Guys Help!

[EvilEve]

This is probably nothing new, however, i trust the opinion of everyone here, so, here we go.

I just recently met this guy (and by recently, i mean only a couple of days ago), he seems interesting, and seems interested in me. however, there are a couple of catches to his particular situation.

1. he still talks with his most recent ex (and a couple more ex's, who, from what he says, are crazed)

2. he's never at the same house twice (i think he was a nomad in a past life )

now, i've come out and asked him 'do you like me' in many form, manners, paragraphs, essay's and whatnot, and i've still yet to recieve a straight-forward answer. he is very 'hands-on', cuddles, and over all makes me feel like i haven't felt in a little over a year. i'm not sure if it's just in his nature to be overly affectionate like this with his female friends, or if he's actually into me. no straight answer means that i get to beat my head against a brick wall, completely lost in total confusion. i haven't witnessed how he is around members of the opposite sex, but who knows when that will change.

(Monty Python moment: "GET ON WITH IT!")

now to the point:

guys, men, boys, whatever you feel like being called, here's my question;

if you were seriously into only one person, would you tell them flat out, or would you play around with them just to keep them guessing?

either i'm just completely blind to the fact that he does like me, and wants to take it a step further, or he's just really enjoying me chasing my tail for the answer.

[saechalyn]

either i'm just completely blind to the fact that he does like me, and wants to take it a step further, or he's just really enjoying me chasing my tail for the answer.

Or, since you just met a couple of days ago, he's just not sure yet. Why rush? Get to know each other a little. If he does like you he'll make it known.

[creatureofthenyte]

This is probably nothing new, however, i trust the opinion of everyone here, so, here we go.

I just recently met this guy (and by recently, i mean only a couple of days ago), he seems interesting, and seems interested in me. however, there are a couple of catches to his particular situation.

1. he still talks with his most recent ex (and a couple more ex's, who, from what he says, are crazed)

2. he's never at the same house twice (i think he was a nomad in a past life )

now, i've come out and asked him 'do you like me' in many form, manners, paragraphs, essay's and whatnot, and i've still yet to recieve a straight-forward answer. he is very 'hands-on', cuddles, and over all makes me feel like i haven't felt in a little over a year. i'm not sure if it's just in his nature to be overly affectionate like this with his female friends, or if he's actually into me. no straight answer means that i get to beat my head against a brick wall, completely lost in total confusion. i haven't witnessed how he is around members of the opposite sex, but who knows when that will change.

(Monty Python moment: "GET ON WITH IT!")

now to the point:

guys, men, boys, whatever you feel like being called, here's my question;

if you were seriously into only one person, would you tell them flat out, or would you play around with them just to keep them guessing?

either i'm just completely blind to the fact that he does like me, and wants to take it a step further, or he's just really enjoying me chasing my tail for the answer.

Kinda sounds like he's testing the water perhaps.

I never understood why it could be taboo to just say flat out that you like someone.

Saying it after only knowing of each other for a few days, that Is a risk, unless you're sure that you do. If he Is interested, he will respond back with something to the effect that he likes you too and wants to get on with it as you say lol.

There does come a time when you either have to shit, or get off the pot.

Not knowing where you stand definitely blows ass.

I don't think its a crime to find out.

Some women would freak out about that, I know Ive met at least one who has, but to answer your question: you deserve to know if he's into you and wants more, or if he's just toying with you.

Life's too short to waste time.

If I were the guy in question, I would respond immediately, but thats just me.

I believe in doing things with as little complication/bullshit as humanly possible.

[creatureofthenyte]

Or, since you just met a couple of days ago, he's just not sure yet. Why rush? Get to know each other a little. If he does like you he'll make it known.

this could be true too.

[BrassFusion]

whirlwind romances sometimes happen, but with me, they've been the "mutual declaration of infatuation" thing. if he's unresponsive to direct questioning (and hell, it's only been a coupla days), he's probably just a flirt. i'd wedge him firmly in the friend category, and pay him attention accordingly, but i wouldn't get too attached in the romantic sense. let him want you and not be able to have you, maybe... =)

[bean]

Take it slow..it's new... have fun. One word of caution though. Be careful how close he is to his ex. You could end up getting hurt. A lot.

[pharoh]

Good advice here....relax, quit over analyzing and just go with it, he could be playing hard to get, he could not be intrested, but the only way that you will know is in time. Just have some fun, drop subtle hints, and see where it goes

[Troy Spiral (13)]

If its only a few days old, there may not be any Miscommunication or mystery communication. Your just learning how each other respond to things. Unfortunately we don't all speak "the same language" as odd as that sounds. He might not even know "what he is really thinking" so asking him, might not yield the kind of results your looking for... yet.

