Having To Date Again After 6+ Years

[Daevion]

I've been trying to avoid the whole idea of getting out there again but eventually it has to be done. After being with the same girl for over 6 years or so I find myself completely out of the loop with the whole dating thing! Hell, I don't know where to start.....I suppose there is always CC but those always end in disaster. I find myself reluctant to date anyone!! I'm not even sure why that is. I have very little confidence in the whole dating concept....I know there are some others in the same boat so.....any suggestions?

[SuZQZ]

So don't date for the time being. Take a break. Keep focusing on yourself and just slow down. Hang out with friends, make new friends, mingle... when the time is right someone will spark your interest, and you theirs, and you can take it from there. It's worked for me. I am really interested in meeting people and making new friends. If there is chemistry with someone I meet, then I move forward. Either way, it's win-win. Either a new lasting friendship is forged or maybe something more.

Good luck to you. You are such a sweet, fun, charming, and handsome guy that you'll have the girls lined up at your door in no time.

[Hellion]

I'm with you on this one,I never ever will bother with dating,its a waste of my time,I have my career which is far more important then being with someone,good luck Davean

[know_buddy_kares]

I just don't like dating because it's always one of the following...

they try to continuously make you compete with other guys,

they're empathetically dead and don't care what someone else feels,

they only want money,

they're fucking batshit insane

they can't get past the 7th grade mentality

*edit*

oh yeah, one more thing... people now a days don't realize their worth/place. Nothing is a bigger disinterest than trying to talk to someone who tries to make you work harder than what their worth... it's like trying to make you spend $20 for a $5 cheesburger in terms of effort. Most people really do need a reality check and realize they're not some diva or don johnson and get reacquainted with reality

[creatureofthenyte]

I would suggest taking time for yourself. And keep your eyes open when you do get back into the scene.

[Steven]

just dont be a Don Johnson.

(had to do it)

I dont know your sitch but you sound like a good guy, so I would simply say that to attract a quality pro active person into your life then you need to be that same type of person, so invest in you, and allow those doors to open aws your doing it. Sure you can get lucky and meet somebody at a club, but it seems so much better to meet someone while doign something healthy that you love to do. For me to really be attracted to somebody I'd ahve to admire them first, you know?

[Marmee_Noir]

Good Luck dahlin! You're going to need it.. Wait I need it, gimme back that luck!

[Msterbeau]

Rosy Palm is hot. Check her out.

[xbittergracex]

I agree...the harder you try....the harder its going to be.

Go where you want, do what you want....and if something is meant to be there it will.

I didn't date for 2 years for a different reason, but its hard once you start 'TRYING'.

However...if you have 'needs' and whatnot...then just go out and have fun and just let things fall into place....

Good Luck sweets!

[Daevion]

I just don't like dating because it's always one of the following...

they try to continuously make you compete with other guys,

they're empathetically dead and don't care what someone else feels,

they only want money,

they're fucking batshit insane

they can't get past the 7th grade mentality

*edit*

oh yeah, one more thing... people now a days don't realize their worth/place. Nothing is a bigger disinterest than trying to talk to someone who tries to make you work harder than what their worth... it's like trying to make you spend $20 for a $5 cheesburger in terms of effort. Most people really do need a reality check and realize they're not some diva or don johnson and get reacquainted with reality

thats some damn good advice......as for the second part ( the edit ), I know what you mean...I've gone out with girls like that in the past...it was one of those situations where I wanted to laugh but couldn't...if that makes sense.

[hunhee]

I think I get an allergic reaction to the thought of dating *starts to scratch*. It's awkward, and uncomfortable, and I hate when they don't let me pay for my share, because i don't want them to EXPECT anything, because I'll tell you right now, they won't get it. I'm definitely not a prude, but I just don't want there to be any mistake.

AND like Marc said Rosy Palm is always available and also usually her sister Miss Michigan.

Don't force anything, let things happen naturally.

[know_buddy_kares]

thats some damn good advice......as for the second part ( the edit ), I know what you mean...I've gone out with girls like that in the past...it was one of those situations where I wanted to laugh but couldn't...if that makes sense.

that doesn't stop me, i laugh right in their face and walk off! Speaking of wich... me and some friends have sat down and made a top ten list of all the traits a girl looks for in a guy here in america these days...

1)lack of a job

2)lack of hygene

3)lack of decent looks even if person had good hygene

4)lack of good personalty, or just lack of personality all together

5)lack of self worth/self respect, and lacks respect for others

6)must be drunk and/or druggie

7)maturity level may never pass the 6th grade level

8)must have no future

9)must have no hope for a future

10)most likely sucks at sex

[Hellion]

that doesn't stop me, i laugh right in their face and walk off! Speaking of wich... me and some friends have sat down and made a top ten list of all the traits a girl looks for in a guy here in america these days...

1)lack of a job

2)lack of hygene

3)lack of decent looks even if person had good hygene

4)lack of good personalty, or just lack of personality all together

5)lack of self worth/self respect, and lacks respect for others

6)must be drunk and/or druggie

7)maturity level may never pass the 6th grade level

8)must have no future

9)must have no hope for a future

10)most likely sucks at sex

LMAO!!!!!!!so true,but you forgot two things

11.Must be a thankless bastard,unappreciating,talks behind others backs,LOL!!!

12,In and out of court and Jail.

