Web Sites For Romance, Friendstalking, Etc...

[Msterbeau]

A couple that either I'm new to or are new.

GothSpace.com - Like MySpace only for just us weirdos. VERY new... hardly anyone there yet.

OKCupid.com - Actually a lot less dorky then it sounds. First, it's free. Second, It's reasonably comprehensive features. Mail, chat, pic galleries, etc) Third, There's actually some interesting people there. Far more interesting and edgy then most dating sites. Tell your friends... so the freak pool gets bigger. Heh. They have lots of "tests" if you're so inclined. The only thing I don't like about it is the match method. They use a long test to determine compatibility. The more questions you answer, the more "accurate" It is. I prefer figuring it out myself, thanks. There are ways to "force" certain preferences, though.

[Homicidalheathen]

gothspace, already checked it out. Too many sites I am on already though. Not enough time.

ok cupid....sux. Those girls are either nasty wenches or hookers.

[Msterbeau]

gothspace, already checked it out. Too many sites I am on already though. Not enough time.

ok cupid....sux. Those girls are either nasty wenches or hookers.

You must be matching a completely different crowd then I....

Yeah.. Until GothSpace gets a far higher people count.. I don't see the point.

[Homicidalheathen]

two of my friends have had horrible experiences with ok cupid. But I guess ya never know.....just this morning I was looking at it and found nothing I saw worth my time.

[Scary Guy]

I worked with www.gothicpersonals.com advertising in Mephisto's. In turn they put up a banner for a while on the site. Nice people.

www.vampirefreaks.com sent me swag to pass out too. I like swag and people who promote, also nice people.

[Homicidalheathen]

gothic personals sounds good.

I did a search for bi girls in a 100 mile radius of roseville and found no one.......on ok cupid.

$$ said they were all um (cant use the term) and ugly,

Cats eye got hounded by a hooker.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Best women I've met in the last 5 years all came directly or indirectly to/from DGN.

[bean]

I was on ok cupid a long time ago. Met some guy on there that was going to be my dom...ended up being creepy and stalkerish. There were a few other strange guys on there..I think I just attract the strange ones...The quizzes were fun though.

[know_buddy_kares]

fuck... all the romance sites suck in my opinion. E harmony left me with nothing...

along with ever other romance/sex/dating site....

the only site that gets me any online game is either yahoo messenger, or myspace...

...but both yeild bat shit insane chicks...

my conclusion? FUCK THE INTERNETS... i wanna meet people irl.. but damn my shyness

[Homicidalheathen]

OK cupid sux. Kitty reported this girl 3x and they let her open new accounts....and she continued to harrass him!

[Msterbeau]

Best women I've met in the last 5 years all came directly or indirectly to/from DGN.

As ScaryGuy would say: Quoted for truth.

Internet dating is definitely a minefield. A big one. I see so few prospects that I could ever be interested in. The rest have cookie cutter profiles and all sorts of other clear signs of mediocrity, incompatibility or downright scariness. I've met enough good ones, though, to make me think it's worthwhile. Windy fer instance. I think one of the keys is to make sure you go into it in a healthy mental space. You'll recognize the trash a lot easier that way. Desperation or loneliness does not make for good choices, IMO. Also... Since OKCupid is free, that allows people to abuse the communication system, which otherwise might not happen if they had to pay.

[Hellion]

Those sites are a waste of time,let alone it seems they are only meant for people who are not themselves(wannabe's,conformists)IMO

[Dollardave]

gothspace, already checked it out. Too many sites I am on already though. Not enough time.

ok cupid....sux. Those girls are either nasty wenches or hookers.

I had a nice girl I met on okcupid that wanted to go out until she found out I smoked cigarettes. I talk to like 3 girls from that site.

[Homicidalheathen]

You have to be careful. Some people are just DUMB. My friend got divorced and felt attractive for the first time in years and wanted to date a bit not get involved. So...I took some hot pics, she is very heavy.....we didn't lie about her weight which is important....we took pics......I made her look good but the pics did not lie. This is important. Dont make yourself look way better than you do. Someone may get mad and use you thinking you deserve it for lying.

Or worse, hurt you. Meet in public (and I just figured this out myself) twice before private. Once is not enough. (this is why K and I hate the swinger scene right now.......they meet and want to fuck right away)

So my lady friend gets her ad placed on iwantu.com and gets a ton of responses. She was litterally like a kid in a candy store.

So she gets a response from a guy who is totally buff and says he cleans houses in the nude. I told her look, this is a pro giggalo DO NOT GET INVOLVED just use him for sex then go find mr right.

What does she do? She lets him move in with her!

Couple thousand dollars and a black eye later and she finally figures out I am right.

It was NOT worth all the orgasms.

Some people really know how to sweet talk you so you have to be careful......especially when your weak hearted from a fresh divorce and have low self esteem.

But I mean, common........he cleaned houses in the nude and looked like a model? She should have known better.

I too, have been used and abused by someone I met on the internet and I THOUGHT I had taken my time getting to know them.

