Military Deployments + Divorces

[CandyQuackenbush]

Alright, I've been in the United States Army for 5 years now, and I am on my 2nd Deployment. I have seen enough shit in my short military carreer to give most of you nightmares for the REST of your life. Most people join because of college money, some join because they wanted to, some join because it was either the military or jail.

Once again, on this deployment I have friends that have either:

A.) had divorce papers thrown at their faces when the go home on leave.

B.) had bank accounts drained and had to go home on emergency leave to protect what was theirs.

C.) had the state side spouse flip out over nothing, endangering military carreers for t he sake of their own insecurity.

D.) had the stateside spouse run bad checks in 5 other states and has a warrent for arrest.

These are just a few things. Most stuff you will never hear about on CNN, or NBC.

I just had ANOTHER close friend of mine have to go home on emergency leave because her husband, who is a Marine, took all her money and put in his own personal account *sounds very familar to me* and he changed all the locks. What sucks even more, is that he works for the local police department, so when she wanted into her own house, they wouldn't let her. They said she was restricted access. So lucky for her, her father is a firefighter, and got his crew together and they broke down the door, and she was able only locate about 15 things that belonged to her.

He took HER money.

He took HER car, and transfer the title to himself.

He took everything HER family gave them when they got married.

He took HER EVERYTHING.

She is only 21 years old, the sweetest girl I ever met, and once again someone I know VERY close to me, gets fucked over by a psyco spouse. Lucky for her, they never had any children involved. But still, she had to go home on EM. Leave to get divorced.

What the fuck? I don't get it. How can people BE so fucking crazy? I wish I could just drain someone else's hard earned funds into a personal account, and do with it what I please. Oh, wait, I could never do that because I know that the money earned over here is from being in a WAR.

Plus, she had to borrow 2,000 just to go home and get some clothes for court. She has only the money she can bank from these last few months we have overseas. She's not my first friend to be completely fucked over by a crazy spouse. I had a SGT in my platoon that we crossed paths in Atlanta, GA. His ex-wife had managed to make over 50 bad checks in 5 different states and has an outstading warrent out for her. He had to go home to protect his little girl.

Just remember, you think you have stress being state side? You don't know the half of it. It's NOT hard being an Army Wife, or Marine Wife, or Navy Husband or so on and so forth. Don't give me that bullshit.

All I have to say is, "some people's children."

[freydis]

Alright, I've been in the United States Army for 5 years now, and I am on my 2nd Deployment. I have seen enough shit in my short military carreer to give most of you nightmares for the REST of your life. Most people join because of college money, some join because they wanted to, some join because it was either the military or jail.

Once again, on this deployment I have friends that have either:

A.) had divorce papers thrown at their faces when the go home on leave.

B.) had bank accounts drained and had to go home on emergency leave to protect what was theirs.

C.) had the state side spouse flip out over nothing, endangering military carreers for t he sake of their own insecurity.

D.) had the stateside spouse run bad checks in 5 other states and has a warrent for arrest.

These are just a few things. Most stuff you will never hear about on CNN, or NBC.

I just had ANOTHER close friend of mine have to go home on emergency leave because her husband, who is a Marine, took all her money and put in his own personal account *sounds very familar to me* and he changed all the locks. What sucks even more, is that he works for the local police department, so when she wanted into her own house, they wouldn't let her. They said she was restricted access. So lucky for her, her father is a firefighter, and got his crew together and they broke down the door, and she was able only locate about 15 things that belonged to her.

He took HER money.

He took HER car, and transfer the title to himself.

He took everything HER family gave them when they got married.

He took HER EVERYTHING.

She is only 21 years old, the sweetest girl I ever met, and once again someone I know VERY close to me, gets fucked over by a psyco spouse. Lucky for her, they never had any children involved. But still, she had to go home on EM. Leave to get divorced.

What the fuck? I don't get it. How can people BE so fucking crazy? I wish I could just drain someone else's hard earned funds into a personal account, and do with it what I please. Oh, wait, I could never do that because I know that the money earned over here is from being in a WAR.