[Onyx]

I know the type you're talking about, but not everyone is like that. Sounds like you fellows need to change the places you're hanging out and quit meeting useless losers.

[FarrIL]

1)lack of a job [Nate]

2)lack of hygene [Nate]

3)lack of decent looks even if person had good hygene [Nate]

4)lack of good personalty, or just lack of personality all together [Nate]

5)lack of self worth/self respect, and lacks respect for others [Nate]

6)must be drunk and/or druggie [NATE]

7)maturity level may never pass the 6th grade level [Nate]

8)must have no future [Obviously Nate]

9)must have no hope for a future [obviously Nate]

10)most likely sucks at sex [never had it with Nate.... thank God]

I added my own shpeel to this post

Wow, I was tolerant!! o_0

[Hellion]

that doesn't stop me, i laugh right in their face and walk off! Speaking of wich... me and some friends have sat down and made a top ten list of all the traits a girl looks for in a guy here in america these days...

1)lack of a job

2)lack of hygene

3)lack of decent looks even if person had good hygene

4)lack of good personalty, or just lack of personality all together

5)lack of self worth/self respect, and lacks respect for others

6)must be drunk and/or druggie

7)maturity level may never pass the 6th grade level

8)must have no future

9)must have no hope for a future

10)most likely sucks at sex

Yeah NBK,its good that us dudes don't fit the class of that kind of garbage and unfortunately being good,hardworking,honest,and smart,and also not being a wannabe (wigger),goes against us than for us in this country.but hey we have our true friends and family members,thats what counts.

[Daevion]

I think I get an allergic reaction to the thought of dating *starts to scratch*. It's awkward, and uncomfortable, and I hate when they don't let me pay for my share, because i don't want them to EXPECT anything, because I'll tell you right now, they won't get it. I'm definitely not a prude, but I just don't want there to be any mistake.

AND like Marc said Rosy Palm is always available and also usually her sister Miss Michigan.

Don't force anything, let things happen naturally.

well it isn't ALL about sex......I'm pretty much a prude for the most part anyway...if they're ready to give it up too fast than I lose interest fast.

[Steven]

I know the type you're talking about, but not everyone is like that. Sounds like you fellows need to change the places you're hanging out and quit meeting useless losers.

exactly.

jeez christ people....

[Steven]

I think I get an allergic reaction to the thought of dating *starts to scratch*. It's awkward, and uncomfortable, and I hate when they don't let me pay for my share, because i don't want them to EXPECT anything, because I'll tell you right now, they won't get it. I'm definitely not a prude, but I just don't want there to be any mistake.

AND like Marc said Rosy Palm is always available and also usually her sister Miss Michigan.

Don't force anything, let things happen naturally.

damn Im fucking old.

so what yrou sayin is that if a dude pays for your meal then he's supposed to get some?

in fact now that I think about it, there are a couple of ladies in here that I've bought Bray's and breakfast for....dammit somebody owes me some poon apparently.....

and if the guy you go on a date with is someone you have to worry about because he bought your Mongolian Barbecue, well then isint he exactly what you DONT want?

now obviously I am loyal to The Lola and I dont qualify, but still I have many times bought dinner or breakfast or whatever for a friend, and even back in my slutty days I did that, when all i meant by it was "hey I dig you have some grub".... did doing something "just because" fly out the window and now everythign is a pressure filled unspoken agreement? Cause if I were dating again Id sure be sending out some mixed signals.....

[Der Nister]

so what yrou sayin is that if a dude pays for your meal then he's supposed to get some?

*Thinks about all the dinners/drinks & movies I've paid for for women over the years and didn't expect any poon out of it.*

[Hellion]

well it isn't ALL about sex......I'm pretty much a prude for the most part anyway...if they're ready to give it up too fast than I lose interest fast.

True,but Europe and Australia have alot more potentialalso if she is a heavy drinker druggie or irresponsible,I have no interest,no matter where she is from.

[Head Wreck]

be a cunt.

womens reproductuive urges not only look at physical fitness/attrqaction, but wherther the mate can defend the offspring, and that the offspring has a chance of picking up those traits.

but i'm just a cynical cunt

[know_buddy_kares]

I know the type you're talking about, but not everyone is like that. Sounds like you fellows need to change the places you're hanging out and quit meeting useless losers.

sadly, everywhere I go I meet people just like previously stated, fortunately I'm quick to catch on if they're attracted to trashy traits, and that in it's self is a trashy trait that I'll steer clear of as quickly as possible.

FarrIL, you made me laugh immensely with your added spiel on my top ten count down...

[Hellion]

sadly, everywhere I go I meet people just like previously stated, fortunately I'm quick to catch on if they're attracted to trashy traits, and that in it's self is a trashy trait that I'll steer clear of as quickly as possible.

FarrIL, you made me laugh immensely with your added spiel on my top ten count down...

Its way too common in our society,most,("not all") women like assholes,convicts,lazy POS,etc etc

then there are some dudes that like trash too.never will be able to figure this out.

Like you I will not tolerate trash either,any sign of immoral values,is a red flag.

back in the 80's and 90's it was so much better.LOL!!F$#k this millenium bs,LOL!!IMO

[Steven]

be a cunt.

womens reproductuive urges not only look at physical fitness/attrqaction, but wherther the mate can defend the offspring, and that the offspring has a chance of picking up those traits.

but i'm just a cynical cunt

I always chuckle at you clinical ones and then are led to wonder how your own relationship lives are doing....