Tooting My own Horn

[Lilith]

I am not sure if any of you have noticed....... i have not posted nor have i been on dgn alot.......well this is why...........

my life has been hell, i have had some really messed up crap happen in the past few weeks that have made me about loose my mind... literallly....... But things are starting to seem better and i am rather proud of what we have accomplished here in my little world.

A good friend of mine lost her job, her boyfriend and indirectly her home, i have helped her out with a place to stay, a full belly, and friendship. She is now (for the most part) all moved in to her own place with another good friend of hers. I am very happy for her.... she now has a bit responsibility to kick her butt back in to gear, and i know she is loving her own space.

Another good friend of mine was arrested in my drive way, freaked me out, and worried me for ever and a day about what they might be looking for. All the cops wanted was my friend which they got peacfully, My friend is still in jail, he had his court date yesterday i think and i am having a hell of a time finding out what happen. I think he will be away for some time, i wish there was more i cuold do to help him but alas sometimes we all need ot learn our own lessons. The only thing i can do is be a good friend, visit him, write and be supportive. I know this and i have accepted it and happy with it.

My house was in foreclosure.... about $4000.00 behind.... and they had the sale date set for April 15, well after a month of freaking out selling off personal items, lestat being away for 2 1/2 weeks and only making $835, me working at the bar just about non stop, pleading/ begging with the mortage comapny, we have gotten a repayment plan worked out and i paid off about half of the past due amount, and i get to keep my house. Which by the way is the house i grew up in with a twist, when i got the hosue Lestat and i totally started to redo it,(been working on this house for 2 years now) we have done all the work our selves and probally have more intrest in this house then just a home or profit. This house has so much meaning, if you guys could only see what we have done/ been through to get hwere we are today, you would so understand. Not to mention is about the last thing i have left from when my mom passed.

My eltric was turned off and due to the fact i was trying to save my house, i could not pay it, i went through all the appropiate state/ charity channels and have now gotten that taken care off. It is all paid up, no i did not actually pay it up with my own hard earned money but i have been working so hard, and i feel so much better knowing i took steps to keep thing going around here.

Lestat and i have had some major fights, mostly due to stress i am sure but, in the end i think we worked out some of our major conflicts. I am feeling really relieved we made it through and we still love each other. Mostly i am lookign foward to the next tiem we hit high stress, it should run smother as both of us realized how we can make it better for each other next time around.

At work i finally let another co worker into my life a bit, ( something i normally dont do i so try to keep my personal life out of work), any how i am glad i did cause she does charity work and she offered to see if she can help me get back on track with my gas and water bill. Once again no it will not be taken care with my own hard earned money but to be basically caught up will make thing a whole lot easier to keep thing paid up, and i am feeling so good about being proactive now and taking step to keep things from falling right back into the black hole.

Lestat finally got his Electrical appernticship license in the mail while all of this was happening.... WOOO HOOOO a whole new job market just opened up for him. He has allways wanted to be an electrician, and i can not be more happy to see part of his dream happen.

All in all things are not toally in the clear, but they are looking up (thank GOD) and that alone makes it so much easier to handle everything and keep it on the right track.

thanks fer reading my rambles i was feeling great and need to bragg a bit

lilith =)

[Brenda Starrr]

Aww, hon. I'm glad things are getting better for you! I can tell you that Wayne and I have been there, as recently as six months ago. We could barely feed the kids, keep our apartment, much less the gas/electric, and the cars. Arguments over money/financial issues is one of the number one causes of broken marriages. It's so damned hard to get through, and you and Brian need each other. You need to continue to be strong for your kids, as well as for yourselves. You'll get through it. Just be supportive of each other.

[Onyx]

I've been there too, and very proud of myself for going through hell and coming out sane.

You should be very very proud of yourself!

[Black Sunday]

I had no idea you were going thru all of that stuff, I wish I had known....

[Fierce Critter]

I'm so glad things are looking up for you.

I know where you're at. My husband and I bought our first home in December, 2002 and ended up not being able to make payments after March, 2003. This was mainly due to shady business dealings by the mortgage broker who got us the mortgage on exagerrated information he scraped up to get us approved on a mortgage we should never have been given. Anyway, we were near foreclosure but ended up selling the house in only 30 days on a pre-foreclosure sale that ended up saving us from having a foreclosure on our record. Things couldn't have worked out better. We have almost a year of unpaid mortgage payments on our record as a result (long story, but HUD told us to stop paying so we did), but it's MUCH better than a foreclosure would have been.

I can't imagine losing a house that meant as much to me as yours does to you. It makes me feel good that things are working out for you.

And those of us who benefit from the kind of charitable services you are tend to be the ones to give back in kind. So don't feel bad, but instead greatful.

Here's to better days ahead!

[Lilith]

PHEW.........................

i dont what type of good vibes you guys are putting out but keep them comming plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

more good news...............

We Got our Pat Back.............

went to pick the kids up from school and when i got back Squee was at my house with Pat....... he is out untill sentencing with some strict conditions which i must admit i am pleased about.......

just wanted to share and tell all of you thank you for your words of support it is very much appeciated

luv you all

Harmony

[JaneDead]

glad to hear things are looking up for everyone it seems!

[LadyWindstone]

YAY! Congrats. Glad things are looking up. I'll keep sending good vibes until everything is settled.

[Lilith]

you guys have no idea (well i know some of you do) how on top of the world i am feeling right now.......... The high has lessen a bit but is till feel so damn good and positive and i know that is what we need to keep the blessings comming.

I will probally keep up dating this thread as i go, i am finding out talking about the good i am doing is makeing me feel alot better, maybe just the fact that i can keep reminding my self here that i am doign what i can helps and then of course reading all of your posts helps alot too............

All i know is i dont want this to end i just want to keep getting better...... it is time for my world to flourish with wonderfulness........ the sadness has to stop.........

lilith

[squee]

i f-in love you