Valentine's Day Blows

[gothicmom]

We bought a small a small box of Russell Stovers for the kids and I picked up a small heart shaped box of candy with Recee cups in it. A card too.

I really don't care if I get any thing. I have always been like that. I think because Daniel/Bishop and I usually didn't have any $$$ to spend on stuff like that. Usually I would tell him to take me to dinner and I"ll be happy.

My highschool boyfriend didn't have a lot of $$$$ He came from a very large family. He always got me something, but I don't expect things like some girls/women.

Women who expect things kind of sicken me.

[fallennon]

Hey, I just wanted some company. Not asking too much I thought but oh well....

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Why don't they celebrate what it's really about???? How do you get hearts and love out of a massacre????

Massacre? As far as i understood valentines day is conglomeration of various christian and roman/Greek myths all centering around "St. Valentine" who , depending on the story, does one of many different romantic deeds of one form or another. The idea being of someone "being your valentine" in that , they do something romantic , or agree to be your "sweetheart" ala St. Valentine.

Hey, I just wanted some company. Not asking too much I thought but oh well....

You were asking for company? >stares really really hard at previous posts

[Lilith]

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?arti...544658&GT1=6164

ok there are some tips in here that might make you think of free or cheaper things that might mean more to you any how........enjoy!!!!

[DarkChylde]

Well, the only person who's keeping me company on V-day is rosie palmer :whistling:

[JaneDead]

i don't care if i get anything or not. i don't expect it and never have. i don't even care if we spend the day together or not.

i have had 3 good valentine's days that i can really remember. one with my ex- it was a big deal to me cuz he went out of his way for the whole day and we ended the night by spending it with his friend (who didn't have a girlfriend and was home alone) who's b-day is that day playing euchre or something. i thought it was very cool of him to want to spend the night hanging out with his lonely friend.

another was with my friend (who is actually my husband's brother). we went to dinner (a movie too i think??)he got me a gift certificate and bought my son a present. it was all a huge surprise so it was very thoughtful and i appreciated it very much. the rest of that night was spent with my sister's drooling over him. (they were young then and were in love with him-- a little annoying but still cute.)

the year i was pregnant with my first daughter- my husband brought home carry out from one of my favorite places, a card, flowers and a foot spa thing since my feet were so sore and swollen while p.g. all that was totally unexpected and i loved it! i'd rather have it like all of those situations than anything planned out/expected anyways.

but yeah i have a feeling we won't even be hanging out tomorrow night anyways. i will probably be with my friend working out.

[Nienna]

I'm with you Darkchilde... me, my cat, my apartment... woot. Please shoot me now.

[Jarodaka]

I agree, I thought that Hallmark invented Sweetest Day or something...

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

No, some dude did in Cleveland made it up during the Great Depression.

For those feeling bitter.

A reason for men to do at least something on VD for their sweetie.

[Brenda Starrr]

I'm going to spread my love by going to the gym and beating up a punching bag.

[Marblez]

The day doesn't mean too much to me, I actually don't like flowers much and chocolates are overrated too.

Nonetheless, I am a romantic. I wish I had a Valentine. Oh well, there is alway next year.

[Lilith]

HAPPY V DAY

ok i know we all hate it but it would not be me if i did not wish everyone a happy day...........

[DarkChylde]

I'm with you Darkchilde... me, my cat, my apartment... woot. Please shoot me now.

Well, we could always be used for lustful pleasures

[Brenda Starrr]

Wayne had gotten me chocolates while he was in Philly. I drove up there on Thursday to pick him up, as he had the flu. He realized on Saturday that he left the chocolates up there.

I really love chocolate......... :unhappy:

[Head Wreck]

VD sucks.

not even a sarcastic card this year... which i probably should be greatful for.

i hads to work, so couldnt drink myself unconcious

[fallennon]

I spent the day at school and I'm about to spend the night lying here with my kid watching Sex and the City reruns on On Demand...how pathetic.

[Fierce Critter]

At the risk of incurring the wrath of the V-Day haters...

Jon made me a wooden puzzle heart with a poem on it. He couldn't wait to give it to me, so I got it yesterday. Made me cry.

Today, I sent him a V-Day e-card, which had a cat beating the crap out of a heart. He loved it. (www.perfectgreetings.com if you want to check it out).

He came home with the ingredients to make a blackberry cheesecake instead of flowers or chocolates - and let me tell you, he makes a freakin' GOOD CHEESECAKE. So I'm very appreciative.

He also got me a little "I love you" balloon that he found at the Food Lion. Some might think that's really cruddy - but for me, it's one of the sweetest freakin' things he could have done. He got me a cute, useless piece of plastic that didn't cost him one red cent, and that's the kind of cute, useless plastic I love the most. :grin:

[fallennon]

that story made me warm and fuzzy Critter...thanks.

[Fierce Critter]

You're welcome!

It got even better. He surprised me with homemade cream puffs with blackberries & cream filling. YUM!

I'll be honest - before I met Jon, I couldn't stand Valentine's Day either. Even as a child, I was somewhat antisocial, and not "popular" enough to warrant Valentines unless the entire class was instructed to have one for EVERY student in the class.

