People who change for the worse

[Hellion]

:devil

Has anyone ever known someone that changed for the worse instead of better.

some changes are not good at all.this goes for family friends and coworkers.

I knew someone that used to be cool a couple of years ago,then became someone completely different,and will not admit it.I have seen this happen before with other people,not that often but its disturbing.

Has anyone been around people they knew for awhile and been through the same experience before? Some changes are never good. share your horror stories.

[BrassFusion]

I had a friend at Wayne State for a few months after she transferred there. It was kind of creepy how we started hanging out... she just threw herself at me and obsessed over me. She even made a page in my honor on her blog, but she seemed nice and she seemed like she needed friendly support so I didn't think anything of it. I started dating this one guy and she got jealous because I didn't spend as much time with her (I still did, I mean, I THINK that's what her problem was, I never found out for sure what I'd done to deserve the coming treatment), so she stopped returning my calls. A few months later I visited her blog and it was pretty much all about me and how fat I am. It was like high school all over again, but actually more pathetic. After I saw the site, I left her a venomous voicemail and didn't talk to her anymore after that.

She spent so much time bitching about me to everyone around her that people who didn't know either of us very well decided that I was a bad person, but after they knew her for about a week they got tired of all the shit she was talking about me for no reason. She ended up alienating herself from pretty much the whole music department on account of her baseless slander.

It's a really weird sort of vindication to hear "We miss you so much Erin, that Mara is such a silly bitch" from the people who are still going to Wayne. I think I'd just rather the whole bullshit had never happened.

[Hellion]

I had a friend at Wayne State for a few months after she transferred there. It was kind of creepy how we started hanging out... she just threw herself at me and obsessed over me. She even made a page in my honor on her blog, but she seemed nice and she seemed like she needed friendly support so I didn't think anything of it. I started dating this one guy and she got jealous because I didn't spend as much time with her (I still did, I mean, I THINK that's what her problem was, I never found out for sure what I'd done to deserve the coming treatment), so she stopped returning my calls. A few months later I visited her blog and it was pretty much all about me and how fat I am. It was like high school all over again, but actually more pathetic. After I saw the site, I left her a venomous voicemail and didn't talk to her anymore after that.

She spent so much time bitching about me to everyone around her that people who didn't know either of us very well decided that I was a bad person, but after they knew her for about a week they got tired of all the shit she was talking about me for no reason. She ended up alienating herself from pretty much the whole music department on account of her baseless slander.

It's a really weird sort of vindication to hear "We miss you so much Erin, that Mara is such a silly bitch" from the people who are still going to Wayne. I think I'd just rather the whole bullshit had never happened.

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Also finding things missing and drug use,was red flag alert.I found some strange pills hiiden in the medicine cabinet,they were either Xanex or X,but I threw them out,cause I don't bother with drugs anynore.A strange numbers I did'nt know showed up on my phone bill too.

[Paper Hearts]

I remember the end of Rocky IV where Rocky told us that all people can change and then we learned to be friends with the Russians and it saved the world.

[kellygrrrrrl]

I had an ex that thought he would never change and this would be good.

He was so sick of people changing.....and I had chaged so much that he didn't want to be with me anymore.

When in actuality, he was the one that changed....well actually he didn't CHANGE...he just went this rout:

He wanted someone to Explore the world with him. Use drugs we never had, Get a girl that would fuck other girls in his presence, lived the rock & roll lifestyle....etc....

Now today.....later....

He asks me what did I do? (Him - what did he do to break us up 6 years later after were both married....)

I said...well, you found a girlfriend that willing to accomodate your wants/desires...and NOW...you want to get off the drugs and you can't, you want a girl who is morally clean, and you want soeone who is stable....

what...did you think she would "Change"?

I never changed. I just stayed away from the things I knew I shouldn't.

Neither one of us changed really.....I think just I grew up.

He never did...he never ...."Changed"

In his 10 days of soberness in the last 6 years, I think maybe he actually thought about things he put off thinking about because he was in such a daze....a friend told me thaqt junkies have no sense of time frame??? If that is the case, then this must be true.

Now he wants out of it and can't....and it's way too late now for regrets.

I don't know if my story fits the bill, but this is what I got!

=)

[Homicidalheathen]

I had a friend who changed for the worse for awhile after her divorce. I think she had some issues with feeling attractive and wanted, he was abusive and controlling. She got a bit to trampy, did coke off and on for awhile....hung out with the wrong people. But she seems to be over it now. Only lasted 2 yrs.

Other than that yes, I have dumped friends not just for changing for the worse....but sometimes we grow apart.

2 friends due to alcoholism.

I can't stand people who just walk around drunk, all day......everyday.

[LuluVox]

This thread makes me want to gouge my soul out with a paperclip and some salad tongs.

[Head Wreck]

salad tongs?

how about a cheese grater?

