Is Everyone Replaceable?

[sass_in_the_pants]

As far as me and my husband go...

To him, I am irreplaceable. Were anything to happen to me, he would just go away. He would just walk out of this house and never come back. He would go live in a jungle somewhere. He is still sad over the death of HIS CAT, who died like ten years ago. Wounds heal slowly on that boy, if they heal at all. He's not a 'life marches on' kind of person.

[JaneDead]

as i read this i realize it is different for everyone, i don't think anyone will see another's point of view on this. you either think people are replaceable or not. while i understand people feel that way, i don't and i will never understand what it is like to think of people as "replaceable".

i guess the way we regard people and our relationships with them plays a big part in if you feel people are replaceable or not. the closeness i feel with family and my very loved friends makes it impossible for me to view them as a person who plays a role in my life that can be re-cast by someone else.

but i have a strong attatchment to people and even things. if i lose a thing i have a hard time feeling like i can replace it unless it is a rubber band or a plastic baggie. i still sit here OFTEN and think about people who are not in my life anymore that i miss who might not even think about me at ALL. and friends and family who have died that i miss every day of my life. when i sit there and think like that i wonder how people can say someone is replaceable??? how can someone be replaceable?

i am married and i could easily become divorced and move on to a new person who i spend the rest of my life with instead but they will never replace my husband or his role or feelings or experiences or who i was with my husband. it just can't be "replaced". it is an entirely new beginning. to me if a man could move in and take the place of him it would be like nothing changed, like i would be the EXACT same person with this new person doing he exact same things and it wouldn't be that way. it couldn't be that way. and i know people are trying to say "well a new friend replaces the "role" of an old friend. a new boyfriend replaces the "role" as the old boyfriend. a new boss replaces the "role" of your old boss" no they don't. people don't have roles in my life. people have connections to me in my life and once that connection is broken or altered in some way someone else doesn't come along to fit into that connection.

[kellygrrrrrl]

well, if it's anything to anyone, this helped me a lot with some feelings I have been having that I've never delt with....and it has put me in a better place....in my mind that wanders and races and changes with the wind.

Hence...

free therapy / advice ......Critter.....

[Fierce Critter]

well, if it's anything to anyone, this helped me a lot with some feelings I have been having that I've never delt with....and it has put me in a better place....in my mind that wanders and races and changes with the wind.

Hence...

free therapy / advice ......Critter.....

Not sure I understand what you're saying in my regard.

If you're in some way thanking me, well, you're welcome!

If not... ?

[Homicidalheathen]

Even if things dont last I will always love him and I know the friendship will be there.....but at this point I can't imagine life without his touches. Ever.

[Homicidalheathen]

I would have to say that noone is replaceable. Everyone that I have ever been close to holds a place in my heart that can not be filled by anyone else. No matter what comes in the future I know that I might feel strongly for someone, but they cant replace or delete what I felt for another person.

exactly.......its usually because someone moves that I don't see them anymore. Or because I moved.

I dated someone in AZ who moved back here and I still wonder if I will bump into him one day......and would welcome at least a conversation even though things didn't work out.......we had allot in common and it would be fun to see what he is up to.

[Gauge]

i dont think anyone is replaceable, tho the position they hold in your life may be.