I'd give it like a month at LEAST before i started trying to accurately read between the lines. (even the most open person in the world has non-verbal communication, but how to decipher that isn't something you develop overnight)

[Vater Araignee]

now, i've come out and asked him 'do you like me' in many form, manners, paragraphs, essay's and whatnot, and i've still yet to recieve a straight-forward answer.

STOP!!!

Doing that can turn a gentle current into white water, just go with the flow.

If you don't like where it is taking you then swim to shore and find another stream to play in.

Fools rush in.

[Daevion]

This is probably nothing new, however, i trust the opinion of everyone here, so, here we go.

I just recently met this guy (and by recently, i mean only a couple of days ago), he seems interesting, and seems interested in me. however, there are a couple of catches to his particular situation.

1. he still talks with his most recent ex (and a couple more ex's, who, from what he says, are crazed)

2. he's never at the same house twice (i think he was a nomad in a past life )

now, i've come out and asked him 'do you like me' in many form, manners, paragraphs, essay's and whatnot, and i've still yet to recieve a straight-forward answer. he is very 'hands-on', cuddles, and over all makes me feel like i haven't felt in a little over a year. i'm not sure if it's just in his nature to be overly affectionate like this with his female friends, or if he's actually into me. no straight answer means that i get to beat my head against a brick wall, completely lost in total confusion. i haven't witnessed how he is around members of the opposite sex, but who knows when that will change.

(Monty Python moment: "GET ON WITH IT!")

now to the point:

guys, men, boys, whatever you feel like being called, here's my question;

if you were seriously into only one person, would you tell them flat out, or would you play around with them just to keep them guessing?

either i'm just completely blind to the fact that he does like me, and wants to take it a step further, or he's just really enjoying me chasing my tail for the answer.

go ahead and jump on that rollercoaster ride.....then again it effects me not all so I'll say anything....listen at your own risk!

[Shade Everdark]

This is probably nothing new, however, i trust the opinion of everyone here, so, here we go.

I just recently met this guy (and by recently, i mean only a couple of days ago), he seems interesting, and seems interested in me. however, there are a couple of catches to his particular situation.

1. he still talks with his most recent ex (and a couple more ex's, who, from what he says, are crazed)

2. he's never at the same house twice (i think he was a nomad in a past life )

now, i've come out and asked him 'do you like me' in many form, manners, paragraphs, essay's and whatnot, and i've still yet to recieve a straight-forward answer. he is very 'hands-on', cuddles, and over all makes me feel like i haven't felt in a little over a year. i'm not sure if it's just in his nature to be overly affectionate like this with his female friends, or if he's actually into me. no straight answer means that i get to beat my head against a brick wall, completely lost in total confusion. i haven't witnessed how he is around members of the opposite sex, but who knows when that will change.

(Monty Python moment: "GET ON WITH IT!")

now to the point:

guys, men, boys, whatever you feel like being called, here's my question;

if you were seriously into only one person, would you tell them flat out, or would you play around with them just to keep them guessing?

either i'm just completely blind to the fact that he does like me, and wants to take it a step further, or he's just really enjoying me chasing my tail for the answer.

Welp, I know you didn't ask me specifically, but I have no idea how to help you. Usually someone has to be blunt (as in sledgehammer), to erm, get the message across. That said, I think most guys I know who aren't me would probably tell someone once they've passed a certain point. The problem is what that point is. It's one I have no frame of reference for, really. I only tried getting up the courage to do it once, and she sort of half beat me to the punch.

So, in short, this post was just to say...I'm worthless, here.

[EvilEve]

So, in short, this post was just to say...I'm worthless, here.

well, it wasn't completely worthless... got some answers... not, exactly what i was looking for... they weren't straight answers... but *shrugs* what are you gonna do...

[Msterbeau]

The fact that you've asked him in multiple ways and he's avoided giving you an answer is a red flag in my mind. If he won't communicate with you now, what makes you think he will later?

[Head Wreck]

i'm perfectly blunt with people but i'm odd.

maybe he's out for revenge for all the things us men are suposed to have recieved psychicly of you women

[EvilEve]

he's the kind of person where you need to ask him very, VERY specific questions.. obviously, my questions weren't specific enough

[hunhee]

he's the kind of person where you need to ask him very, VERY specific questions.. obviously, my questions weren't specific enough

Umm.. this is not a news flash, MOST men are like this.. I had to hit my ex over the head with a mallet DIRECTLY and he still didn't get it, hence why he's the ex. The odd thing is.. when i left him, that's when it hit him.. *shakes head* UGH!

Disclaimer: No ex's were physically hurt in the making of this post, the reference to domestic violence was just a metaphor and did not reflect actual events.. hehe

[Homicidalheathen]

Nomad=looser with no place of his own to stay. Beware.