God I Hate People Sometimes....

[crunchy_pickle (5)]

I had to delete the original content for personal reasons, but basically what it comes down to is I really don't get to see my kid that much. Because of that, some bitch decided to personally attack me who knows both me and my ex, basically calling me a holiday father. This sort of internet drama is exactly why my friendship with my ex deteriorated in the first place. I've talked to my ex since, and we both agree that our child is none of her fucking business, and that I really shouldn't let the words of some dumb cunt, who knows absolutely nothing about anything and isn't exactly mom of the year herself ruin my day......

[Msterbeau]

Kevin, I'm going to ignore all the drama stuff because it sucks and I don't care about drama. What I care about is that you're not seeing your child. She's yours too. She needs her father in her life. The more time the better. Don't give up on her. Fight for your time with her. Do whatever it takes to make some kind of peace with her mother so you get more time. I'm 400 miles from my girls. I see them every two weeks and talk every few days. Some days the thought of them is the only thing holding my existence together. Every two weeks sucks and it's not enough. I'm missing all the changes that are going on and I hate it!!!!!

If you want to talk dad shit... PM me anytime. I hope you find some decent resolution to this.

[Reaper]

My brother is going through the same problem. His wife has vengeance on her mind quite a bit and won't take the PPO off of him so he can see his kids. He always has to see them while supervised and he has been caught twice trying to see them at her place while she was gone and a babysitter around. He really wants to see his two little girls, but my mom and I keep telling him he needs to battle it out through the legal process. He won't do his girls any good by going to jail constantly.

[know_buddy_kares]

There's always a know nothing nobody that wants to run their mouth. When it's about you I can understand that you think oh shit, but really, it's pretty obvious when someone is talking shit to you about someone else, and that they're just bein idiot shit talkers. Her words won't go far. Glad that you and your ex are comming to an agreement about this with your kid, you deserve to see her. Cunt face I will agree too, just needs to shut the fuck up already.

[SuZQZ]

What a suckfest. That woman had no right to discuss YOUR personal business with you, particularly if you weren't soliciting her opinion, whether she knows you both or not. But the main things is that you don't get to see your daughter enough. You are an important and integral part in her life. Life and scheduling is always crueling in these situations. My ex doesn't see our daughter as much as he'd like. But he wants to see her and be with her and he tries very hard. She knows this and understands. I think knowing that he really wishes he could see her more often means a great deal to her. Seems to help smooth the times he has to cancel, etc. Good luck and try not to let that bitches comments get to you.

[sass_in_the_pants]

The only people who matter in this situation are you, your ex, and your kid.

Who is this woman to you anyway? She doesn't sound like a friend, and if she's someone who can easily be removed from your life, I don't think you'd lose any sleep over kicking her out of your life.

And I second SuZQZ - though nothing can replace actually spending time with your daughter, the fact that she knows how much she means to you and that you are trying to see her more she will find comforting.

[crunchy_pickle (5)]

Who is this woman to you anyway?

She was actually a good friend of mine at one time. I met my ex through her, and while she was kinda pissed that her and I started dating (she had a huge crush on me), she got over it. It just kinda struck me hard, because the only thing I did was send her a myspace friend request. I didn't even intentionally send it. It just so happened that out of 150 people who matched email addresses in my yahoo address book, she was one of them. While, I'm sure there are plenty of people that have no desire to speak with me anymore for various reasons (girls I dated once etc), it's not like I went out of my way to add her. I just didn't go out of my way to make sure that my friend requests weren't going out to shitty people.

She had no good reason to respond the way she did, and was pissy because I didn't stop and say hi to her at City Bytes one night back in April while she was sitting with other people. I'm sorry, but if you feel the need to be a rude bitch to me, why should I stop? I don't even care about all that though. I'm a very caring and forgiving guy and don't hold grudges against people. I wouldn't have minded had she accepted my friend request even though it wasn't directed towards her. I've been missing my Dad and my kids lately, and of the two children I have, I can only see Aerin. I haven't seen Summer since March of 04. So she basically had to talk her shit while I'm in the midst of a depression for no fucking reason whatsoever.

The sad thing is this ex "friend" of mine, has not ONCE been wronged by me ever. Sure people make mistakes and all and shit happens, but I cannot think of one fucking time aside from dating a friend of hers when I knew she had a crush on me that I have done shit to her. Hell, I'm not even sure that she was all that broken up about it, because I had a talk with her a year before that even happened and let her know that I wasn't interested in anything more than friendship with her in a very nice and creative way that in my eyes couldn't have made her feel rejected. The fact of the matter was, I cared about her a lot as a friend, but I was just not attracted to her. Blah.