[Gothmama25]

This guy who I had known for 10 years definately changed for the worse. When I first met him he was totally different. He was a nice guy who cared about the feelings of others. Now hes this selfish, concieted jerk who dosent have any feelings or respect for anyone. He is only concerned about pleasing whats in his pants. How sad.

[LuluVox]

This thread makes me want to gouge my soul out with a paperclip and some salad tongs.

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That could also work *takes notes*

[phee]

This guy who I had known for 10 years definately changed for the worse. When I first met him he was totally different. He was a nice guy who cared about the feelings of others. Now hes this selfish, concieted jerk who dosent have any feelings or respect for anyone. He is only concerned about pleasing whats in his pants. How sad.

You dated a male then???

That sucks

[Paper Hearts]

I've become a remorseless and relentless jerk. I'm sorry everyone.

[Head Wreck]

i'm joining a monestry

[LuluVox]

I've become a remorseless and relentless jerk. I'm sorry everyone.

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The irony is giving me a toothache!

[Paper Hearts]

The irony is giving me a toothache!

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Best thing for that is sucking on a pain reliever. I know it tastes gross, but just keep right on the spot and it will go away.

[LuluVox]

Best thing for that is sucking on a pain reliever. I know it tastes gross, but just keep right on the spot and it will go away.

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You're making me feel nostalgic for the Tylenol 3 I ran out of two days ago, prescribed to me after the oral surgeon ripped four (wisdom) teeth out of my head.

[Head Wreck]

i had 4 wisdom teeth ripped out, and another 4 that were beyond the wisdom teeth.

no painkillers though. there is a pic of me with an unusually green coloured jaw though

[Paper Hearts]

You're making me feel nostalgic for the Tylenol 3 I ran out of two days ago, prescribed to me after the oral surgeon ripped four (wisdom) teeth out of my head.

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Oh my god! I had all of my wisdom teeth removed too. And I like Codeine!

[kellygrrrrrl]

me TOO!

:woot:

I loved having bloody mouth for a week!

It was ........ Great! :confused

[LuluVox]

Icky icky. It's nearly been two weeks and the holes still aren't completely healed.

[holliwood66]

Hmmm~ has happened a few times but mostly with SOs. I dated this guy who started out disarmingly charming (heh!) but morphed into a controlling, lying, cheating, abusive, drugged-out bastard. It didn't take long for me to take off *phew!*

I've known a few women who were completely insane/compulsive liars and made up whole fake lives/scenarios for different people within the social group. Then, at some point you cross-check/talk to someone else about said person and it all comes out. In fact, I just found out about someone I've know for years (not close of course) who made up a whole close friendship between me and her to another woman I know...and I can't for the life of me figure out why she would do this!! *shakes head*. I always wondered why people would ask me about what to do if they fought with her/had problems...I would alwasy answer with a shrug "Idontknow-youknowherbetter" etc. and then they would think I was cold because I didn't "care about my super-close" friend. (I always knew she was unbalanced, but this went too damn far...psycho!!!!)

[BrassFusion]

Hmmm~ has happened a few times but mostly with SOs. I dated this guy who started out disarmingly charming (heh!) but morphed into a controlling, lying, cheating, abusive, drugged-out bastard. It didn't take long for me to take off *phew!*

I've known a few women who were completely insane/compulsive liars and made up whole fake lives/scenarios for different people within the social group. Then, at some point you cross-check/talk to someone else about said person and it all comes out. In fact, I just found out about someone I've know for years (not close of course) who made up a whole close friendship between me and her to another woman I know...and I can't for the life of me figure out why she would do this!! *shakes head*. I always wondered why people would ask me about what to do if they fought with her/had problems...I would alwasy answer with a shrug "Idontknow-youknowherbetter" etc. and then they would think I was cold because I didn't "care about my super-close" friend. (I always knew she was unbalanced, but this went too damn far...psycho!!!!)

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You just gave me a spectacular terrible idea. Sucks that I'm not crazy/malicious enough to use it.

[JaneDead]

I've known a few women who were completely insane/compulsive liars and made up whole fake lives/scenarios for different people within the social group. Then, at some point you cross-check/talk to someone else about said person and it all comes out. In fact, I just found out about someone I've know for years (not close of course) who made up a whole close friendship between me and her to another woman I know...and I can't for the life of me figure out why she would do this!! *shakes head*. I always wondered why people would ask me about what to do if they fought with her/had problems...I would alwasy answer with a shrug "Idontknow-youknowherbetter" etc. and then they would think I was cold because I didn't "care about my super-close" friend. (I always knew she was unbalanced, but this went too damn far...psycho!!!!)

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was her name heather? :fear :doh sounds like a girl i know...

why are people like this??? i think it is because they lack something in life they will never find since they go about it all the wrong way...

it was as if her "phony-self" made up for being a "nothing"

[holliwood66]

Nope, her name's not Heather...sorry if you had to deal with someone like this too!