My Home Life.....

[Klaus]

Well Basically it started... back in 02.

My aunt and her then Husband Mike Emery (Mr. emery we call him now) got into a fight one night. a fight fight might i add too. and he started it, she had all the bruises. the cops didn't know what to think so they took her away. (when asked i did mention she did drink a little to much, which is why I'm writing this post today! =( )

The next day the jail wouldn't let her attorney in. so one of her fellow inmates she befriended let her borrow hers. Peter John Collins. Time passed, Mr. Emery did jack shit and didn't come to court so she won everything. peter at that point stuck around. i don't remember how they ended up getting together but they did. peter John Collins and my aunt. they grew close, broke up a few times, we thought he was cheating, maybe he was, i dunno. they finally (last year... well 05ish into the beginning of 06) were going to get married. peter kept putting it off being lazy... depressed because his daughter was an asshole and beat him up. finally she was going to move with mommy on th east coast (yet shes a 45 yr old Lesbian with an accounting degree (fraud degree, but still... she had someone do all her work for her) from Univ of Mich.) well peter would leave our house in the morning, then go to either a school (during summer) or buschs parking lot and drink. Vodka. usually a half a day (the size below a fifth) my aunt used to go out every day to find him, sometimes yes, sometimes no. he stopped eating. he got super depressed. it also didn't help that him and my aunt got into a major argument every day and he just sat there taking it. at the same time my aunts business was going bankrupt (sign-a-rama) and he was trying to help her but didn't do bankruptcy. so shes upset about that, she takes it out on peter, and hell ensues. he drinks more. One night they had a fight. he left and went home. she didn't hear from him the next day.. the day after that i was at the apartment with my friend Leah and my date at the time Laurie. (Laurie.... she was dumb... but thats another story for another time) I got a call. my aunt was in tears and hysterical... peters dead, peters dead.

I went over to Peters, he was... the police were there, he had lied down on his couch, took a nap, and didn't wake up. autopsy found an enlarged heart. they had never got married.

the first few months, she didn't do anything. slept, drank, drank some more. and yelled at me, because I "didn't understand" what she was going through. i admit i couldn't know what SHE was going through, but i knew it hurt. then when i wouldn't sit and listen to her cry and tell me how much she loved peter and how i COULDN'T understand she pulled out the... "when you were a kid i shouldn't of listened to you when you were crying about being hungry or thirsty" which, kinda hurt my feelings. i mean she was calling me an idiot and stupid... i threatened to move away but that got her even more pissed off. since then, its been drink drink drink drink...yell yell yell yell... *sigh* well recently good ol' grandholm, bush... the government put a $99,000 lien on our house. (due to the business bankruptcy) which shouldn't of happened because we DID have a LLC (Limited Liability Corporation, which prevents against stuff like this) so shes really upset about that, shes drinking more. and lately its drinking as in, a half gallon of vodka, (be it Mohawk, popov whatever is cheapest) every 2 days or so. well 2 days if I'm lucky (and by if I'm lucky, I get to be the one who drives out to get it at 10pm because shes all out. and to drunk/lazy to drive herself. when i refuse to drive, it gets her even more pissed, and i get the usual when you were a kid i shouldn't of taken you.. blah blah blah. so basically i had to run out today and get her some before class. (always at the WORST time) and when i got home, LUCKILY she was on the phone complaining to someone about how sad she is. so i got to hide for a while, then she goes off on me. and she thinks i wouldn't care if she died tomorrow. i would care, i would be upset. but at the same time, i admit i would be happy too because she would be happy wherever she is. free from Alcohol. and if its... down below.. well I'm sorry that your there and wish i could help. *sigh* yea. shes in her room now so I'm decently safe but if she calls me at anytime i could be called into her room or something... I don't know i wanna move away, but i kinda cant because I'm afraid she would hurt herself (she has drunkenly fallen down the stairs and got huge bruises before, going for more alcohol) and the dog. and plus she keeps saying that when she goes everything is left to me. its all mine. and she could go at any moment because she has no will to live, I'm the only thing keeping her alive, her dad (my grandpa) hates her, which he doesn't but he never liked her, she wasn't wanted.... *sigh* i have no clue.......

life is crappy except the one thing that makes me happy. the one person who makes me see blue in a sea of gray. the one person who will hold me through a tornado or hurricane. I love you Lila and you know it. and no matter what anyone else says your mine and mine alone!

Klaus

[StrayBullet42]

Wow, Good thing you have Lila.

"shouldn't of happened because we DID have a LLC (Limited Liability Corporation, which prevents against stuff like this)"

Thow it will not help with the loss of a loved one, could you're aunt straighten out her financhal situation?