For the lonely, a day devoted to love & loving relationships is just plain torture. I remember that sting VERY well, even after my 6th year with someone to make it mean something for me.

[The_Dark]

I made gorf a romantic dinner last night. Top Sirloin steak, fresh mushrooms and sweet onions, fried summer squash, garlic tortalini with basil pesto sauce and a bottle of wine and for dessert.. cubed mango. Served by candle light... it was very cool.

[Brenda Starrr]

TD & FC...

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

[Lilith]

although i did not have a very romantic VDay i did have a good one. I spent the day dealing with kids and i had to move a mountian of bricks ( which i will be doing again today), Brian and i went shopping for laundry stuff, in the evening Brian cooked dinenr nothing more or less then we usually have,

the best part.... i had 2 female freinds and one male friend over in addition to my little family... it was nice i enjoyed my self we laughed and well soem where in the middle of it all i realized all these peps were spending VD with out there mates ( for one reson or another) and they choose to spend it with us. IT made me feel special and important and i was glad to spend the day with them.

Brian did get me a pair of fuzzy socks I LUV EM THEY R SOOOOO COOOOZZZZYYY (white and they have aptch on them that says BAD KITTY and dragon fly barrets for my hair........ I got him a zebra print candle.... we picked them out while we were shopping for laundry stuff at the dollar store......

not ormatic but great none the less....

[fallennon]

Glad to hear that you all had a nice one even though it blows...

[JaneDead]

nothing special here.

i ordered applebees and picked it up. that was it. i was not disappointed at first, but then i was later on that i didn't get a card or anything. or a special dinner brought to me instead of me having to go get it.

my husband just doesn't care about v.d. even though i do. i don't make a big deal about it but i do feel a bit disappointed when nothing happens on that day at all. he did go out and look at mini vans so i guess that was my "special" thing.

[gothicmom]

my husband just doesn't care about v.d. even though i do. i don't make a big deal about it but i do feel a bit disappointed when nothing happens on that day at all. he did go out and look at mini vans so i guess that was my "special" thing.

Sounds awful familliar. He's changing though.

Daniel/Bishop was sick again. I had bought him some chocolates and a card last week. I gave it to him in the morning hoping to cheer him up. He told me later that night that he felt like crap because he couldn't get me anything. I told him I didn't care and that I didn't expect him to get me anything, he said it didn't matter he still felt bad.

I made some Red Velvet cupcakes and a pasta dinner.

[Fierce Critter]

Dark - that is SO cool. Gorf is very lucky. :smile:

For others, here's some tips, that may be worth something, or may not be worth the webspace they're taking up.

For the single people - male and female: One year, when I was single, I made Valentine's Day special by devoting it to others, instead of expecting things for myself. I bought each member of my family some small gift to let them know I loved them. I got my mother a heart-shaped crystal suncatcher, wrapped it in pink tissue and enclosed it in a big, clear plastic heart box. One sister got a cute stuffed animal. My dad got peanut brittle. Now, my family tends to receive gifts with a sort of, "what the heck is this for?" ingratitude that can be maddening. But I didn't care - it made me feel good.

For the ladies who don't get anything - anything at ALL - from the men they have in their lives: Does he REALLY know that you'd like SOMEthing? ANYTHING? It's a cliche that guy's can't read our minds, but THEY CAN'T! Sure, it seems a VERY easy "given" that if you're a guy and you have a special lady, you should get her something special for V-Day. Even if it's a flower you picked out of your own garden. But just as there are women out there who don't give the day a 2nd thought, MANY MANY men just don't "get" that it would be NICE for them to do something. You have to pick a day & time, sit down and discuss such matters. Sometimes you have to include other days in the discussion, like your anniversary, etc. Be matter-of-fact and unemotional, and things should go smoothly.

Because of our frequently tight financial circumstances, my husband and I have had to have kinda unemotional, matter-of-fact discussions about this sort of thing. We've come to compromises - yes, it'd be nice if I could get a bunch of store-bought roses and a huge heart-shaped-box of chocolates for V-Day. But if he can put more thought into a handwritten note (even on medical advertising notepads and a vase full of daffodils plucked from the front of our own home, I'd rather he saved the $$ for a dinner to free me from working on my birthday which comes only 2 weeks later. Etc.

Our V-Day celebration cost $10.00. That's what Jon spent on the ingredients for the cream puffs & cheesecake, and a bargain rental DVD. I did dishes & cooked a turkey dinner all day, and just wore my comfy pajama bottoms and a not-so-stained "around the house" shirt - and ironed my hair so it was at least not totally skanky. He cooked the cheesecake after dinner, and did his own dishes while I played video games & chatted on DGN & Yahoo. We went into the bedroom and watched the movie while playing Battleship, and I got a good footrub.

All that is stuff that happens on regular days in our home. But it was nice nonetheless to have it all happen in the spirit of "specialness" for the day.

If you're single - create your own tradition. If you're with someone who seems unthoughtful, communicate with them.