Father's Rights?

[phee]

Men have no reproductive rights. It's wrong. I honestly don't have a full idea of how this can be fixed. One law or court case can not define, let alone decide this issue. I just know that it is a problem that we as a people neet to do something about.

I agree.... the amounts are negotiable, but men should have more then they have now.

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

Maybe when women earn the same in the workplace we can balance the reproductive rights.... like a trade.

Why should we ignore any social ill in favor of another. Equal Rights are what we are fighting for. For everyone, not just minority's and women.

[saechalyn]

Men have no reproductive rights. It's wrong. I honestly don't have a full idea of how this can be fixed. One law or court case can not define, let alone decide this issue. I just know that it is a problem that we as a people neet to do something about.

Me neither. If anybody does, I'd be very interested to hear it.

[phee]

Why should we ignore any social ill in favor of another. Equal Rights are what we are fighting for. For everyone, not just minority's and women.

It was meant to be a joke...

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

It may have been... but it has been used and still is used to validate men not having rights.

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

I got pregnant, once, told the guy (i was dating him, at the time)

He acted like i told him it was raining outside.

I waited, we talked about it again, a few days later, he told me it was my decision, and my body, he didn't care, either way.

Didn't try to talk me out of doing something that I was against. I ended up moving home, because it hurt me so bad.

Family came to a decision, which was basically I get an abortion, or raise the baby on my own. I was 17 at the time. Still in high school, no job, no car.

And yes, before you say anything, I was on birth control, and the damn condom came off... yeah, that was fun... (not really.... kinda embarrassing at the moment)

So yeah.....

It sucked. I gave him a say so, and he didn't want it. That spoke mountains to me, about how he felt about it.

A friend of mine, the day before i had the operation, told me that if i wanted to change my mind, he would back me up, claim it as his, and help me raise the child. It was sweet of him, but unrealistic. (we had a long conversation about it all). I respect him for that, if nothing else....

I think that the father of the child should have a say. If he doesn't want the child, and the woman is against abortion, for whatever reason, then he should help with finding a adoptive family for the baby, or they should write up legal documents stating that he is not financially responsible for that baby. Its not enough anymore to just sign over your rights.

Anyways.... yeah....

And I'm sorry, i think that they should change laws about little girls getting raped, and having to go through a pregnancy just because they are legally too young for an abortion. That's dumb. Forcing little 9 year olds to have babies because the state thinks she is too young to go through a damn surgical procedure to end a pregnancy.

(story on the news a few years back)

I'm not happy with my family's or my ex's decision, and I have to live with it, for the rest of my life. It haunts me. And the sad thing is, I might not ever be able to have children. (that's a long story, and isn't related to the abortion)

Anyways.

Yeah...

[bean]

I grew up in a family that was pro-abortion. They liked to say they were pro-choice, but they weren't. There was no choice. It was written in stone that if I ever got pregnant I would have an abortion. End of story. No discussion, no consulting the father, nothing. I had no say in the matter.

I thought and still think that is wrong.

That's the kind of thing that makes a scared 16 year old make very bad decisions.

I am pro-choice and feel that each option (keeping the child, abortion, adoption) should be considered and discussed. Each person and each situation is different, so every option needs to be explored.

None of the decisions are easy to make, and no one can fully understand that unless they've been there.

As far as father's rights, for me personally, it would depend on the situation. If I got pregnant from a one night stand, I would not consult him. If I chose to keep it, I would not go after him for child support. If I was in a committed relationship, I would want to discuss it and come to a decision that we both agree on.

The eternal and I have discussed this at great length (the what if I got pregnant question, and how we feel about having children). We are both in the same place about a few things, and are in very different places about others.

This doesn't mean that he has more rights than I or that I have more rights than him.

If I were to get pregnant, we would discuss what would be the best option for us - not what is best for just him or just me, or just what I want or just what he wants. We would consider all factors. It is not about just "me" or just "him" but "us", so it would be a decision that we made together and what would be best for "us".

[EAF (1)]

I agree that men are being pushed around a little when it comes to reproductive and sexual rights...okay well more than a little...however the problem is in deciding like stated before the "compensation" of such things. When the real problem occurs when two "parents" to be are not even mature enough to see themselves as an "us" but rather an "I want this" or "I want that". This is, in my opinion, where things get tricky.

I personally am pro-choice, which if my family knew they would persoanlly kill me since abortion is simply out of the question. Now I do not believe I would ever be able to actually get an abortion since I personally would feel horrible about it just within my own heart because I just couldn't ever bring myself to do it. But I would take into account what the father wanted as well as circumstance.

It does vary by circumstance and with most people I do believe the situation is very possibly seen as an "us" desicion, rather than an "I". But the problem is when the two extremes collide within a procreating pair or you have a reasonable person willing to try and listen and talk it out while the other is dead set on what they want.

In my opinion this leads up to a much bigger problem that spans over many areas. Which would be the ideology that humans have of never wanting to be wrong. If people could learn to listen respectfully for 3 seconds to eachother and to compremise over things...like what they teach you in middle school...then I really do think life could be a lot easier.