Who Here Is Single

[Ice Queen (1)]

Going out to dinner stinks on ice (no offense,) because I get looked at like a leper when I say table for one. I almost expect to see the wait staff coming after me with torches like an angry mob in a old horror movie screeching "Heretic!! Heretic!!!!!! Burn the heretic!!!" Makes eating dinner alone that much more depressing.

Exactly, it sounds so funny when you say it like that.

I do understand the spark of interest, that desire to get to know people better through that connection, but it is hard to find these days.

Extremely

[eleven]

For some reason lately, it seems I have been meeting up with a disbelief in the fact that I am single and go to nightspots or events unescorted, like, there is something wrong with that. I never go very long without some man approaching me to talk. When I am done talking with him and go about my way, it is not long until there is another. I enjoy being single and it's not that I am anti-relationship or anything, just no one has interested me enough yet.

Yes yes yes yes yes.....no offense to any of the guys i am just hard to please

[n0Mad]

Going out to dinner stinks on ice (no offense,) because I get looked at like a leper when I say table for one. I almost expect to see the wait staff coming after me with torches like an angry mob in a old horror movie screeching "Heretic!! Heretic!!!!!! Burn the heretic!!!" Makes eating dinner alone that much more depressing.

I made that realization several years ago. I always wondered what was worse ...

When you say "table for one" so they clear away the other place setting so it's obvious to everyone else at the restaurant that you are alone, or when they leave that other place setting there so it looks like you're waiting for a date who never comes.

And I agree with the sentiments of the above few posters, but it's not that I'm hard to please. I'm actually quite easy to please with just a few simple needs. Rather, I find, that very few women are worth my time and hardly any of them can live up to my expectations. I guess I'm just to awesome for them.

[Msterbeau]

I guess I'm just to awesome for them.

*High-five*

[eleven]

aww that is a sad thought that people can not live up to others expectations....but them again i figure i am in the same damn boat....:D *cheers*

[Msterbeau]

aww that is a sad thought that people can not live up to others expectations....but them again i figure i am in the same damn boat....:D *cheers*

Kampai!!

[Msterbeau]

Honestly, except for one person who is not available any time soon for a relationship, I find myself getting cold feet every time I start to get to know someone I like. It seems especially true if things go well right from the start. I either find things that I don't like as much as I thought I did, or I just get scared. The fear that underlies that I'm quite sure has to do with the breakup of the last serious relationship I had. My heart was broken like no other time in my life. I think it was especially poignant because we weren't out of love, but was mainly due to circumstances at the time (distance) causing her a lot of heartache. And I reacted poorly to the whole idea, and that was that. So... until someone comes along that has the spark to ally my fears, I'll just enjoy being single and flirting...

[eleven]

Honestly, except for one person who is not available any time soon for a relationship, I find myself getting cold feet every time I start to get to know someone I like. It seems especially true if things go well right from the start. I either find things that I don't like as much as I thought I did, or I just get scared. The fear that underlies that I'm quite sure has to do with the breakup of the last serious relationship I had. My heart was broken like no other time in my life. I think it was especially poignant because we weren't out of love, but was mainly due to circumstances at the time (distance) causing her a lot of heartache. And I reacted poorly to the whole idea, and that was that. So... until someone comes along that has the spark to ally my fears, I'll just enjoy being single and flirting...

it will happen in due time

[n0Mad]

aww that is a sad thought that people can not live up to others expectations....but them again i figure i am in the same damn boat....:D *cheers*

It's not that I have overly high expectations. I can only go halfway in a relationship. I expect my partner to go the other half. I put a lot into a relationship and it's only fair to expect an equal return but I seldom ever get it. Then again, I am a very giving, loving, generous, and selfless person and it's hard to keep up with me.

I'm pretty confident "the one" will come along eventually, but in the meantime I am a bit lonely and could use some playmates.

[Msterbeau]

I'm pretty confident "the one" will come along eventually, but in the meantime I am a bit lonely and could use some playmates.

Something I think about with respect to playmates - If I'm in a "playmate" frame of mind, as I have been lately, I might miss out on someone really great for a relationship because I'm not really looking for the signals for that. *Sigh*

[eleven]

yea that playmate thing can be a troubling thing....

I am in a playful state of mind...but there is still a part of me looking for something more.

[Guest greyhalo]

I've always been too serious to be much of a playmate. Yeah, I'm no fun...

[Ice Queen (1)]

Something I think about with respect to playmates - If I'm in a "playmate" frame of mind, as I have been lately, I might miss out on someone really great for a relationship because I'm not really looking for the signals for that. *Sigh*

Marc, quit being so damn depressing. Geesh, for a guy that has several beautiful women to help entertain him (at least in this country), you really are being mopey.

On a more serious note, I understand that point. I don't worry about that one so much, because if someone excites me, I would be open to it. My concern is the other direction. Because I have playmates, it is perceived that I would not want anything more, or I am not "relationship material". Wrong perceptions that, yes, I do perpetuate, but, hell if I am going to let some of the best sex years pass me by without enjoying them!