Plus, she had to borrow 2,000 just to go home and get some clothes for court. She has only the money she can bank from these last few months we have overseas. She's not my first friend to be completely fucked over by a crazy spouse. I had a SGT in my platoon that we crossed paths in Atlanta, GA. His ex-wife had managed to make over 50 bad checks in 5 different states and has an outstading warrent out for her. He had to go home to protect his little girl.

Just remember, you think you have stress being state side? You don't know the half of it. It's NOT hard being an Army Wife, or Marine Wife, or Navy Husband or so on and so forth. Don't give me that bullshit.

All I have to say is, "some people's children."

*shakes head*

WTF is wrong with people anymore.....

[Rayne]

Sounds like my first divorce. I ended walking out of that marriage with the clothes I was wearing.

I wasn't able to take my car, my clothes, any of my own stuff that I had in that house from before our marriage, any of my own money or even my dog.

He got it all.

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

OMFG. This kind of thing pisses me off so bad. Over there putting thier life on the line and someone back here robs them blind. Damn...

[Homicidalheathen]

Personally I would not get married If I thought there were a chance of me going to war.....but thats me.

If there is not already some sort of fund or agency looking out for the rights of soldiers while they are abroad there should be.

Maybe something that tracks changes to accounts on the internet or something.....?

[know_buddy_kares]

God candy, you're right, i seen that happen to alot of people when i was in the marines. And it's so fuckin common it's sick...

alot of the guy's wives spent their money and drove them in dept while they were gone to war like spoiled little selfish brats. I know I'm gonna see the same thing going in the army, a bunch of people getting lonely for home, marrying the first crazy they see, and get fucked over big time. Fortunately I don't fall for that sorta thing. Being a military spouse can be hard. I'll admit that, but when they drive their significant other in a ton of dept while they're at war, cheat on them the moment they leave, ect, the whole pity me, my wife/husband is at war thing gets sour really effin fast.

[Msterbeau]

That's fucked up as hell. Sadly, it seems to be getting more and more prevalent in our country. Selfish, greedy assholes are going to destroy this country and the earth...

[know_buddy_kares]

That's fucked up as hell. Sadly, it seems to be getting more and more prevalent in our country. Selfish, greedy assholes are going to destroy this country and the earth...

yeah, we gotta look out for alot more than just IED's and people with guns or bombs ect... we gotta look out for our own that try to fuck us over for every penny and leave us...

...when i was 19, i was stationed in Pensacola. During my job training, me and a bunch of other marines went to class/training with sailors and had a few Petty Officers as instructors. One of these Petty Officers HAD a wife, who was having an affair behind his back. She and this asshole had a plan to kill him and collect his life insurance. Fortunately he found out in time and they both got sent to prision, but damn.. I don't think anyone could recover from that and ever trust again. I hate these selfish fake liars that will completey fuck over someone elses's life, feelings, and sanity just to get free money or whatever. There is a total lack of respect for other's emotions..

THIS is wny I've made a golden rule for myself that I continuously follow... have fun with em, but i sure as hell won't ever give them any legal rights to anything of mine.

[TygerLili]

That's horrible! I'm sure it's stressful for both parties, but there's no excuse to do that to someone.

Personally, I don't think I could be married to, or in a serious relationship with, someone overseas. I have nothing but respect for those overseas/in the military(Candy, I know I've never met you, but you rock!), but if he's over there he's got more important things to worry about than what I'm doing back here, and I've got my own life to get on with.

But I guess it's one of those situations where you don't really know how you'd react until you're in it.

[Onyx]

It's really sad that people who supposedly love each other can do things like that. :(

[Msterbeau]

It's really sad that people who supposedly love each other can do things like that. :(

I bet in a lot of cases, there was never any love to begin with, from the one partner.

[saechalyn]

It's really sad that people who supposedly love each other can do things like that. :(

That's what I was thinking. A marriage that begins with a vow to be that person's partner for life and ends...like this. Awful.

[know_buddy_kares]

I bet in a lot of cases, there was never any love to begin with, from the one partner.

