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The Family Women's Curse Has Fallen On Me

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Uh oh.

Good thing Jon's health benefits kicked in finally.

Gotta get to the doctor. 'Cause the first signs that the "women problems" that caused my mother and oldest sisters to have to have hysterectomies in their 40's have shown up in me.

And I turn 40 at the end of the month. Lucky me - I got it early. :rolleyes:

Thing is, I'm not real upset. Like I said, I've sorta expected it. I was upset last night because I didn't know if I was facing a trip to the ER uninsured. I called my sister and she reassured me I didn't need to go to the ER, but that a trip to the doctor was a MUST - ASAP. Jon double-checked with the benefits office today and found out they goofed, and our coverage will be enacted immediately and retro-active to Feb. 1st.

So I'm not upset because now I don't have to worry about being able to go to the doctors. And I probably won't need the most aggressive treatment, because unlike my mother & sister, I caught it early and am not going to sit around and wait for things to get really horrible before I have things treated. But even if it came down to the ultimate - hysterectomy - I don't care. I don't want kids, never really did. Oh, I think every woman who has that sort of thing done has some wistful regret & grief, and I probably would, too. But probably not too much. I'm into the elderly, not the pre-pubescent.

Well, just a word to the wise, ladies. Get your annuals. Even if you let yourself go because of things like depression, make sure you get to the doctor so someone can monitor your overall health. I slipped with that, and it was a stupid thing to let slide, considering family history.

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Thanks, Ladies. :)

Just to clear up any misunderstandings, I'm not yet at the point where I have to have the most radical surgery. My sister told me that caught early enough, there are much less invasive ways of taking care of these problems.

My mother waited until she was hemhorraging regularly. And my sister waited until she had fibroids the size of oranges. No way will I let it go that long. This is the first signs that this is hitting me, and I'm not waiting for things to get progressively worse.

As soon as our insurance kicks in, I'll be getting an appointment with an OBGYN to have everything checked out.

I was just kinda sad, hoping that out of a mother and 5 girls, I wouldn't have this problem. Not my luck. :(

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My family gets a weird kind of ovarian cancer around age 20-25. Every woman on my mother's side... for 4 generations back at least (before that who knows). It's so weird how sometimes this stuff can run in families like they do. I'm sure that like me you knew since you were little that it'd probably happen to you and to look for it. I'm glad you caught it early, but really, I have been begging for a hysterectomy for about 7 years now because the managing of the backlash of my issue, and the issues that it causes makes me wish they'd just removed the whole mess. Hang in there. It sounjds like you have a good understanding of the issue and that is the first step.

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(((((hugs))))))

I'm going through something similar, but different. My issues are being caused by a surgery I had a few years ago and it looks like I'm going to probably have to pay out of pocket for the surgery I need to correct it. It doesn't look like my insurance covers the surgery I need now, although they covered the first one.

I may be able to fight it though and get it covered, but it's going to take time ... and suffering through that time.

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Yay for having insurance! I'm glad the timing worked out ok there.

Not wanting kids sure does take some of the edge off these kinds of worries, doesn't it?

Yeah. You're not kidding.

Not to make light of my, or anyone else's similar circumstances.

But barring any physical/health endangerment, I'm freaking looking FORWARD to the day I buy my last tampon.

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Yeah. You're not kidding.

Not to make light of my, or anyone else's similar circumstances.

But barring any physical/health endangerment, I'm freaking looking FORWARD to the day I buy my last tampon.

Amen to that! They wouldn't do a hystertectomy on me because "I might decide to have kids someday". I'm like um no... Fix me. Now. kthanks. LOL Good luck and it's good you have such a positive attitude about it!

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God I hate insurance. We had to take out our own because after I almost died....like I fucking planned that one.....oh yah I am just trying to get one over on the ol insurance company...they cancelled us telling me I didn't disclose that I was so sick.......duh I didn't fucking know!!!

Its expensive but worth it......if you can afford it. I can go anywhere now....you might want to do the

same....

And fierce whatever you have done you'll be plenty sore so give someone a shout on here if ya need help after ok? IM me if you need someone to come to dishes or laundry and shit.

