Depressed?

[freydis]

If you're depressed, please, get help.

Don't let friends or family members find your remains in your house.

My aunt linda, after having to deal with her son hanging himself in his closet 30 years ago, now has to deal with her husband blowing his head off in their home now, too.

Instead of leaving sad and scarred friends and family behind, get help. We'd rather see you alive, and really would like to help you.

That is all.....

[hunhee]

wow..I'm sorry to hear that :(

My brother committed suicide almost 5 years ago. . The pain never goes away, Time doesn't heal from this, it's like what I said before.. Life just gives you more shit to worry/think about, and averts your attention.

I agree, if you need help get it. If you need someone to talk to, PM me, I'll give you my number.

You may think that there's a huge burdon on you now, but you cannot imagine the burdon you are putting on your family and loved ones by leaving them behind like this.

[Destroit]

So very true, the only problem is that people who are depressed to that point usually don't see that they have a whole world around them full of amazingocity and moreover people who love them, which to me is the true tragedy. I know firsthandedly what it feels like to really want to die, let's just say I had some rocky high school years, no matter what anyone told me or did for me it didn't matter. If I was in a depression, I could NOT be made happy, I even tried to take my own life I think twice..? Looking back it was so horribly stupid, it's the only thing I'm glad I failed at. My momma always thought I was stupid for it, her whole philosophy is that in the vast sea of existance as individuals we're only here for the BLINK of an eye, why not just see where that blink leads? I mean the "worst" thing that could really happen to you is you dying (I put in quotations 'cause some people have greater fears of others dying, so I know not everyone will agree). The even sadder cases are the people who try to reach out for help and get nothing back like my cousin for instance. Last year she took a huge amount of pills, possibly trying to do the "reaching out for help" mock suicide thing (i.e. she wanted someone to rescue her, it is in her nature so that's why we made that presumption), but my aunt was at wits end with her because her daughter had a history of mental health issues so she decided that night she would take the "tough love" approach and not go upstairs to check on her. Big mistake, had she gone up there like her urges told her Kristen would still be alive right now. It may not seem much because she was only a cousin, but that family literally raised me, my mom and aunt traded kids back and forth all the time so she was more of a sister b/c I was an only child myself and every so often I still cry about it especially if I hear any of "her songs" from when we were kids. It's a sad world sometimes, most people are helpable and every once in a big while you run into someone who for some reason can't be fixed.

Like I said in my other post, sorry to hear about the turmoil in your family atm, just know you've always got your DGN family around :

[Scary Guy]

I doubt anyone here would really care if I disappeared off the board, some might applaud it. At least my depression is always with me.

However due to an immense fear of the unknown or the most likely "void" that exists, I doubt I'll be doing anything drastic any time soon.

[Fierce Critter]

Munin, I'm so sorry to hear about this. How tragic for your aunt and your family.

I've been sharing my fight with depression here on DGN for about 2+ years now. Sometimes, I think I bring up the D-word too often. But then again, one of the major tragedies of depression is that too many people are afraid to talk about it, discuss it. It makes it something to be ashamed of, something to be carefully tucked into a drawer and not aired out for others to see.

Bullshit. We need to talk about it. Bring it to the table. De-mistify it so that people can realize it's a genuine, physiological condition that is legitimate and can be successfully treated.

My own life and the lives of those around me have been impacted directly by my depression. When I realized that what "was wrong with me" was clinical depression and started getting help, that's when I was able to realize that my mother has probably been suffering with untreated depression pretty much my entire life. I've been able to talk about my own illness with her in a way to try to encourage her to get some kind of help for herself.

It's an uphill battle with her. She's 82 years old and stubborn. And my parents are of a generation that either outright don't believe in psychological condition or in treatment for it. I'm afraid she'll die never having been treated.

Depression sucks. That's an understatement. It so much more sucks because of the tendency for people to brush it off as something someone "just needs to get over" or can always be treated with things like vitamins, exercise, introspection. It's a physical condition caused by chemical and electrical misfirings in the brain. You wouldn't tell a person with pneumonia to take vitamins, exercise or just "get over it." The sooner people learn that depression is not "all in a person's head," the sooner people can start understanding it, getting help for it, and helping others with it.

[freydis]

He tried once about two years ago to kill himself, but he called his work office to tell them so, and they were able to call the police and stop him. (He was a trucker, and he was calling from the truck. Those have GPS, and they got the local cops there, who stopped him.)

I haven't seen him in a LONG time, but my brother had just seen him last week, when they all went hunting. He said he'd seemed alright at the time.

It really hasn't hit me as hard because I haven't seen him in so long, but I really feel bad for my brother (who still saw him a few times a year) and for my dad. I may never want to speak to him again, but I still feel bad for him that his brother is gone. This whole thing has also made my mother worry, because my father's side of the family now has yet another suicide in it's history. And my brother is getting treated for a possible anxiety problem.

