Parents With Grown Kids At Home

[Dirtywhispers]

Ok I want to be totally fair on this subject but i really think i'm right.

So the night i found out I got the job my parents invited me up to the corner bar to have a drink to celebrate so Kevin and i go up buy our own pitcher and my fav bartender bought me a shot. My parents get there spend 10-15 min with me then go off to a table by themselves for bout 20 min. Then they come back, buy us a pitcher. I went to go play the jukebox when this girl walked in I had met b4, she was a little drunk then and hit on my mom so I just got a kick out of her, So i let this girl, Ashley is her name, know my cell got lost at city and I need her # again to give to my boy shes supposed to hook up with. I got to my mom to ask her to put it in her cell untill i can find out if my cell is still at City. Shes all snotty about it, like theres a reason i didnt put it in b4, so we chit chat for about 5-10 min then she takes off to go tal to Ashley and doesnt spend 1 min of the rest of the night with me.

Correct me if i'm wrong but if you invite someone up to celebrate that person, shouldn't you ya know actually hang out with that person, i mean she didnt even like the girl. Then after my mom and dad get nice and toasty, my stupid ass actually tells then that they made me feel a kinda shitty. I was not even buzzed just for the record. And from that point on the night went to shit. It turned into a very bad screaming fighting mean things said type of blowout. I cant get into details but things went too far.

Now i'm 23 years old, married and live with my folks. Not by choice like i posted I have been out of work for over a year and just recently got a job. Give me a month maybe month and a 1/2 an we can get outta here. But I do an awful lot so all my mom really has to do is go back and forth to work and we both clean together on the weekends. My parents and I usually get along great on a normal basis. We hang, laugh, go to dinner hang at the bar whatever. We just tend to fight when my younger sister is around. Shes 200 years old and usually lives in flint at Baker college dorms, but shes a mean spoiled spiteful bitch. I love her shes my sister but shes just not a very good person. yet shes treated like she can do no wrong. Now when i was 13-17 I was hell on wheels I put my parents thru alot and did everything the hard way. yet i'm still working to earn the respect of and equal. I dont understand why just because she did school and shit the right way that makes her better than me?

[Onyx]

I'd go nuts if I had to live with my parents, and being married makes it even worse.

Your husband and you need to move out - I think that's really the only solution. I know about the job problem, had the same thing happen, could not find work in my town, but ended up moving 600 miles away from home for my first real job. I don't regret it. It was a wonderful sense of accomplishment to be on my own.

[Miranda]

I understand you being upset for how things went. Many times our parents really don't take how we feel into consideration. I began to get along better with my parents when I realized aside from creating me, they are just people. They don't have any super powers or the ability to know every right thing to do or say at any given time. They just are.

It's a very stressful living environment when four adults are occupying the same space, regardless if you are helping out or not. You can't be free to interact with your husband the way you usually would, the same goes for your folks. In time, you will move out and things will be better. You have to think about the near future, things will come together then.

[Destroit]

Not sure if this is true or not, but someone told me that biologically we're wired to argue with our parents and have conflict once we get into our later teens and early twenties. Why? To encourage us to be independant and gtfo of our folks' house. It'll be hard at first, but you should give it a try, even if you have to move a distance to find work.

I was more than happy to move 'cause my Boshy started giving me shit and vice versa. Now we get along and she calls me like 8 times a day. It's a win-win situation.

[Dirtywhispers]

Trust me I am not living with my parents by choice. I had nowhere to go and no money a dog and myself to take care of. I got out of my old life so I really had no one I could stay with you know. I dont start getting regular full paychecks till Friday after next and I'm the only one working making 11/hr to support my husband my dog and I. So I mean what else am I supposed to do?

[Onyx]

I know how stressful it is. I hope things get better for you soon.

What are your husband's job skills?

There's a pretty huge network of people right here who might help him get work. (I'm remembering Chernobyl's post - only took a week or so and boom - her honey was working).

[Dirtywhispers]

He has numerous skills from car audio to CNC machining.

Problem is he has no license, no car, and is not from Michigan so doesnt know the area and bus routes very well.

[Homicidalheathen]

"Not sure if this is true or not, but someone told me that biologically we're wired to argue with our parents and have conflict once we get into our later teens and early twenties. Why? To encourage us to be independant and gtfo of our folks' house"

this is true but it starts more like 12-14 and yes its a natural way of leaving the nest.....we let our kids stay home way to long in our society.

My kids are still at home, I have to fight the urge to kick them out weekly.

And if I had to live with my mom again I might honestly get suicidal its THAT BAD.

[Oh_My_Goth]

Economy Sucks.....