(((((hugs))))))

I'm going through something similar, but different. My issues are being caused by a surgery I had a few years ago and it looks like I'm going to probably have to pay out of pocket for the surgery I need to correct it. It doesn't look like my insurance covers the surgery I need now, although they covered the first one.

I may be able to fight it though and get it covered, but it's going to take time ... and suffering through that time.

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And fierce whatever you have done you'll be plenty sore so give someone a shout on here if ya need help after ok? IM me if you need someone to come to dishes or laundry and shit.

You and others who have made similar offers are awesome. Really.

I'm not posting much these days. Before I had the "incident" that showed me I'm developing these problems, I'd been experiencing an abnormal degree of fatigue lately. I've been off my Wellbutrin for my Depression for a couple months now, and I know that's part of it. But this goes waaaaaaaay beyond even the lack of motivation and tiredness I had when in the throes of the full depression.

I'm exhausting very, very easily. Bodily sore. I am getting out of bed and running around town a lot - libraries, grocery store, pharmacy, stuff like that. But after being awake and up for about 4 hours or so, I'm ready for bed.

Now, I realize more than likely I'm probably anemic. I'm not eating much these days, and precious little red meat. Not 'cause I don't like it, just 'cause my motivation & energy levels are so low, I'm not cooking. Basically we're eating a lot of "warm-up" foods, and dining out a TON. And I generally order chicken meals, or we pick up rotisserie chickens from Sam's Club. That sort of thing.

Our insurance kicks in the first of March. I'll be hanging in there until then. I'm not having any more "incidents," and now that we realize what's going on, Jon is picking up the slack around the house. I'm not worried at all, really. Just really looking forward to getting back to the doctor and fully attacking all this without mercy.

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Thanks, Ladies. :)

Just to clear up any misunderstandings, I'm not yet at the point where I have to have the most radical surgery. My sister told me that caught early enough, there are much less invasive ways of taking care of these problems.

My mother waited until she was hemhorraging regularly. And my sister waited until she had fibroids the size of oranges. No way will I let it go that long. This is the first signs that this is hitting me, and I'm not waiting for things to get progressively worse.

As soon as our insurance kicks in, I'll be getting an appointment with an OBGYN to have everything checked out.

I was just kinda sad, hoping that out of a mother and 5 girls, I wouldn't have this problem. Not my luck. :(

To quote G.I. JOE, "Knowing is half the battle!"

BLESSINGS for the other half of it.

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Good Luck baby...

I too know how it feels....

Had a surgery for endo and cycsts about 3 years ago....

I had a ultra sound a year later to check up the after surgery results...the systs came back and some...

they told me oh well....they normally go away on thier own...lets wait and see.....

a year later....(About 2 weeks ago) I had a followup ultra sound....

yep, still there.... and bigger...with more endo....

my doctor told me....until you decide to have kids...we won't do anything.

so I am torn confused and feel pressured to start a family now or I might not be able to later....

she even threw the word cancer in there...... she says UNLIKEY, but..........

we'll wait and see....

pissed.

need a new doctor.

seems like this kind of thing is more common that I thought...

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Haven't revisted this thread lately.

I went to an MD a couple weeks ago, and she was wonderful. She must have spent an hour with me, going over everything that's been going on, etc.

She did a pelvic on me, and everything was normal. But she wants me to go for some decently invasive tests. I forgot I have to schedule these myself, so I'll be calling about that tomorrow.

She is more apt to think it's polyps, which is another one of those lovely things that runs in the women in my family. That'd be good in that it's less of a problem than the other possibilities, but still is going to need to be watched & tended to over time.

As for everything else, I still have to find a psychiatrist and get evaluated to be sure I'm headed down the right track as far as medicine/therapy. Things have been better lately because family life has taken a major upswing into happyland. But I'm still majorly lacking in energy & motivation.

Thanks for checking back on me. It does my spirit good to see someone cares. :)

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FC, just wondering how things were and if anything has been done yet. I know you don't post here anymore, but if you see this -- feel free to PM instead of posting.

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I've got about two weeks before my own surgery, which I STILL don't know exactly what they are doing yet ...

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