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Spook- maybe he has sparklers, but given time to think i could probably come up with something better

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Oh, I'm sure anybody could think of something better given the time. But that's just the way he is, no thought required. Therefore, he still wins.

Forget who's youngest and who's oldest. What's REALLY important is which of us is most guilty of robbing the cradle... Deep-Thinker.gifCunning-Plan.gifThankyou.gif

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I would date a 16 year old for the sole reasons that it's legal and I could. But, I'm not so therefore I'm not guilty.

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Yeah.  That's why I'm right there with him...  :woot:  :whistling  =)

I've dated 14 years younger and 15 older then me.  :cool

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sweetness! i think sometimes people really miss out on possible connections because they are to worried about age =)

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sweetness! i think sometimes people really miss out on possible connections because they are to worried about age =)

Werd.

It's not to say that age can't throw up some challenges in a relationship where there's a large age gap, but it shouldn't be an impediment to at least considering someone.

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Werd.

It's not to say that age can't throw up some challenges in a relationship where there's a large age gap, but it shouldn't be an impediment to at least considering someone.

like what? just curious cause the only things i can think of right now are more compatability issues than anything and those could be with anyone, even someone of the same age. =)

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like what? just curious cause the only things i can think of right now are more compatability issues than anything and those could be with anyone, even someone of the same age. =)

The biggest one I can think of is that people born many years apart over the past century can have vastly different experiences growing up. That can lead to friction because everything that each of you relates to from growing up is different. For some that can be a plus... for some... it can cause friction or other negative emotions.

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The biggest one I can think of is that people born many years apart over the past century can have vastly different experiences growing up. That can lead to friction because everything that each of you relates to from growing up is different. For some that can be a plus... for some... it can cause friction or other negative emotions.

yes but at the same time i have friends that are within months of me (who even grew up in the same city as me) and have drastically different life experiences. I think everyone takes what they get from life differently and i dont think that beeing 5, 10, 20, 40 years older/younger than your partner has to play a part in that anymore than the friends you had growing up or the way you were raised or where you grew up. :grin

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yes but at the same time i have friends that are within months of me (who even grew up in the same city as me) and have drastically different life experiences. I think everyone takes what they get from life differently and i dont think that beeing 5, 10, 20, 40 years older/younger than your partner has to play a part in that anymore than the friends you had growing up or the way you were raised or where you grew up. :grin

Life experiences ..yes. But did they grow up when we first went to the moon? When TV's were largely B&W? When Kimba the white lion was a fave cartoon? Some people freak out about things like that. They want a similarity in what's going on in the world on a generational level. Some people (You and I for instance) could care less....

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Life experiences ..yes. But did they grow up when we first went to the moon? When TV's were largely B&W? When Kimba the white lion was a fave cartoon? Some people freak out about things like that. They want a similarity in what's going on in the world on a generational level. Some people (You and I for instance) could care less....

i can see that. . .but i have friends who dont remember stuff thats happened in our lifetime. if one of the people in the relationship has more. . ."world knowledge" they can share that with the other and im sure that in any relationship age difference or not each individual has something that they know more about or are better at or whatever that they can share with their partner. =) its all about balance really

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i can see that. . .but i have friends who dont remember stuff thats happened in our lifetime. if one of the people in the relationship has more. . ."world knowledge" they can share that with the other and im sure that in any relationship age difference or not each individual has something that they know more about or are better at or whatever that they can share with their partner. =) its all about balance really

We agree on this. Quit arguing with me or I'll put you over my lap and... never mind. I forgot who I'm talking to....... :wink :laughing :tongue:

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We agree on this. Quit arguing with me or I'll put you over my lap and... never mind. I forgot who I'm talking to....... :wink :laughing :tongue:

lol im not arguing with you im just intersted in your opinion. :grin

now what was that about putting me over your lap? :laughing :devil

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This has been mentioned in posts of days gone by. But for the benefit of newbies...

I married my husband of 8 years when I was 30 and he was 19-1/2.

My concern wasn't for the gap between us. It was that he was going to be in a new marriage at a time of life when I've experienced & observed people go through some of the most extreme changes in their wants/needs/personalities.

My concern was that I might end up with someone who, upon getting through that period of life, would find being married, or specifically being married to me didn't fit who they became during that period of life.

8 years later, I can say that there have been some struggles in relation to that. And still are, especially with me ending up with clinical depression in the middle of all of it. But that things have ended up in favor of the relationship, and things get stronger & better every day.

The differences ya'll mention above as far as cultural have had some impact, but that has more to do with personal interests than age difference. I grew up in libraries, art museums & with education at my disposal. My husband grew up a skater boi left to fend for himself most of the time.

What this does for us is gives us a lot to share with each other that we never experienced on our own. My mother wouldn't let me have a skateboard, but now I know the names associated with boarding, watch the X-Games on TV, and my heart skips a beat when I see Jon do the simplest of moves on a board. And I had the glee of being tour guide to Jon at the Detroit Institute of Arts, the Detroit Public Library, etc.

Jon helps me rediscover the fun things in life. And in return, I expose Jon to the culture he was denied as a child.

We're best friends. With benefits. :grin

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