Key Traits Of The Ideal Mate ?

[Msterbeau]

I don't. *Cries*

[hunhee]

I don't. *Cries*

Oh it's okay I generally go for guys who have shaved heads too.. *holds head in busoms and comforts*

[Msterbeau]

Oh it's okay I generally go for guys who have shaved heads too.. *holds head in busoms and comforts*

[Shade Everdark]

If you where a chick and I was single...

How YOU doin'? ...wait....

[Shade Everdark]

blue eyes ..

(i'm gonna be severly punished for this, but it's worth it)

Question: What makes you think you're going to be punished for this? On the shallow meter, it certainly ranks lower than, "I like boobs!".

PS Incidentally, I do rather enjoy boobs.

PPS Also incidentally, blue eyes? check.

[hunhee]

Question: What makes you think you're going to be punished for this? On the shallow meter, it certainly ranks lower than, "I like boobs!".

PS Incidentally, I do rather enjoy boobs.

PPS Also incidentally, blue eyes? check.

hehe the blue eyes thing is an inside joke.. hehe

PS I have big boobs (I can't believe I just said that) haha

PPS

LMAO!!!

[Msterbeau]

hehe the blue eyes thing is an inside joke.. hehe

PS I have big boobs (I can't believe I just said that) haha

PPS

LMAO!!!

You're going to hell for saying that. But first you have to make a detour to Shades...

[Homicidalheathen]

I prefer brown eyes myself but to have someone even notice my eye color is nice. Dont get it wrong after dating me for awhile or you will be considered scum. I have the bluest eyes you have ever seen and if you dont notice that....your shallow and too into yourself. (this has happened to me lol)

I actually wanted to marry a mexican but I ended up with a german. I am sure my dad is more than happy........but I still have a weakness for brown eyes. And mexicans. I love brown skin. Yum.

[hunhee]

You're going to hell for saying that. But first you have to make a detour to Shades...

w00t w00t I'm going to hell!!! It's a party down here!!! *dances around nakkie*

[Homicidalheathen]

Oh and might I add, I am not into monogomy. You have to be ready to be in an open relationship. I share my toys lol.

See ya in hell guess I am going there myself according to some people just for believing this way.

[Msterbeau]

You ladies need a tour guide for hell? I'm bored.

[Homicidalheathen]

...you got your pitchfork ready? Cause I gots my waders on and my trench coat.

[Shade Everdark]

You're going to hell for saying that. But first you have to make a detour to Shades...

I thought my place was hell. Just not the fun areas.

[Sybil]

i need to learn new things often..

this summer i learned how to rebuild the trans for an F350 turbo strike diesel.. pretty neat.

we have a new job in the shop that is "my baby".. its a challenge and that is "ideal" to me.

him being comfortable in his skin is really important.. he isnt afraid to let his soul shine thru ..

he is helpful with our friends and families and STRANGERS.. cant count how many times he has stopped on the side of the road to help people.. its very sweet.

he is really good to my friends.. so welcoming.

the way he plays with the cats is HILARIOUS.

he is patient!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it was important to me that my dad liked him, and he does!

(some vague specifics)

[hunhee]

Okay now I have the time to spend on this topic seriously..

I want someone who sees me for me, and loves me anyway..

someone who has a good heart and thinks about others concerns more than their own..

someone for whom i could look into their eyes and get lost forever..

honesty.. this i value more than anything..

someone who will share with me their soul.. and will not be ashamed..

someone i share common interests with but also has a vast array of uncommon interests that I can get into..

someone who can hold me so close that you can't tell where my body begins and his ends..

someone who is extremely intelligent.. (one of the biggest turn ons)

someone I can talk to for hours.. and still never run out of things to talk about.. (open communication is key)

someone who makes me melt with a simple kiss...just being close to them makes me think unsavory thoughts..

every time i think about them..i get that tingle in my lower regions.. *blush*

OH yeah and someone who can make me blush... all over.. hehe

I love character..

I love a sense of humour..

I love when someone "gets me"...

I'm sure I'll edit this a million times while I keep thinking about it..hehe but this is a start..

[Msterbeau]

I'm sure I'll edit this a million times while I keep thinking about it..hehe but this is a start..

Here's something I like a lot. Someone that grows and learns and edits over time. Not stagnant. Not afraid to change when they realize that it's time to move on from an old habit or way of doing things. Thinking... Evolving.

I'm going to post ideal traits piecemeal ... instead of one list. Cuz I roll like that, yo.

[TygerLili]

Wow, I must be pretty cynical, I have a much easier time coming up with deal breakers that key traits I'd actually want in a partner.

I guess someone who is going to give as much to a relationship as I do, which is a lot, and someone who is going to fight for me. Not literally pick a fight over me, but fight to be with me, even when things rough. Also, I'd expect him to stand up for me if his friends or family are saying mean things about me, as I'd do that for him.

Beyond that, honesty, caring, mutual respect, blah, blah, blah. Everyone needs those in a relationship.

I've never met anyone who said "Boy, I hope my next girlfriend lies to me, that's such a turn on."

[pharoh]

Wow, I must be pretty cynical, I have a much easier time coming up with deal breakers that key traits I'd actually want in a partner.

I guess someone who is going to give as much to a relationship as I do, which is a lot, and someone who is going to fight for me. Not literally pick a fight over me, but fight to be with me, even when things rough. Also, I'd expect him to stand up for me if his friends or family are saying mean things about me, as I'd do that for him.