Some people are pro's at this......I think it is what they do for a living.....so be careful. They have no life and all the time in the world to play you and figure you out. Watch what you put out there. Dont use the same name for your dating pro as you do in say a forum like this one. They can find you and do research and it SEEMS you have every thing in common......but they are lying. Hell, they may HATE goth music....ect....ect....but they know you like it. Seems to good to be true? It probably is.

Girl on girl too. People who just want to be friends do it too. A few months into it and they start hinting.....I lost my job.......I owe bills.....

I made the mistake of putting my income in a profile once. DONT DO THAT

Pretend your just getting by at first. Really. No one needs to know how much you make. If they bring it up then be wary.

Got kids? Mention you have them......not ages. Some pervs are looking for little girls or teens to prey upon. If on the second date they still press you for info about your kids.....dump them.

I have had people seem more intersted in my kids than me after finding out they were teens. It was down right creepy.

Dont give out your home phone number. Sorry, but even if your poor.....wait until you get a cell phone and only give out that number. Never your home phone number. And dont let them know where you live. Hell after what I have been through......I wish I could hide my lisence plate. You can never be too careful.

Dont tell them regular places you hang out or let them get to close to your friends either.

[Homicidalheathen]

Oh and I have to add one more thing.....because one of my dear freinds is making the mistake right now.....dont fly out of state, with no car......where your cell phone wont work.....to stay with a complete stranger, at his house......the first time you meet......in the middle of nowhere.

HOW DUMB IS THAT???

I didn't hear from her for a day and a half. I honestly wondered if she was dead.

It doesn't matter how much money he has.......some serial killers are doing quite well before they get caught.

[Homicidalheathen]

Here is another prime example of what can go wrong. Someone we all know pretty well is now trapped in another state in the middle of no where because this lady wont bring him home now.

Dont go to peoples houses you dont know.

Its like the movie Misery. She is telling him he doesn't need to leave because she will totally financially support him.....its kinda crazy

[hunhee]

Okay..all this is creeping me out about dating..

I'm just starting out in the "dating" *gets shivers* field.. and I haven't ever really dated anyone..

*gets sick to stomach*

[Msterbeau]

Okay..all this is creeping me out about dating..

I'm just starting out in the "dating" *gets shivers* field.. and I haven't ever really dated anyone..

*gets sick to stomach*

Take what the paranoid lady up there has to say with a big grain of salt. Yes, you need to take precautions, but it's not THAT bad. My experiences are pretty much the opposite...

Get out there and try.

[Shade Everdark]

As ScaryGuy would say: Quoted for truth.

Internet dating is definitely a minefield. A big one. I see so few prospects that I could ever be interested in. The rest have cookie cutter profiles and all sorts of other clear signs of mediocrity, incompatibility or downright scariness. I've met enough good ones, though, to make me think it's worthwhile. Windy fer instance. I think one of the keys is to make sure you go into it in a healthy mental space. You'll recognize the trash a lot easier that way. Desperation or loneliness does not make for good choices, IMO. Also... Since OKCupid is free, that allows people to abuse the communication system, which otherwise might not happen if they had to pay.

You leave mediocrity out of this! Mediocrity didn't do anything to you! Bully!

[Msterbeau]

You leave mediocrity out of this! Mediocrity didn't do anything to you! Bully!

You go in the downright scary category.

[Shade Everdark]

You go in the downright scary category.

Well, we all have our talents. I guess mine is being, um, downright scary?

[Msterbeau]

Well, we all have our talents. I guess mine is being, um, downright scary?

be proud of what you have. Some people aren't even THAT interesting...

[saechalyn]

Okay..all this is creeping me out about dating..

I'm just starting out in the "dating" *gets shivers* field.. and I haven't ever really dated anyone..

*gets sick to stomach*

The whole internet dating thing creeps me out too. Yeah I know it's worked for a lot of people and great for them, but I just can't do it. If I'm missing out, so be it. I've never been really interested in "dating" I'd rather just get to know people as friends and let things develop naturally on their own if the chemistry is there.

[creatureofthenyte]

The internet certainly can be a place where its easy to be untruthful.

I do not advocate internet dating; I'm neither for it or against it.

However, think about this:

If you're in a public place, like a bar,

and you meet someone who you eventually decide you don't want anything to do with,

and or who creeps you out at all,

can you just click an X and be done with them forever ?

No.

If you meet someone in a bar,

that person is just as capable of being untruthful as they could be online.

The only difference is, in a bar, you're in their presence.

Regardless of WHERE you meet someone, you have to look out for yourself.

As long as you use your brain,

and not your just your heart,

and or your libido,

in making dating choices,

you should be ok.

A woman who lives in my neighborhood,

met a man online,

chatted with him for along time,

eventually they agreed to meet at a restaraunt.

One thing led to another, and some time passed and then they got married.

That was a few years ago, they're still together to this day.

Just a positive example for your reading enjoyment.

That is all.

[Crazed Vampyress]

i had good luck on okcupid. I talked to a bunch of people and even made a couple of good friends that i still keep in touch with. this isnt to say there werent ones i had to weed out, but overall i support it. hadn't been back there in about a year til i saw this thread... i kinda forgot about it.