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Finding that special someone is very much like finding perfect shoes. It takes a long time to find a place that has any that you even want to look at (The right environment) then it takes what seems like forever to get service (get that someone to even notice you, or be receptive to your advances) then if they are available in your size (You may be shot down quickly, not even because of you, this is the "baggage factor:) Then, if you get to try them on (an actual date) They may not fit right. Then it starts all over again.. :tear

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i don't think there is any ONE person out there for anyone. i think there are many people out there for everyone and you are pretty lucky when you find one that does work out well for you ;)

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YES!

Hollywood's idea of 'the one" and all that romance crap just ends up screwing up people's heads. So many people buy into this and don't take time to meet a lot of people and actually try to figure out what they *want* in a potential mate. I know so many people (especially females) who think that "the one" is going to magically drop out of the sky and everything will be perfect.

Bah. ain't NOTHING in this world perfect.

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what i think (and dont get mad at me for this) is that some women set to high of standards. Like they have this long ass list of qualities they wanted in a man. I beleive that women should throw that list out of the window and just stick with the basics "Is he alive(or dead whichever way you girls go for)?" "Is he respectful?" "Does he have a nice dick?" And Thats all.

and i'm not saying you have to settle, what i'm saying is there are men who have faults, NO ONE IS PERFECT. Deal with it. You'll just have to teach them to be how you want them.

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Even more than the conversation or the sex, i miss the cuddling, god damnit. I miss that a lot.

yes, troy, i agree one hundred percent. I think this is where part of my fears of really moving out are based. the "hold me" withdrawals.

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people ARE too picky. if you have basic wants or needs - fine, make sure they are realistic though. nothing wrong with wanting certain things but be sure to forgive people of their imperfections as well.

people tend to put too much importance on things that don't end up mattering in the long run. or try to make people what they want them to be.

i think those people need to look at themselves first and realize they probably need to rethink/re-evaluate things in their own lives before looking to be happy with someone else.

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What exactly is "too picky" though? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having high standards when it comes to dating and looking for a relationship. No one is perfect, but there are a lot of people who could potentially make you really unhappy out there.

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oh i agree. by too picky i mean:

not liking someone cuz their nose is too big. they have a *few* extra pounds. they like things you think are boring. they laugh too much.

i don't mean things important like how they will treat you, or what kind of all around good person they are. those things ARE important. and i dont' think that is a matter of being too picky. it hink that is a matter of knowing what is going to work for you or not work for you in a relationship.

by picky i mean more "vanity" issues rather than basic standards.

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I beleive that women should throw that list out of the window and just stick with the basics "Is he alive(or dead whichever way you girls go for)?" "Is he respectful?" "Does he have a nice dick?" And Thats all.

...You'll just have to teach [men] to be how you want them.

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You should probably add either 'malleable' or 'teachable' to your list of basics. That is, unless you mean you want to 'teach them' how to be respectful, alive/dead, and have a nice dick. I'm just confused. You provided a list of 'basics' then add that a man should be taught other qualities the woman thinks he should have in a relationship. This seems contradictory.

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You should probably add either 'malleable' or 'teachable' to your list of basics.  That is, unless you mean you want to 'teach them' how to be respectful, alive/dead, and have a nice dick.  I'm just confused.  You provided a list of 'basics' then add that a man should be taught other qualities the woman thinks he should have in a relationship.  This seems contradictory.

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You can't teach anyone anything. You also can't really ever "change" them. If you can't be with the person for who they are, then why are you with them at all??? *L* I get irritated when women talk about "training" their men.. (men do it too but really not as much) Poor boys...

I try not to do that. Maybe that's why I'm single?

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You can't teach anyone anything. You also can't really ever "change" them. If you can't be with the person for who they are, then why are you with them at all??? *L* I get irritated when women talk about "training" their men.. (men do it too but really not as much) Poor boys...

I try not to do that. Maybe that's why I'm single?

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Your fine the way you are. I have no idea why your single, seems to me there should be quite a mob of guys chasing you.

Well for some women/men they like the challenge of training thier guy/girl into being something they think is better. Why? perhaps bragging rights or maybe they just want to take on a "project" of sorts. Whatever thier reason it usually comes down to a control issue. Who knows really, often no one really needs a reason to do what they do. They do it cause they exist and they can.

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Your fine the way you are. I have no idea why your single, seems to me there should be quite a mob of guys chasing you.

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There are a few.. not exactly what I want.. or the couple who chase but are unavailable themselves... *L* The best boys come with batteries. :wink

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:blushing

i'm single never been married only relationship i have ever had was back in high school some five years ago but that ended after i got out seeing how he was still in i wish i was in one now than maybe i wouldnt be soo damn depressed because all my friends are "happy and in love" but i guess i will meet the right person one day right? well that is what everyone tells me but who knows? i know i sure in the hell dont lol maybe if i wasnt so damn shy about my self than things would be different well later everyone

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On a more serious note, I would agree with SpidersMoment in general that poeple are too picky. Although, personally I would like to be with someone that isnt PMSing 24/7 all year round (as I have had with the past few).

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than i would be the perfect person i dont have periods lol

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