Beyond that, honesty, caring, mutual respect, blah, blah, blah. Everyone needs those in a relationship.

I've never met anyone who said "Boy, I hope my next girlfriend lies to me, that's such a turn on."

Good points, I think we can also say something along the lines of everything the last person was not

[saechalyn]

I have one to add: Love me, love my kitty cats. We're a package deal.

[Msterbeau]

I have one to add: Love me, love my kitty cats. We're a package deal.

Loving a woman's pussy is never a problem.

[Shade Everdark]

Wow, I must be pretty cynical, I have a much easier time coming up with deal breakers that key traits I'd actually want in a partner.

I guess someone who is going to give as much to a relationship as I do, which is a lot, and someone who is going to fight for me. Not literally pick a fight over me, but fight to be with me, even when things rough. Also, I'd expect him to stand up for me if his friends or family are saying mean things about me, as I'd do that for him.

Beyond that, honesty, caring, mutual respect, blah, blah, blah. Everyone needs those in a relationship.

I've never met anyone who said "Boy, I hope my next girlfriend lies to me, that's such a turn on."

If I ask whether I look fat in those pants, I at least expect tact, yo. A small lie there wouldn't go amiss.

[TygerLili]

If I ask whether I look fat in those pants, I at least expect tact, yo. A small lie there wouldn't go amiss.

Personally, I'd rather my boyfriend told me something didn't look good on me, was too tight, etc. before I left the house. It wouldn't necessarily stop me from wearing something if I really liked it, but I'd take it into consideration.

[creatureofthenyte]

I was just reading some posts,

and another thing that I would look for in my ideal mate,

is someone who can handle an honest opinion.

Someone who isn't overly sensative.

I know for me,

I would rather someone tell it to me like it is,

rather then sugarcoat it or lie to protect my feelings.

I think it would hurt more,

if you lie to someone to protect their feelings,

vs telling them the truth in the first place.

An example,

yes that outfit doesnt look good on you,

you should try something else..

I wouldn't say something to intentionally hurt my mate's feelings.

Although, I think if she heard from me that a certain outfit didnt look good on her,

it wouldn't be as bad as if I'd said it Did look good and then we went out,

and people looked at her and thought, god what was She thinkin ?

[sass_in_the_pants]

What sort of fashion challenged people do you all date? Is she walking out of the house in orange lycra? a mumu? a swan? There are some outfits I like more than others on my friends, but there isn't one that I can think of that actually looks BAD on them.

That being said, the man I love more than anything on planet earth, has four t-shirts with yoda on them, and several more with monkeys. He's not ten, he just dresses like he is. And I am very forthright and honest about those shirts. I hate those shirts. I tell him that I hate those shirts - not that he looks bad in them, he still looks like him, just in dorky t-shirts. Sometimes, I hang them outside to dry. When it's snowing.

As for me...if I ask whether or not I look fat in something, the answer is ALWAYS 'No, you're beautiful'. I've got the rest of the world to criticize me, I don't need it from my man, too. I know when I look bad. I ask my husband because I like to hear him tell me I'm beautiful, not because I actually think he has an eye for this sort of thing.

And getting along with friends, well, if you don't like them and they don't like you, then who are we going to hang out with? At parties, actually, we barely talk to eachother. You know how it is - one group pulls you this way, another group pulls you that way and then, before I even know, someone's hollering to me from the kitchen 'Hey, your husband's trying to jump over the fire' and I yell back something like 'Tell him to take off his pants first. They're brand new and I don't want them getting ruined.' And, like a good husband, he throws them downstairs and jumps the fire in his underwear.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Unfortunately for me I'd rather be single than just "hook up" for the sake of hooking up. I value my free time and my freedom.

Someone being say "attractive" and "nice" just isn't good enough for me. For many guys i know if a girl is hot, and not a total bitch, that's really all that matters to them. They can get their conversation and non-sexual fun from other sources the GF is basically just a trophy. No way. No thanks.

Needs:

Smart (academically) I'm a hardcore science/history/philosophy/religion nerd. I don't expect my S.O. to be, but she needs to be smart enough, and interested enough to listen to and learn about such things. I cant have a GF/Wife who i have to leave the house to go to my buddies place if i want to talk about things i have such a passion for.

Caring/Kind/Sympathetic - Actually kind to people, not just nice to me. But a nice person in general and values caring/kindness on its own merits not just "what they can get from me" if they be nice.

Communicator - Sometimes good communication requires a lot of listening and not so much talking. If the so-called communication is one-sided (in either direction) I'll eventually wander away.

Likes DGN - I'm not in a band. I don't write music. I don't have kids. I run DGN. DGN is my child. There's no glory in it, but i feel about DGN the same way some people might about their art or their children. DGN and I come as a package deal , if you don't like DGN , eventually it will become an issue and probably won't work out.

Right now I'm nearly unboyfriendable due to health issues making me sick about 95% of the time. It so its hard to spend time doing anything on a regular basis. So all of this is probably moot. I cant deal with constantly disappointing someone that i can't come see them (or not calling them) because my health issues are kicking my ass. I don't want to put myself or anyone through that. There's plenty of other the fish in the sea that aren't gimps.

Once i get my act together and am not a gimp anymore , then i might be GF worthy.