The Perils Of Dating

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

Well she is a bit um shallow and didn't show up anyway but I had a good time without her.

Poor sis, call me I need talk to you about something.

-CatsEye

[sass_in_the_pants]

The whole policy of 'I pay my half, you pay yours' I always found rather distasteful and I never practiced it. There is nothing that would kill the mood more than 'So, let's see, I had the chicken and that's $10.99, and the pop was $1.99, and then we split the desert, which was $5.99, so I would only owe three on that...'

Yeah, counting your nickels on a date, it just seemed a little more business than social, y'know?

So, Guy paid. On dates that were my idea...well, I think he still paid, mostly because he insisted. Still, I would occasionally call him to tell him that I had 'won' tickets to some event, or had some gift certificate I needed to use up, or some other excuse to get him to think I wasn't actually the one paying.

Oh yeah, and girls are crazy. For serious. My girlfriends call me all the time and say things like 'He said my dress was nice. What do you think that means?'

'Um, maybe that means your dress was nice?'

'Don't be ridiculous'

Right.

Sorry guys, but girls are nuts. Even the ones worth keeping are nuts.

[creatureofthenyte]

The whole policy of 'I pay my half, you pay yours' I always found rather distasteful and I never practiced it. There is nothing that would kill the mood more than 'So, let's see, I had the chicken and that's $10.99, and the pop was $1.99, and then we split the desert, which was $5.99, so I would only owe three on that...'

Yeah, counting your nickels on a date, it just seemed a little more business than social, y'know?

So, Guy paid. On dates that were my idea...well, I think he still paid, mostly because he insisted. Still, I would occasionally call him to tell him that I had 'won' tickets to some event, or had some gift certificate I needed to use up, or some other excuse to get him to think I wasn't actually the one paying.

Oh yeah, and girls are crazy. For serious. My girlfriends call me all the time and say things like 'He said my dress was nice. What do you think that means?'

'Um, maybe that means your dress was nice?'

'Don't be ridiculous'

Right.

Sorry guys, but girls are nuts. Even the ones worth keeping are nuts.

Agreed. Totally!!

I don't mind paying for dates. Its kind of an unwritten law for me that has become 2nd nature; I pay for the date, I open all the doors and let her walk in first; these are things I don't think about, I just do them, because to me, thats what the guy does.

If things go well enough that we get something goin on over time, and at some point, girl says, I want to pay for this one, then ok sure, thats cool.

I pay for the dates, but I will not pay her bills!!!

[sass_in_the_pants]

I pay for the dates, but I will not pay her bills!!!

Now, THAT is a good policy.

[FarrIL]

Forget the whole, "Don't talk about past relationships" bullshit. I WANT to hear about this stuff, this is usually a good indication of your character judgement. I'm not interested in spending my precious time with someone whom I don't feel worthy. I've learned that my time to me is more precious than gold.

A-F*cking-Men

[know_buddy_kares]

A-F*cking-Men

um you two... it's simple as, ex's are ex's for a reason, nothing more, nothing less. really there's only one more detail you can give, who's fault was it for the break up. I honestly don't care. Everyone has a past history, that's fine, if you're still friends with your ex, that's fine to, i'm still friends with some of mine.

Just one thing that's pushing the boundries, is NEVER show me who your ex's are... seriously, cuz then i'll see that you've been fucking THAT ugly grease ball before me and I won't wanna fuck you after that. Yes I have a shallow side to me, so what.

and just a disclaimer, this has not been directed towards anyone, it's a general statement. Most the time when i do see chicks with guys, i think to myself, what the fuck are they doing with that ugly shit stain. (and he normally has a shit attitude as well) so if i see a girl who's been attracted to something like that, i instantly assume that there's something seriously wrong with her and will avoid her at all costs.

[creatureofthenyte]

Forget the whole, "Don't talk about past relationships" bullshit. I WANT to hear about this stuff, this is usually a good indication of your character judgement.

Ya know, I was gonna come back with a contrasting perspective on your comment Hunhee, but while I was typing my reply, I was thinking about it and hence I just edited my reply, because what you said made some sense to me. If they talk about their past history, that could be a good indicator of whether you should stay with them and continue on, or if you should run fer yer life! lol.

[Homicidalheathen]

Thats true. Sometimes this lady who is usually rather together does things that make me scratch my head and just go 'huh?'

She invited me out last night but I stayed home then got a call from a guy I have not seen in a long time and we went out and I had a much better time than if I had went out with her and listened to her bitch about men for a good half hour or so before the fun part.

Me and buddy got right to the fun part. LOL

(I like men cause they are simple)

The whole policy of 'I pay my half, you pay yours' I always found rather distasteful and I never practiced it. There is nothing that would kill the mood more than 'So, let's see, I had the chicken and that's $10.99, and the pop was $1.99, and then we split the desert, which was $5.99, so I would only owe three on that...'

Yeah, counting your nickels on a date, it just seemed a little more business than social, y'know?

So, Guy paid. On dates that were my idea...well, I think he still paid, mostly because he insisted. Still, I would occasionally call him to tell him that I had 'won' tickets to some event, or had some gift certificate I needed to use up, or some other excuse to get him to think I wasn't actually the one paying.

