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I don't have children myself. However, it would seem to me that it's partially the parents fault and partially the child's fault, if we want to lay blame at someone's doorstep. When you talk to people online, you rather have to take it at face value but yet with a grain of salt. I don't know how many times I've talked to people online, sometimes literally for *years*, and then come to find out that they are not quite who they say they are.

It might be a thrill for this 14 year old to "get others worked up" with her online persona, but kids don't realise what a dangerous game they could be playing in doing this. Also, the article is correct. Parents need to be more involved in their children's lives and know what's going on even if it does feel silly or strange. If a parent doesn't know what nifoc is, then it's their responsibility to find out rather than to just automatically assume that it's an innocent acronym.

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  Parents need to be more involved in their children's lives and know what's going on even if it does feel silly or strange.  If a parent doesn't know what nifoc is, then it's their responsibility to find out rather than to just automatically assume that it's an innocent acronym.

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thats why i posted this just so the parnets here had a resource they could use

i take in all this info and keep it for use latter when my kids are older

i am also a curios person, if i dont know i ask, even if it is silly and perhaps even teatering on nosy but i rather know the truth.

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this isn't exactly the same thing but it reminded me of someone we used to have on dgn. someone claiming to be this attractive young girl. and then her dad also showed up. turns out he was both of them. it was weird. i know that goes on often, but i had never encountered that before. i'm sure other dgn'ers were just as shocked and disturbed as i was by that.

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the "people" i mentioned i believe were from seattle.

the "girl" even posted pics of a really pretty brown haired girl. almost looked like model shots. claimed to be pretty young- like 16 or 17 i believe. the "man" claimed to be the protective proud poppa type.

then some people came on dgn and told exactly who he was and that "she" was not. and went on to talk about how hurt they had actually been by this guy- leading them all on with the "girl" and with various other false stories. some i believe involving someone (maybe his "wife")dying or another similarly devastating situation. (i didn't pay much attention to all that- once i knew for sure what that guy was up to i didn't want to have any involvment in that what-so-ever.)

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People need to learn the acronyms anyhow as they're widely used in SMS text messages. Either that or the language will just degrade into everyone saying lol rotflmao.

As far as not understanding it, it's the same thing as when ebonics surficed in the 80's. The language has changed so much in recent years. I call my dad a n00b and just laugh at him when he does stupid computer stuff and he tried calling me that back and I had to inform him that once again I know more about computers than he could ever hope to. I think my grandma knows more than him thanks to me.

Also people should take active interest into what their kids are doing anyhow.

BTW I'm ultra paranoid so I don't assume the sex of anyone, or that anyone is who they say they are. Unless I get some real info or a phone/webcam conversation it could be the pope for all I know.

Poeple assume things like sex unless it's obvious that the name is cutesy. Age is irrelevant as I've met 12 year olds with more maturity than people twice their age (which gives me some hope for the future). Natonality is fairly easy, if it's broken english they're forign or just can't spell wort a crap.

Hell you give most people an advanced AI bot like alice bot with a good vocabulatry and they can't even tell they're talking to a bot. I run a server on Gleek's IRC network which is fairly nice, but all you have to go by is text unless you know the person with the nick. Even then unless it's regestered someone else can use it (though you can usually tell by the server info).

I'm going to stop being all geeky now.

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I dont know that its a generational thing, just more of a "have" vs the "have nots". My friend don would be totally clueless about any acronyms you commonly see on the internet , and hes a year yonger than me. While , my neighbor Sue who is 10 years older than me would understand them clearly.

As for the fake personality thing... gahh.. yeah , basicly , Welcome To The Internet. :doh: Fairly common. Similar to scary guy i generally am suspcious of just about anything i hear online about somones IRL persona, until they've been around for a long long time or i meet them IRL.

Im actually a 15 year old girl and listen to Britney and NSYNC 24/7.

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My daughter is 12. Bishop set up her yahoo messanger so that she can only talk to those she adds to her list.

We also have remote access so we can peek in without her knowing to see what she is up to on line.

She's also not allowed to sign up for anything with out asking us first.

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Kids these days get waaaay too into making acronyms for every possible phrase. I've talked on the internet for years, yet apparently I'm way behind on recognizing some of these.

It's fairly alarming how much spelling and grammer have gegraded in the last 5 years.

Still, I find it pretty entertaining to say the letters of things like "omg wtf??" in real life with my brother. So out of place when you're not typing that it's funny.

.....or maybe sad and nerdy.

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Lilith Newbie

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She's 12, she doesn't have any privacy issues.

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yeah i have to agree in a "Keep you safe" way kids dont have any privacy issues, i would rather ruin yer privacy at a young age then have you raped and half dead cause of some crack pot on the net.... I still make special trips to the store just so i can drive past the playground to check on my 9 yr old even though i have a high amount of trust for him, something i will probally do untill he is atleast 18..... i will just have to become sneakier as he gets older. also withthe courts making parent to jail time for things there kids do i dont see any reason why i have to make sure they have privacy, if i can get in trouble for your worngs then i have 100% right to be nosey.

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As arbitrary and wrong/not wrong as it might sound, my parents rules were *extremely* simple:

MY house, MY rules. YOU don't like it? YOU can leave.

That's the way it was and the way it shall ever be. Privacy? No such thing in my parents household even after reaching adulthood. Keeping a diary? Too bad. Trying to get a homework assignment because you missed school? Tough; 5-10 minute limit on the phone, regardless of what the discussion is about. You're best friend is *gasp* Catholic? You better be careful because they don't believe the same things we do!

Yeah, I know. It sounds so very backwoods and hick-ish and it is because my people ARE hicks. Close minded hicks. But not one of their children did drugs (or if we tried it, it never became an addiction), none of their kids are alcoholics (although I was for many years; finally beat it, though), none of their children had teenage pregnancies . . . . . none of the stuff that parents have fears about. Why? Iron fist rule. "This is NOT a democracy" was pretty much their motto.

Don't get me wrong, please. I'm in no way advocating that anyone should be nearly as strict as my parents were. Gawth only knows that I chafed against their tight reign more than one time. But there is something to be said, I believe, in running a home with rules designed with the child's best interest in mind.

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See I'd be a bad parent, I believe in Dawanisim's rule of "survival of the fittest". It's up to them to make their own choices, I'd just help them to develop the way they want to giving them all the information they need both good and bad. If they get killed then so be it.

All I know is I was and still am protected and codled and it fucking sucks. I wasn't allowed to develop and explore and I'm emotionally stunted for it. It wasn't until I was 17 did I start to learn a few things about life and how things work. Simple things like taking public transportation are a challange for me.

I equate it to setting a house pet loose into the wild to be eaten shortly by other bigger stronger animals who are native to it.

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that articel reminded me of the days we all had pagers and would say things to each other with numbers.......

yes very helpfull, as a parent i had forgotten that trick i used as a kid and i can see how it works when applied to other devices kids use now

Uh, we didn't have pagers when I was a kid! *feels supa old!*

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