I would have to say that's correct. I was in that situation a long time ago... fortunately it never made it to marrige... I was lucky enough to have been with a dumb one that didn't do her homework and find out just how badly she could have screwed me over if she married me... still though it really gives me a hard time trusting someone enough to get in a deeply committed relationship.

[bean]

It's sad and disturbing to hear about the awful things people do to their supposed loved ones, all for the sake of selfishness.

You want money and material possessions? Get off your lazy ass and get a job and work hard!

You want to fuck everything that moves? Don't be in a relationship!

You can't handle your spouse/significant other being away for so long? Don't get involved with someone that travels or is in the military!

[Onyx]

It's sad and disturbing to hear about the awful things people do to their supposed loved ones, all for the sake of selfishness.

You want money and material possessions? Get off your lazy ass and get a job and work hard!

You want to fuck everything that moves? Don't be in a relationship!

You can't handle your spouse/significant other being away for so long? Don't get involved with someone that travels or is in the military!

Exactly!

So many marriages should have never happened at all.

[know_buddy_kares]

It's sad and disturbing to hear about the awful things people do to their supposed loved ones, all for the sake of selfishness.

You want money and material possessions? Get off your lazy ass and get a job and work hard!

You want to fuck everything that moves? Don't be in a relationship!

You can't handle your spouse/significant other being away for so long? Don't get involved with someone that travels or is in the military!

Good point, actually... very good point.

Yes I want money, I want only enough to live securely and comfortably, I'm not out to try to dominate it all, that's just silly. But I'm not going to sponge off another individual either, I've something called pride that stops that... and it's a shame that some people don't have this.

And for the fuckin part, good deal. Neither way is wrong, but as long as you're honest about it. However it's up to the other to actually choose to listen or not. Liars in this department suck either way.

And long distance relationships do suck. Though unless you're married to someone in the military, you'll normally only get to do phone calls and web e-mails for months on end. This is also the reason why i've not pursued any one in a relationship here, i just find it unfair to them since i'm leaving anyway. But I am keeping in touch with everyone on here, a friendship can witstand distances so easier than a relationship.

[SpidersMoment]

i have a close friend who is stationed and his wife filed for divorce in january. I want to kill the bitch

[Medea]

My friend is currently in the process of a divorce. Wife only really married him for the paycheck, and suddenly he realized she had his balls in a jar under the sink.

[CandyQuackenbush]

Yesterday I was supposed to hang out with my friend who had all this going on, but she never came over, and we live accross camp from eachother.

She has sundays off, so if I don't see her before then, sunday I will go over there.

Right now, all she needs is the support of her friends and true family. I still can't believe that some people would do this. This is the second case a spouse taking money and just about everything else in my military career.

I haven't heard anything on my other SGT in my platoon that had to go home on Emergency Leave also, *the one with the wife and the outstanding warrent*, but hopefully he's able to sheild his little girl from some of this.

It just sucks when children are the pawn too. That's what she's doing. It's fucking horrible.

I just don't get it... and I never will.

[Msterbeau]

It just sucks when children are the pawn too. That's what she's doing. It's fucking horrible.

I just don't get it... and I never will.

Amen.

[Fierce Critter]

Sigh.

People can be so cruel.

[CandyQuackenbush]

Sigh.

People can be so cruel.

I know.

I've been in for 5 years now, just when you think you've seen everything. I mean I have seen alot more than I should have, but for some strange reason, things like this hurt me to hear it/ help others through it than dealing with some other things that can happen on a deployment.

[Brenda Starrr]

OMFG. This kind of thing pisses me off so bad. Over there putting thier life on the line and someone back here robs them blind. Damn...

My thoughts EXACTLY. I think I'd be in jail right now......

[Homicidalheathen]

I was under the impression soldiers didn't make much anyway.........?

Not that it matters......but if I were to risk my life I would not get married or have kids. But my luck something bad would happen to me and I would leave someone a widow.

So I guess if I was a soldier and married....given my luck.....I would take out a huge life insurance policy on myself.

Much like I have now.

[Steven]

I never saw more breakdowns of marriages, not to mention more alcoholism, not to mention more straight out affairs and general bullshit than I did during my tour.

if your a married soldier the odds are stacked highly against you. its a sad fact.