So where do you meet people?

[Guest PumpkinPete]

The obvious answer here is -

HERE!

But

1. I am new to the boards and

2. what if you aren't 'in the scene'?

I can't meet women to save my life.

I don't really club, am an atheist so church is out, don't have a lot of friends with single friends, and just can't go up to a woman and hit on her.

So, what do YOU do?

I have done the online personals thing - Matchdoc - Gothy Profiles - Gothy Personals - and haven't really gotten anywhere.

Advice?

Comments?

Hanky?

Ha, ha.

Thanks.

Chris Arrr

[soothsayer]

I've found that just saying hello to women works. I've never used pick up lines on women and have discoverd a few secrets that work as well. :devil

I dunno what to tell you accept be yourself and remember that, when you stop looking someone will fall into your life. And it's true. Other than that you can get more friends and make sure you're always ready so when you do meet a woman you won't ruin your chances. How's that?

[TomCat]

Go to City Club, Luna, and Walmart. That's where I find all the hot chicks.

[DarkChylde]

I've found that just saying hello to women works. I've never used pick up lines on women and have discoverd a few secrets that work as well.  :devil

I dunno what to tell you accept be yourself and remember that, when you stop looking someone will fall into your life. And it's true. Other than that you can get more friends and make sure you're always ready so when you do meet a woman you won't ruin your chances. How's that?

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*agrees* Thats the best way ta do, oh and never show any desperation either, and never let em lead ya around like a puppy dog either *unless if you desire to then thats a diffrent story lol*

[soothsayer]

oh and never show any desperation either, and never let em lead ya around like a puppy dog either *unless if you desire to then thats a diffrent story lol*

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So true desperation is like really bad b.o. :laughing

[Onyx]

just can't go up to a woman and hit on her.

Chris Arrr

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Of couse you can! Try it. Practice makes perfect

[TomCat]

"Hang out in the parking lots at abortion clinics," said Jay in Dogma. LOL

[soothsayer]

"Hang out in the parking lots at abortion clinics,"

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Yes because all men want to meet a woman that has recently gotten pregnant by another guy or is about to do the unthinkable.

[soothsayer]

TC are you suggesting he go after rebound chicks? The ones that will have a catalog of issues and hang ups. :blink

[TomCat]

TC are you suggesting he go after rebound chicks? The ones that will have a catalog of issues and hang ups. :blink

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No Actually, it's quasi-commentary on the WORST place to pick up chicks, and where it wouls be... Courtesy of the Movie "Dogma."

[soothsayer]

Oh good I thought you might have given this poor man bad directions. :laughing

[TomCat]

i'm evil, but not THAT evil. lol :devil

[Guest PumpkinPete]

Ok, ok, I got it, go to the abortion clinic at WalMart?

Right?

WICKED!

Damn, I knew there was a reason my dad was always there with the binoculars and the handcream.

Honestly, I do appreciate the suggestions.

I know I make it way harder than I need to, and over-think things. It's funny, I was just in NYC wandering Times Square at midnight by myself and was cool as hell, now, going to a place like City Club, pffft, it's like I am in high school and want to ask someone to the prom.

Great Caesar's Toast.

Thanks everyone.

[soothsayer]

I've had women ask me out after meeting them in places I never would've thought to look for a date. One time this woman got out of her friends car and walked up to me and told me to call her, another time a week after I moved into an apt a female neighbor knocked on my door and asked me out to dinner. You can never tell where it will happen you just need to learn to be ready. Always be ready. Then you wont need lots of luck.

[SomeDanGuy]

You can never tell where it will happen you just need to learn to be ready.

Apparently YOU can never tell where it will happen and YOU just need to learn to be ready. I don't know about the rest of us No chicks have ever come knocking on my door to ask me out; you must just be one happenin' stud!

[Brenda Starrr]

Apparently YOU can never tell where it will happen and YOU just need to learn to be ready. I don't know about the rest of us  No chicks have ever come knocking on my door to ask me out; you must just be one happenin' stud!

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*Knock knock*

Hey baby. You hungry?

[soothsayer]

See ~ I told you it happens. :laughing

[Brenda Starrr]

How YOU doin?

[soothsayer]

Hehe..................Doin' good. How's you'z doin'?

[SomeDanGuy]

*Knock knock*

Hey baby. You hungry?

Yeah, I'd say I could use something to eat

:whistling

[soothsayer]

We should call you somedanappetite. :laughing

[Troy Spiral (13)]

First off dont worry about the "scene" at all. Many people on this board, and at the clubs, an everywhere else besides have no real idea about any of the inner workings of "the scene". So dont sweat that one at all.

You can meet people, anywhere there are people. Before the car accident i used to "meet people" just walking into the drug store or the local 7/11 but i have (make that had) a fairly "hi there!" type personality. I met one of my GFs at a gas station. "Hi nice car!...." "....Dont think im a nut or anything but , do you like chinese food?" was what i said. hah.

Ok assuming you cant yet do that... (leme work on you for a few months once i start feeling better that will change)...City Club , within the context of you being on DGN, is pretty easy. You'll already know some of us in a sense, and we can introduce you to others pretty much instantly, then from there networking is fairly easy once you have a "base of friendly faces" to start from.

If you just cant deal with clubbing, online dating, despite its "geeky" stereotype seems to work well. I know many working-professional types as well as random young teenage types that have had good luck with them.

Unfortunatly no matter what ya do its going to be at least mildly uncomfortable at first. Just gotta tuff it out a bit. =)

[Guest PumpkinPete]

I think a lot of my problem is just sheer frustration.

I am actually pretty good at doing the 'Hi there' thing at say, places I work, or even other places, but I just can't seem to get the gumption to approach a woman out at a club or something.

And believe me, I have been on the online dating tip for, wow, a while. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. It seems like when the sites all went pay it all sorta died.

I really do appreciate the suggestions though.

I think a lot of it is just getting over my own insecurity. And hell, I don't want to bug someone who is 1. not looking 2. not interested.

Which is silly, but is how I feel.

Part of that is that I realize women don't want to be hit on everywhere they go, and part is that, I can't tell if people are single or not at places like CC. And I don't dance so I feel all weird about walking up to someone and hitting on them.

Again, maybe if i try a place like CC alone and don't have to deal with my friends being there it will be easier.

thanks again

chris arrr

[Jarodaka]

Focus on yourself. Make yourself a better person so you'll have more confidence when approaching a woman. You can always fake confidence, but, in the long run, it's about the same amount of work practicing confidence as actually attaining it.

As far as online dating, don't expect anything. It's sort of like spam-dating. You can send out a 1,000 'hey, how are you's in 10 minutes and get back maybe 5 responses. It's a volume business.

[Daevion]

Well you could always go the nearest party store and stand outside and say " How YOU doin!" to every hottie that walks by. You could also get yourself one of those post it notepads and slap em on the ass with your number when they walk by. I do recomend wearing a cup and safety goggles when you do it. :grin