Eeewww....

[xbittergracex]

I had never even watched a baby born on television a little over a year ago when my neice was born. The mom wanted me to video-tape it. I was so nervous. I told some friends and they were like "oh its such a miracle...sooooooooo beautiful..."

AND I decided....it is definitely a miracle....but I wouldn't say its beautiful. lol. I guess it is in its own way...

My neice is beautiful, and her mommy is very happy. I would say if you want children...its not as bad as it looks...its momentary pain for something really precious. Raising kids is tough, but I'm sure its all worth it if its what you want.

So if you watch the tape....when her head comes out....you can hear me YELL "OH MY GOD!!!" LOL

[sass_in_the_pants]

I just was having this conversation with a girl at work. She's like 8months along and was coming up with her birthing plan. EVERYONE is telling her that your stuff will go back to normal. I said no it doesn't, it will never be 100% what it was before.

I've read this is medical things and had woman tell me this. That's why I want to have a C-section. Keep my stuff the way it is and have one more scar. Hell I already have a scar there from another opertaion. So they wouldnt be adding anything to me.

But seriously, do all the kegal thingies you want. After pushing 8lbs give or take out of that hole, it's not going to be what it was. Unless you go to Dr 90210 or some shit and have it put back :D

No Dr. with an ounce of scruples would give you an elective c-section. This is a good thing - overall a natural birth is safer than a c-section and so you really wouldn't WANT a dr. who would be willing to perform a less safe procedure on you. All that being said, I'm SO glad I ended up with a c-section. That birth shit is scary. But the scar is SO nasty. The good news, though, is that no amount of scarring, stretching or any of that would EVER deter Guy from sex, so what the hell do I care!

I had never even watched a baby born on television a little over a year ago when my neice was born. The mom wanted me to video-tape it. I was so nervous. I told some friends and they were like "oh its such a miracle...sooooooooo beautiful..."

AND I decided....it is definitely a miracle....but I wouldn't say its beautiful. lol. I guess it is in its own way...

My neice is beautiful, and her mommy is very happy. I would say if you want children...its not as bad as it looks...its momentary pain for something really precious. Raising kids is tough, but I'm sure its all worth it if its what you want.

So if you watch the tape....when her head comes out....you can hear me YELL "OH MY GOD!!!" LOL

I can't believe you filmed that! I woudnl't have yelled omg, I would have dropped the camera and ran!!! Miracle, yes, beautiful, not really. But, like Meg said, when the baby comes out and you look at her and she looks at you, there is this moment for you AND the baby of, 'So, YOU'RE the one...' For added fun, it was so cool when the twins came out - Madeline came out first and she was screaming her fool head off. Charlotte came out, screamed once and then they put her next to Madeline and they both stopped screaming. They're still that way - Maddy will scream her fool head off when she gets shots, Charlotte screams once and then looks over to Maddy like 'Dude, it's not THAT bad' and they both calm down after that.

[Destroit]

I just was having this conversation with a girl at work. She's like 8months along and was coming up with her birthing plan. EVERYONE is telling her that your stuff will go back to normal. I said no it doesn't, it will never be 100% what it was before.

I've read this is medical things and had woman tell me this. That's why I want to have a C-section. Keep my stuff the way it is and have one more scar. Hell I already have a scar there from another opertaion. So they wouldnt be adding anything to me.

But seriously, do all the kegal thingies you want. After pushing 8lbs give or take out of that hole, it's not going to be what it was. Unless you go to Dr 90210 or some shit and have it put back :D

Yeeah, not trying to shoot down the C-section thing for you, just informing you in case you don't know, but there are serious health risks posed on your child if you choose C-section. It should only be used in extreme emergencies when natural birth either endangers you or your child. Women who get a caesarian are three times more likely to die during child birth, for instance.

Also, if you were planning on having a second child: "Women who delivered their first child by caesarean delivery had increased risks for malpresentation, placenta previa, antepartum hemorrhage, placenta accreta, prolonged labor, uterine rupture, preterm birth, low birth weight, and stillbirth in their second delivery."

Also I read on MSNBC that babies delivered by C-section have a higher rate of mortality and SIDS. I also read that researchers are finding that your child is more likely to develop autism and/or other mental disabilities if you deliver through Caesarian.

I'm not trying to scold you or shoot down your decision, I'm just trying to pass along this information so that you're educated on the severe risks that any woman takes when delivering electively through a C-section procedure (and this goes for any other woman who reads this and may have children some day).

Personally I say to women who opt for elective c-section surgery: "If you're putting your own cosmetic looks in front of your child's health (and life) then children may not be for you." Also, if people aren't cut out for a day or two of extreme pain then they're not cut out for 18 tough years of raising a kid.

You can't (or shouldn't) get the reward without going through the tears, sweat, blood, and loose girly parts, imo. Obviously that doesn't apply to women who MUST get a Caesarian for the safety of themselves and/or their unborn child.

[amalthea23]

1 in 7 women are utterly nauseated by the idea of childbirth to the point of it being a phobia and NEVER get over it. There's nothing ostensibly wrong with that. Also, having a child isn't mandatory. In fact, it should NEVER be considered the default plan. You should only do it if you honestly feel you'll die without having one. That's the kind of commitment a child needs and deserves.

[littlepinkkitty]

I want to have babies. As long as they come out healthy i dont care how they come into this world. There are excercises you can do to get your areas (down under) tighter. I only heard about them i have never met anyone who actually tried them but if you want to have babies and are that worried you can always look into it.

[amalthea23]

AND I decided....it is definitely a miracle....but I wouldn't say its beautiful. lol. I guess it is in its own way...

My neice is beautiful, and her mommy is very happy. I would say if you want children...its not as bad as it looks...its momentary pain for something really precious. Raising kids is tough, but I'm sure its all worth it if its what you want.

So if you watch the tape....when her head comes out....you can hear me YELL "OH MY GOD!!!" LOL

A miracle that happens billions of times isn't really a miracle. It's more of a bodily function.

[Destroit]

A miracle that happens billions of times isn't really a miracle. It's more of a bodily function.

BWHAHA

OMFG...I'm so saying that from now on (because that's my sentiments exactly).

The next time I gotta use the crapper and someone asks me where I'm going I'm gonna say: "Hold on, I'll be right back. I feel a miracle comin' praise tha LORD!"

[amalthea23]

BWHAHA

OMFG...I'm so saying that from now on (because that's my sentiments exactly).

The next time I gotta use the crapper and someone asks me where I'm going I'm gonna say: "Hold on, I'll be right back. I feel a miracle comin' praise tha LORD!"

My thoughts exactly.

[Destroit]

1 in 7 women are utterly nauseated by the idea of childbirth to the point of it being a phobia and NEVER get over it. There's nothing ostensibly wrong with that. Also, having a child isn't mandatory. In fact, it should NEVER be considered the default plan. You should only do it if you honestly feel you'll die without having one. That's the kind of commitment a child needs and deserves.

I also agree. I hate women who don't even really care about the kid and just either want "something cute that will love them" or feel like they have to because of family/society pressures. Those women are what I call trash, sorry but it's true. If you're having a kid for a reason any less than "I'm bringing a person into this world whom I will raise selflessly and with the most effort I possibly can so that that this person will eventually be a happy and fully functional, well-rounded, member of society" then those people are just horrible. They shouldn't have children. Ever. Period.

I guess "oopsie" kids are the exception to the rule, only because it's not like the parents meant to have the baby in the first place. I don't believe in abortions myself (would never want that written into law, I just know I could never have one done and live with a clear concience) so if a mistake happens then you have to just do the best you are prepared to give. I know people that have used adequate birth control and were very careful...but ended up being very unlucky and had a surprise baby anyway.

[SuZQZ]

The birth process isn't easy no matter how you go through it, but your body can and does recover.

The hard part is raising the child!

Agreed. Delivering a baby is nothing compared to raising one.

And yes, the body recovers, and faster than you would think it would. Yes, I still have some stretch marks and my tummy isn't as taut as it was prior to pregnancy, but everything else returned to pre-pregnancy status.

[punk_princess]

Shortly after your staring at this cute little baby who is part of you and part of him ... and you soon forget about all you went through to get there.

I agree

[amalthea23]

Or, you drown him and his siblings in a bathtub, and America acts outraged because we really don't take mental health very seriously here.