On Their Bad Side?

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Have you ever rubbed someone the wrong way and just cant seem to change the situation no matter what you do? You dont particularly have anything against the person and would prefer to be friendly. They seem to somehow view everything you do in negative light and the situation appears hopeless?

"You cant please everyone" is true. But when you think its not because you have a problem with the person, its just due to a communication problem that has snowballed. Irritating. You'll live, but its irritating / sad just the same.

[Guest Megalicious]

I know exactly how you feel Troy. It makes it really hard when you know that you and said person would really get along if it wasn't for the lack of communication/snowball effect situation. =(

[Brenda Starrr]

Been there. Done that.

And sometimes, I just don't care.

[Msterbeau]

yup.

[jadnifer]

I have been in this situation before. Sometimes, no matter what you do, you just cant get on that person's good side.

It used to bother me A LOT! Now, if I know that I have given it an honest effort to get along with this person, and its not working, I let it go. The way I see it, its their loss.

End of story.

[BrassFusion]

Have you ever rubbed someone the wrong way and just cant seem to change the situation no matter what you do? You dont particularly have anything against the person and would prefer to be friendly. They seem to somehow view everything you do in negative light and the situation appears hopeless?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA.

No. Never.

[Brenda Starrr]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA.

No. Never.

ROFL. Nope.

[Steven]

Gee.....that sounds vaguely familiar somehow......

[creatureofthenyte]

I have been in this situation before. Sometimes, no matter what you do, you just cant get on that person's good side.

It used to bother me A LOT! Now, if I know that I have given it an honest effort to get along with this person, and its not working, I let it go. The way I see it, its their loss.

End of story.

Yeah what she said! try to fix it, and if you can't fix it, move on. life's too short.

Some people are more sensative then others.

When I talk, I speak my mind, if anyone takes offense, I appologize, and if thats not good enough, then too bad, its all i can do.

[Fierce Critter]

Heh. I'm really only half joking when I mention the "Critter Hater's Club". I know I've rubbed some people the wrong way, and I know they've passed their opinions on to others.

I try not to be the sort of person who can't handle someone not liking me, and obsessing over trying to change that person's opinion. I can tend toward that.

And I've also tried to see where said person is coming from, and see where I might actually be the person who needs to reconsider her actions, words, whathave you, and hopefully grow and mature from it.

But I'm learning that sometimes, it's just not worth it and both would be better served to live and let live.

It's when the "let live" isn't returned in kind by the other party that I really have to question their maturity & motives. I had more than one person tell me that before they met me in person, they let someone else influence them to dislike me. And that after meeting me themselves, they felt sorry they'd let someone else form an opinion for them.

But even worse is the type of person who would go so far as to tell someone else NOT to meet me in person, which actually happened. And long story short, this person had never met me themselves, yet thought they should take it upon themselves to tell someone else what to do and not do. Thankfully the other person decided to decide for themselves, and is now counted as a friend.

But I can't help but wonder how many other people have been steered in that direction by that person. And in that situation, I really do think it was the type of communication breakdown that you describe, Troy.

I have some people I just absolutely do NOT get along with. And it's pretty much all due to personal reasons. You have to do something pretty direct & nasty for me to dislike you. But I treat said person with the respect of just leaving them alone in utter totality. I don't approach them. I don't offer my opinion to them. I give them space, and just ask that they do the same for me. Above all, I DO NOT badmouth them to others. I know that the issues I have with said person are STRICTLY between myself and them. Another person may not ever have the same kind of conflict, so it's NONE OF MY BUSINESS to direct how others should treat that person.

If it's just a matter of two people not seeing eye to eye, sometimes we just have to swallow our pride & paranoia and let them be. If it's a matter of the other person still insinuating themselves in your life as they see fit, well, that's a whole 'nother story.

[Nienna]

If someone is "rubbed the wrong way" becaue you were you, well, Oh well. Alot of times it's all about the person being childish and silly. I wouldn't let it get to you.

[Der Nister]

I think I can relate to this.

Wait - I can relate and to it I say fuck 'em their not worth it. If someone can't get to know me and would rather past judgement on me based on rumors then their not the kind of carbon based life forms I care to have in my life.

[jadnifer]

I think I can relate to this.

Wait - I can relate and to it I say fuck 'em their not worth it. If someone can't get to know me and would rather past judgement on me based on rumors then their not the kind of carbon based life forms I care to have in my life.

I couldnt agree with you more.

[Homicidalheathen]

Yes but anyone that narrow minded.......well.....you know. I do give people second chances but maybe too much.

It could be more of a 'I just don't like that guy......not what he said this one time......just don't like him.......' sort of thing, to which you can do nothing about....either way so.....just let it go.

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