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When does it become gossip Is what I wanna know. When I was in SRF it was easy to follow the rule of not talking bad about ANYONE ever because I was a working mom who never got out of the house.

Now that I have a social life again I find myself getting caught up in the whole he said, she said b/s.

However....the other day me and a mutual friend of this lady I know were talking....and, if we had not opened up about our suspicions about her neither of us would have figured out FOR SURE that there are issues with her we would rather not have around us right now. Before chatting it was just a hunch....now I am sure.....so, that being said....I feel it was the right thing to do at the time.

Anything beyond this is gossip I guess.......and so I shall no longer hang out with her for now or talk about her......I guess.

So I guess its ok if your figuring things out.....but beyond that.....maybe not?

As long as it isn't going to hurt anyone its no ones buisness but this kind of thing could hurt someone being nearby so we chatted.....I don't think it was wrong and its not like I am telling everyone what we figured out to be true.....

And, since she is always asking to borrow money and uses legit excuses.....I saved him the trouble of loaning and not getting paid back, as I did. So I did a good deed in a way. I think.

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Sort of a philosophical question about what is valid use of time and what isn't.

There isn't anything "mean" attached to the term gossip, if its not meant to be mean/malicious The bad part (supposedly) about gossip is that its a waste of time is just idle talk for the sake of talk-entertainment.

If the information is actually important/useful then i think it goes out of being "gossip" and is actually "informative." Probably 90% of the posts on DGN could be considered gossip.

1. idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others: the endless gossip about Hollywood stars.

2. light, familiar talk or writing.

3. Also, gos·sip·er, gos·sip·per. a person given to tattling or idle talk.

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