While, she really upset me earlier, I'm not going to waste space in my head over it. She can choke on a gallon of ice cream for all I care.

[Hellion]

Its people like this that make society suck even more,let alone they get way too many rights,IMO

I am definately on your side dude!

[Homicidalheathen]

...train wrecks....and stuff like that.

[CixWicked]

I deeply sympathize, man. Extream sympathy.

Just to let you know how much I sympathize, I've got a 12 year old. When she was conceived the woman told everyone that she was another mans child. When she was born -obviously- biracial, she becomes my child by fiat of FOC forcing her to name a father. I was there for her the first 2 years of her life, then one day out of the blue she disappeared for 4 months. Shows up on my doorstep telling me that she's homeless, and that I need to take amber for a couple weeks. Which made me the happiest man on the planet. That 2 weeks turned into a year and a half.

She came around simi-frequently. Finally, my mother forced her to move in there, Where she lived for about another year, then went off, met a guy, married him, and took Amber back. About 5 months later, she got impregnated, and Disappeared with Amber. She was gone for 4 years. I got no help from FOC, the courts, AnYONE in finding my daughter. Hired a lawyer and a private investigator to find her and take her to court for court ordered visitation (Which was already in place). This whole affair cost me about $8 Grand. Of course, in the proceedings they changed my order of support from $200/month to $1000/ month. Which I gladly paid to see my daughter... who by then was 8 years old, and had -no clue- who the hell I was.

Oh and did I mention she had her name changed illegally, and never -knew- that the man she called daddy wasn't her real father.

Court ordered visitation was every other week, and one weekend a month. After about 9 months of this arrangement (Except I never got a weekend visit), she moved to North Carolina without permission of the court, or myself. FOC's reaction was. "Well looks like we'll have to have that visitation order changed up, cause it's no longer practical."

I have 4 children. I pay a total -TOTAL- of $1300/month child support, and Amber's Mom gets 1000.

Where's fairness?

My advice... don't ever give up, and never stop being a loving dad... even when it seems like life will be so much easier if you give up. You'll never forgive yourself.

All my thoughts, wishes, and preyrs are with you, while I struggle to get what's rightfully mine.

CixWicked.

[Homicidalheathen]

...on the other side of the coin here. I never asked my ex for a dime. I just wanted him to see his kids.

He got jelous of their step dad....was afraid the state would MAKE him pay, so he disappeared.

His loss.......

He actually said to me once he wished I had had a boy instead of two girls.

Asshole does not deserve kids.

[Kit Kat P]

I have a whole new coin for you. I was married for five years. I made my husband meet his daughter for the first time. She was 4 yr.s old at the time. I spent the 5 years raising for every summer, making a 8 hour drive to see her every other weekend and every holiday we could. Moved to Michigan for a bit to have more hands on raising her. I taught her each year, I got her thru each grade, she was failing w/ her mom. I love her. I miss her. I raised her for 5 years and not allowed to contact her or any way communicate with her until she's 18, and then it will be if I can find her. I miss her terribly. And I know what that family has probably told her about me and she will probably never want to see me again. this beautiful child that would cry out a nite for me when she had a nightmare, no else, me. And she had a big family. Ok I need to stop.

[CixWicked]

I have a whole new coin for you. I was married for five years. I made my husband meet his daughter for the first time. She was 4 yr.s old at the time. I spent the 5 years raising for every summer, making a 8 hour drive to see her every other weekend and every holiday we could. Moved to Michigan for a bit to have more hands on raising her. I taught her each year, I got her thru each grade, she was failing w/ her mom. I love her. I miss her. I raised her for 5 years and not allowed to contact her or any way communicate with her until she's 18, and then it will be if I can find her. I miss her terribly. And I know what that family has probably told her about me and she will probably never want to see me again. this beautiful child that would cry out a nite for me when she had a nightmare, no else, me. And she had a big family. Ok I need to stop.

It really sucks. People use children as weapons, and tools of revenge, and we wonder how so many people in the world are so fucked up.

I'm sorry Kit, sweetie. Miracles will happen. Don't give up hope.

Cix

[Homicidalheathen]

I am sorry for your heartbreak.

Truely makes me appreciate what I have.

Hugs babe.

[Msterbeau]

People use children as weapons, and tools of revenge, and we wonder how so many people in the world are so fucked up.

Quoted for truth. I stopped wondering years ago after I figured this out. Sad sad sad...

[Kit Kat P]

It's hard to watch the children come to the realization that they are being used and not just loved.