This sort of thing..... it's just really messed up.

And i'm really sorry i hadn't gotten a chance to see him lately.... :/

He lived in Tennessee.....

[Hellion]

I know a couple close friends that did suceed and yes it sucks,very sorry to hear about your relative.

Unfortunately ppl who have this hide it very well and that is why its hard to prevent,also the one thing that has alway and always will,it the idea of people outcasting someone who has depression,and doing nothing to help them,except make their lives even more miserable,which to me makes me sick.considering I have manic and lately have been actually for once in several years to be able to control it,getting more sleep helps along with avoiding ephedrine,and not thinking too much on the f%$king debts(bills) that I have,which are now for most part under control.let alone my hateing attitude is finally going away.

The only people who understand depression are the ones who either have it been around someone who has it,or a psychiatrist/psychologist,IMO.opinion for myself.

[Scales]

It's hard dealing with death. I've had friends who've had to live with loved ones taking their lives, and it's obviously affected them a lot.

Depression seeps in and grows until it gets to a point where it paralyzes you, makes you feel a very hollow, painful feeling. Your thinking grows obsessive, and negative. You forget everything around you and your too weak to do simple tasks. You have trouble getting up when you wake up because you can't find a point. Certain thoughts can completely paralyze you. You become irritable and disconnected, often without even noticing it. The world can become surreal and you can find yourself hovering around it.

Then there are times where depression can get to a point where it goes on overdrive into a nervous breakdown. Where the pain inside of you multiplies itself and is the closest emotional responses can reach a definition of hell without physical pain.

I've gotten through depression and social anxiety for years. I've made a lot of progress with the anxiety. The depression is something I will probably have to live with, I can get rid of it for awhile sometimes but it always makes it's way back. I've also went through more nervous breakdowns in my life than I can count. Breakdowns are temporary and by understanding that they are going to pass a person can avert endangering themselves.

I am extremely strong-willed. All I have to say is that when everything in life seems hopeless, every person in your life who is a negative influence can fuck off, forget they exist as much as possible and focus on what helps you cope. Coping is everything, and there are endless ways of coping which have nothing to do with communication or prescription drugs, not that those can't both be extremely effective.

Taking in creation and creating alone can help immensely in getting rid of severe depression temporarily. I've probably created over thirty tracks in FL Studio, and in my time when I'm alone I'm always working on music, reading, or writing. Literature and music can be extremely soothing when your having trouble in life. Many people don't understand that art and culture is all around them.

[Winter Steele]

Sorry to hear about the suicides in your Family munin. I have tried so many times but lately I thank god for my family and Dgners being there for me. I currently have been fired twice in the last couple of months one job was there for a year then the next was there two months was in one of my depressed moods and told them I had manic depression type 2 Then was fired shortly after that.

[Hellion]

Sorry to hear about the suicides in your Family munin. I have tried so many times but lately I thank god for my family and Dgners being there for me. I currently have been fired twice in the last couple of months one job was there for a year then the next was there two months was in one of my depressed moods and told them I had manic depression type 2 Then was fired shortly after that.

I would have filed a lawsuit that is illegal,and bs

[SuZQZ]

Munin, I'm so sorry for you and your family. So much tragedy, so heartbreaking. *HUGZ*

[Winter Steele]

I would have filed a lawsuit that is illegal,and bs

It is total BS as for the lawsuit who knows dont have the money for one.

[jadnifer]

Im sorry to hear about your family

[DJ Nocker]

If you're depressed, please, get help.

Don't let friends or family members find your remains in your house.

My aunt linda, after having to deal with her son hanging himself in his closet 30 years ago, now has to deal with her husband blowing his head off in their home now, too.

Instead of leaving sad and scarred friends and family behind, get help. We'd rather see you alive, and really would like to help you.

That is all.....

sorry to hear, but its a lot easier to say someone should get help than it is to actually do it.

[Homicidalheathen]

I agree, its a thoughtless act when you have family.

My sister in law lost her husband this way......found his brains splattered all over the bedroom.

I don't mean to sound cruel but if your going to off yourself........don't do it where your loved ones are going to find this mess.

[Tryp]

Depression is apart of my syndrome. But I don't believe in anti-depressents.

[predaking]

i've had bouts of depression, it is a horid thing. Munin, i'm sorry for your loss.

[jadnifer]

Sometimes the hardest thing about having depression is the fact of other people not understanding what you are going through.

I happen to be bi-polar and a lot of people dont understand it.

I have heard everything from you are just lazy to get up and do something and it will go away to them screaming at me that its all in my head.

That just makes the depression worse.

I know all too well that some people can mask depression VERY VERY well. Thats why sometimes people dont realize it until its too late.

For my fellow DGNers that suffer from this...please get help before its too late.

Yes your friends and family will miss you but so will we.

To everyone that has been affected by this: