and Lilith beat me to what I was going to say. Damn them for thinking so much like me (come to think of it, according to most major world religions, they would be damned for thinking like me, but then even if they have picked on, the rest think they're damned anyway, so whatever you do, your odds aren't great. Wow, what a tangent, guess I'm not totally recovered from this bug, huh? Well, maybe it'll make Fallenon smile.)

Where was I?

Anyway, there is no such thing as an evil feeling. What you feel, you feel and you have a right to feel anything. So don't worry nothing you feel can or will be used against you.

It's what you do about your feelings that matters. And the fact that you deal with it by writing about it, which is one of the best possible ways to deal with it, probably in the top three best stress relief methods out there, along with finding a supportive peer group, says to me that you are a sane, sensible person who is very solid and is handling a difficult situation with a great deal of grace. It speaks well of you, not badly.

As for whether anything would indicate anything bad of your mothering skills, even if I didn't know that written venting was healthy, I read nothing like that at all. I don't know you personally, and I haven't been here long, but what I'm reading is the words of a devoted mother who is sad over her breakup with her child's father, but who is bearing up admirably.

I saw things that would speak badly of your relationship choices, if you acted on them, or if I were the sort of idiot who would judge somebody for having the "wrong" feelings, but you don't act on them.

You write about them, you acknowledge the feelings, and you don't act on them when it wouldn't help. Which is exactly the right way to handle it. We all have those feelings, but some of us act on them and some don't. That's what makes the difference. The fact that you acknowledge them; that's healthier than not doing so. So another set of rants that show in your favor.

So I do judge you. I judge you a very solid person, a good mother, and someone who is handling with grace and aplomb something that I don't know I could handle at all. Your sentence is to be liked and admired.

*goodshow emoticon goes here*

[honeymustard02]

You're not a bad mom, and no one here thinks that. And if they do they need to go drop dead in a ditch.

You're a single mom who is at a cross road in her life. It's hard but you have a lot of friends here to help you through it.

Have you bad moments, at least you make a point to do them away from your child.

Cheer up :