From what I know about a LLC is that It needs to be drawn up by lawers and sent to the proper goverment agencys, Including the State Corthouses. They would need to keep copys (As well as you're aunt should have a fiew) , That would prove the LLC, Also If I'm not mistaken a LLC should have other investors that would bare some of the financhel burden.

[Homicidalheathen]

I grew up with alcoholic parents.......and moved in with alcoholic friends.....I always hated it.

I hope you move out and things get better for you.

[Gothmama25]

I live with someone who is verbally abusive to me almost everyday and they are sober. My dad is a recovering alcoholic who used to beat me when he drank but now that hes sober he just degrades me verbally.

[Klaus]

Wow, Good thing you have Lila.

"shouldn't of happened because we DID have a LLC (Limited Liability Corporation, which prevents against stuff like this)"

Thow it will not help with the loss of a loved one, could you're aunt straighten out her financhal situation?

From what I know about a LLC is that It needs to be drawn up by lawers and sent to the proper goverment agencys, Including the State Corthouses. They would need to keep copys (As well as you're aunt should have a fiew) , That would prove the LLC, Also If I'm not mistaken a LLC should have other investors that would bare some of the financhel burden.

i dont know a whole lot about the business, im pretty sure everything WAS set up properly... but the judge favored the side fo us getting screwed. woohoo

[Rayne]

My father is dying of Chirrosis of the Liver caused by his alcoholism.

My first husband was an alcoholic. He beat me. I left.

I don't want to relive any of it.

[saechalyn]

Get out of there. Now. If you can't do it now do whatever you need to do to get yourself in a position where you can get your own place.

She is an adult and responsible for her own life. It is NOT your responsibility to stay trapped there and make sure she doesn't hurt herself. She is responsible for her own well-being and if she can't care for herself properly then she needs to get herself into a program that can help her.

What she is doing to you is abusive and manipulative. Things like "I shouldn't have taken care of you" are just to guilt you into sticking around now and taking care of HER when she should be doing it herself. Too bad lady, she DID take care of you and if she regrets that decision that is her problem. Kids need to be taken care of. You needed someone to take care of you as a child and that's not something to feel bad about.

and plus she keeps saying that when she goes everything is left to me. its all mine. and she could go at any moment because she has no will to live, I'm the only thing keeping her alive, her dad (my grandpa) hates her, which he doesn't but he never liked her, she wasn't wanted.... *sigh* i have no clue.......

I know it's hard to hear stuff like that but again that is unfair of her and manipulative. That is too much pressure to put on a young adult who has his own life to live. If she has no one else in her life that is unfortunate, but really, not to sound cold, but, it's not your problem. We reap what we sow.

[GreggZero]

Don't forget the secret ingrediant in every bottle of Booze is "BLAME"!

[Onyx]

Get out of there. Now. If you can't do it now do whatever you need to do to get yourself in a position where you can get your own place.

She is an adult and responsible for her own life. It is NOT your responsibility to stay trapped there and make sure she doesn't hurt herself. She is responsible for her own well-being and if she can't care for herself properly then she needs to get herself into a program that can help her.

What she is doing to you is abusive and manipulative. Things like "I shouldn't have taken care of you" are just to guilt you into sticking around now and taking care of HER when she should be doing it herself. Too bad lady, she DID take care of you and if she regrets that decision that is her problem. Kids need to be taken care of. You needed someone to take care of you as a child and that's not something to feel bad about.

I know it's hard to hear stuff like that but again that is unfair of her and manipulative. That is too much pressure to put on a young adult who has his own life to live. If she has no one else in her life that is unfortunate, but really, not to sound cold, but, it's not your problem. We reap what we sow.

Just what I was going to say.

Since a couple of you posted in this thread I'll respond to both, and anyone else suffering from this sort of situation. Get out. Just do it. It may take some planning and time to save up some cash but DO IT. Get several roommates if you have to. Work two or three jobs if you have to. I've done it. It didn't kill me.

Living with an alcoholic just might, and if it doesn't kill your body it'll kill your spirit.

[Klaus]

Thanks. I know my self esteem is at 7 out of 100, im doing ok, but i could be better. she has a real way of killing my self esteem when i get it back up to 50 or so. but im gettng better about holding it in.

Hang in there!!!

[Gothmama25]

Thanks. I know my self esteem is at 7 out of 100, im doing ok, but i could be better. she has a real way of killing my self esteem when i get it back up to 50 or so. but im gettng better about holding it in.

Hang in there!!!

maybe we can be roommates.