[Msterbeau]

Marc, quit being so damn depressing. Geesh, for a guy that has several beautiful women to help entertain him (at least in this country), you really are being mopey.

On a more serious note, I understand that point. I don't worry about that one so much, because if someone excites me, I would be open to it. My concern is the other direction. Because I have playmates, it is perceived that I would not want anything more, or I am not "relationship material". Wrong perceptions that, yes, I do perpetuate, but, hell if I am going to let some of the best sex years pass me by without enjoying them!

I'm mopey because I'm 10,000 miles away dear lady...

It's not that I worry about it much.. Spooks comment made me think about that as a potential issue, though. And your point is also a good one. A potentially great partner might be hesitant because you're perceived as flirty and not serious about relationships.

*Ponders*

[Msterbeau]

I'm mopey because I'm 10,000 miles away dear lady...

It's not that I worry about it much.. Spooks comment made me think about that as a potential issue, though. And your point is also a good one. A potentially great partner might be hesitant because you're perceived as flirty and not serious about relationships.

*Ponders*

Then again... Attracting someone who is also flirty is not a bad thing.

Damn the Libra scales!!!

[Guest greyhalo]

I'm mopey because I'm 10,000 miles away dear lady...

It's not that I worry about it much.. Spooks comment made me think about that as a potential issue, though. And your point is also a good one. A potentially great partner might be hesitant because you're perceived as flirty and not serious about relationships.

*Ponders*

I'll admit that I've personally been turned off by people who seem too flirty. I just can't take someone seriously if they flirt with everyone. However, I guess they're just not my type. I tend to like more reserved and introverted people, like myself. Just my opinion...

[eleven]

i dont like it when people ask me out the 1st time i meet them...i am the kinda gal who likes to know what she is getting herself into before the whole going steady thing even comes into the picture

[Msterbeau]

i dont like it when people ask me out the 1st time i meet them...i am the kinda gal who likes to know what she is getting herself into before the whole going steady thing even comes into the picture

Which is the great thing about the internet.

[eleven]

Which is the great thing about the internet.

indeed!

[Zerothehero]

i dont like it when people ask me out the 1st time i meet them...i am the kinda gal who likes to know what she is getting herself into before the whole going steady thing even comes into the picture

Hey there cutie pie. Care to give zero here a chance? I have a tree house thats filled with termites we can spend a lovely dinner in, also a cardboard box attached to my wagon that I could pick you up from your house with that only goes less than 5 miles per hour. I dont have any condoms in my tree house but however I can always use one of the milky way candy bar wrappers laying around.

Hehe, theres a reason that im always less than number one. So how about it toots?

[Reaper]

Honestly, except for one person who is not available any time soon for a relationship, I find myself getting cold feet every time I start to get to know someone I like. It seems especially true if things go well right from the start. I either find things that I don't like as much as I thought I did, or I just get scared. The fear that underlies that I'm quite sure has to do with the breakup of the last serious relationship I had. My heart was broken like no other time in my life. I think it was especially poignant because we weren't out of love, but was mainly due to circumstances at the time (distance) causing her a lot of heartache. And I reacted poorly to the whole idea, and that was that. So... until someone comes along that has the spark to ally my fears, I'll just enjoy being single and flirting...

I relate to this closely. I think fear drove me to a lot of breaking up because I am either worried I won't have as much fun as I am being single, or that I will lose interest quickly as the past has shown me. I want to have that "special connection" but fear its just a facade and that I can never have it. So most of the time, if it starts out having a special energy, it ends up dying out for me and I move on. It starts to make me feel like I am using people and maybe part of it is true for all I know. That is the part that sucks.

[Reaper]

I'll admit that I've personally been turned off by people who seem too flirty. I just can't take someone seriously if they flirt with everyone. However, I guess they're just not my type. I tend to like more reserved and introverted people, like myself. Just my opinion...

I feel that way about women who get drunk and come onto me like that. Its pretty much a turnoff when that happens because you either find out all their dirt when they end up telling you someday or they end up waking up next to you and screaming.

[tanuki1985]

I also get quite turned off when someone I don't even know (or someone I hardly know) flirts with me. I don't know why that turns me off so much, but it just does. I've had guys try to put their arm around me, kiss me, etc. when they first meet me, and my initial reaction is always to pull away. Sorry, I just can't get intimate with someone I don't know, not even slightly. Go fuck a tree.

[tanuki1985]

Hey there cutie pie. Care to give zero here a chance? I have a tree house thats filled with termites we can spend a lovely dinner in, also a cardboard box attached to my wagon that I could pick you up from your house with that only goes less than 5 miles per hour. I dont have any condoms in my tree house but however I can always use one of the milky way candy bar wrappers laying around.

Hehe, theres a reason that im always less than number one. So how about it toots?

Eleven, don't pass up this once in a lifetime offer.

[Msterbeau]

Eleven, don't pass up this once in a lifetime offer.

If she does, I won't. What a catch! *swoon*