Don't Marry A Career Woman?

[Msterbeau]

http://www.forbes.com/home/2006/08/23/Marr...cx_mn_land.html

Found through this story:

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2006/08/24/career_women/

[HipsterDufus]

<shrug> If it were up to me, one of us would stay home and take care of the house. However, it doesn't have to be the woman, imho. I just notice that both of us are usually too exhausted by the end of a work day to come up with the energy to vacuum, cook dinner, do the dishes, and do all of the crap associated with owning a home. It doesn't put a lot of strain on our marriage, but sometimes I do get annoyed wthat things don't get done around the house. However, I know it's my fault as much as Sarah's because we both work full-time and have pretty much the exact same amount of responsibilities. Life is a lot more difficult in every way (except financially) when both partners are earners. Unfortunately, because of the amount of money we make, we don't have too much choice. I've talked about it with Sarah and, if we were in a financial situation to do it, either one of us would be happy to stay home and take care of the place.

[Msterbeau]

Yeah... My daughter's mom and I agreed that it would better serve the kids if one of us stayed home. Since I had by far the better job, she stayed home. That's a far cry from this guy's assertions about working women, though.

[Homicidalheathen]

I remember being in school, working full time....then comming home to wash the kids...make dinner......clean the house.

Things are better now that we have our own buisness but......we had to go through that to get where we are today.

If we had both not been working we would have had to live in a slum and I was not willing to put my kids through that.

You must choose your battles.

These peeps with this mindset are usually older men who had union jobs...full benefits.....full time work available all the time. Oh and don't forget, we are paying for their S.S. benefits and there won't be any left for us....plus....we pay 10x as much for things that don't last.

Times change.

I do wish things were like they were in the 50's but it will never be that easy for americans again. I really don't think so.

[HipsterDufus]

Yeah... My daughter's mom and I agreed that it would better serve the kids if one of us stayed home. Since I had by far the better job, she stayed home. That's a far cry from this guy's assertions about working women, though.

Yeah, he almost seems to be trying to demonize them to an extent.

[kellygrrrrrl]

I'm a career woman.

I can understand in a sense what the guy is talking about.

I'll tell you what....

I'd rather be wearing my apron an carrying my rolling pin around...bare feet, raising babies.....

In the traditional kind of way....the way my parents were used to.

But it's a different world today.

We simply couldn't afford to do the one parent home thing.

[saechalyn]

I can see his point too. I don't plan to have children so it's a moot one for me though.

[BrassFusion]

I would honestly love to marry a guy with a great full time job and stay home. As long as I could still be in my orchestras and teach my private lessons, I could care less if I ever have a "real" job.

[HipsterDufus]

Back when I was unemployed, I'd do all of the typical stuff that a "housewife" would do. I cooked, cleaned, etc. I liked it a hell of a lot more that going to my job.

[Rayne]

I was a full time mom to my four kids.

I was married to an interstate trucker who was home maybe one weekend a month (that's two days) ...

It was awesome staying home with my kids ... but it was the hardest job I've ever had.

[Head Wreck]

but i want to marry a career woman.

i mean, the buisness suit and really tight blouse, glasses and hair tied up, stockings suspenders and heels.....

[Shade Everdark]

Perhaps it was the home I was raised in, and the attitudes I developed, but I think, personally, that the guy is a misogyinist shit. He brings up completely bogus reasons that are, in fact, stuck in some sexist fantasy-land 1950s mentality. For example: the woman will be unhappy if she makes more than her husband because she expects him to be the primary income earner and give her more fleixble options? What the hell?! And the husband will be unhappy if his wife makes more than he does? Sounds to me like these fictional husbands he's talking about need to learn that "you are not your job, you are not how much money you have".

As for me, I don't think I'd want to be with someone who didn't have aspirations, who didn't want to make some kind of positive contribution to the world, even if we're both just stuck in crappy day jobs.

[sass_in_the_pants]

I think the guy's probably been dumped alot.

By women who make more money than him.

Most of his data is completely bogus, and what's left that is actually statistically significant he twists.

If that's what you're looking for, if you're looking to play the statistics game, then you should marry an Asian over the age of 25 who works part time, is highly religious, has not been previously divorced and has no children.

If you go to the census bureau website you can find out all sorts of nifty stuff like that.

My husband and I have already discussed it - if children come, he stays home and I go to work. He's way better atht his kind and nurturing shit than I am. Besides, I LOVE working. I didn't know I loved working until I took, get this people, a THREE WEEK vacation. Three weeks! That's the most time off I've had since I was 15!

And after about week two, I missed it! I always assumed that I wouldn't...

I missed the people that I work with, I missed the work itself, I missed accomplishing things. And all I was doing was partying and drinking and eating and so at the end of the two weeks, I was exhausted, fat, and wasted.

Shade Everdark - Your'e right on - every husband I know WISHES for a wife that earns more than they do.

[torn asunder]

my solution to this!?

don't get married!!