Oh yeah, and girls are crazy. For serious. My girlfriends call me all the time and say things like 'He said my dress was nice. What do you think that means?'

'Um, maybe that means your dress was nice?'

'Don't be ridiculous'

Right.

Sorry guys, but girls are nuts. Even the ones worth keeping are nuts.

[Daevion]

Actually, I find women to be fairly easy.....they're not nearly as complex as one would believe.....like most things its a myth!! haha

[Homicidalheathen]

OH she is complicated. We (friends and I) were discussing her 'list' of dating criterea.......its looong. She will be single forever with this frickin list.

Men are complicated too....they pull some crap thats for sure.......but at least you know this, food, sex and a head rub and they are happy.

[hunhee]

Ya know, I was gonna come back with a contrasting perspective on your comment Hunhee, but while I was typing my reply, I was thinking about it and hence I just edited my reply, because what you said made some sense to me. If they talk about their past history, that could be a good indicator of whether you should stay with them and continue on, or if you should run fer yer life! lol.

That's what I meant by I wanna know this stuff. I have some logic behind my madness

It also goes with the "my time is valuable" type of thing. I really do think time is the greatest gift you can give to anyone.

[CatsEyeOfTheWiccan]

That's what I meant by I wanna know this stuff. I have some logic behind my madness

It also goes with the "my time is valuable" type of thing. I really do think time is the greatest gift you can give to anyone.

I agree Hunhee..time is nye'..and prious as every memory.

-CatsEye

[Homicidalheathen]

Thats true. I am picky about who I spend time with so its not a waste....usually I have good judgement....but it takes time to get to really know someone, so there is bound to be loss here and there. Its a risk you take.

I know when I am with him I am happy and can't stop smiling so for now its the right thing to do....he makes me happier than she does right now since all she does is bitch about men pretty much and get drunk.

[torn asunder]

It also goes with the "my time is valuable" type of thing. I really do think time is the greatest gift you can give to anyone.

that's why you should only date multiple people at a time. (and i mean "date" not serious commitment) once you find someone who seems worthwhile, *then* settle into a "relationship" with them, don't waste time dating exclusively, when you don't even know the person that well - you might miss out on someone else!!

[creatureofthenyte]

That's what I meant by I wanna know this stuff. I have some logic behind my madness

It also goes with the "my time is valuable" type of thing. I really do think time is the greatest gift you can give to anyone.

Well I agree with that.

See the rebuttle I was trying to come back at you with was something like this example :

If your new guy talks about past history i.e. : past relationships and you learn about his past gf's, if he talked glowingly about them, wouldn't you feel like you were being compared to them? Like, if they were so great then why didn't you stay with them or if they were/are so great why is he with YOU ?

I was always told that bringing up certain things about the past were a no no. But anyway, I just wanted to share with you, the thoughts that I was thinking of, and the reply that I didnt post, initially anyway, because what you said made sense, which lead to me editing my post.

[hunhee]

Well I agree with that.

See the rebuttle I was trying to come back at you with was something like this example :

If your new guy talks about past history i.e. : past relationships and you learn about his past gf's, if he talked glowingly about them, wouldn't you feel like you were being compared to them? Like, if they were so great then why didn't you stay with them or if they were/are so great why is he with YOU ?

I was always told that bringing up certain things about the past were a no no. But anyway, I just wanted to share with you, the thoughts that I was thinking of, and the reply that I didnt post, initially anyway, because what you said made sense, which lead to me editing my post.

Well then, I guess he should be with that other girl, and I'd have to wonder if he thinks she's so fantastic, she may not have thought that he was so fantastic, and it would be my job to find out why. *shrugs*

I don't expect the person to be like.. WOW so-and-so was so GOOD in bed.. she would do.. such-and-such thing.. i don't mean that.. I wouldn't date you if you were like that. But I'm always interested in knowing the person, and the ex's are part of their past. Now, if you're not comfortable about talking about your past, then I would also wonder what you did in your past that was so bad.

[creatureofthenyte]

Well then, I guess he should be with that other girl, and I'd have to wonder if he thinks she's so fantastic, she may not have thought that he was so fantastic, and it would be my job to find out why. *shrugs*

I don't expect the person to be like.. WOW so-and-so was so GOOD in bed.. she would do.. such-and-such thing.. i don't mean that.. I wouldn't date you if you were like that. But I'm always interested in knowing the person, and the ex's are part of their past. Now, if you're not comfortable about talking about your past, then I would also wonder what you did in your past that was so bad.

I would talk about my past, even though it might upset me at times, I wouldn't duck a question.

[Homicidalheathen]

...I should listen to my heart/gut. Would save me allot of trouble. Have had an ex who talked sooo nasty about ALL of his failed relationships and never keeps ex's as friends.......I knew he was trouble.....someone like that has mental issues.

I have lots of ex's as friends hell, its not going to work out everytime......

There must have been enough there to maintain a friendship if you were willing to sleep with them, no?

Its best not to talk so nasty about the past it makes you look wierd.

[Kit Kat P]

So this last week I got hit on and asked out by a couple of women, which made me feel good

Then I heard their stories, sheesh