Bussiness Is My Mistress....

[Guest GodfallenPromos]

*sigh*

So, I've owned my booking and promotions company for about a year and 1/2 now. It's going decent, popularity and respect wise. My much larger counterparts (William Morris, The Agency Group, TKO, Mustang), are well aware of my existance, and with the exception of TKO, they are all willing to do business with me if I have an offer or an idea that would interest them.

I get into the majority of concerts I want for free, and have a lot of sweet contacts (Mushroomhead, Ministry, Fran Cosmo of Boston, etc).

The only problem is that I don't make that much money, but work my arse off to get what needs to get done. My GF is complaining, telling me that it's a waste of time, but she doesn't understand that self-run business's almost never make money within the first couple years.

Everyone else believes in me....even a couple ex-gf's.....

I've been looking for another job, but with the economy it's a bitch.

I am also running into the problem that when some places find out that I won't drop my business to work for them, they refuse to hire me. I've told them that the hours of operation of my business are pretty much completely moldable around their schedule, but there would be an average of one day a month (usually a friday or saturday) I would need off to go personally take care of a show. I've explained that I am liable for these shows, especially if there is a gurantee involved.

I've also explained that they would know of the show date at least 2 months ahead of time, so there is plenty of notice.

they just don't care....so right now, the booking is all I have....and it's starting to really pick up, after some restructuring...

I just don't know what to tell her anymore....

[Msterbeau]

*sigh*

So, I've owned my booking and promotions company for about a year and 1/2 now. It's going decent, popularity and respect wise. My much larger counterparts (William Morris, The Agency Group, TKO, Mustang), are well aware of my existance, and with the exception of TKO, they are all willing to do business with me if I have an offer or an idea that would interest them.

I get into the majority of concerts I want for free, and have a lot of sweet contacts (Mushroomhead, Ministry, Fran Cosmo of Boston, etc).

The only problem is that I don't make that much money, but work my arse off to get what needs to get done. My GF is complaining, telling me that it's a waste of time, but she doesn't understand that self-run business's almost never make money within the first couple years.

Everyone else believes in me....even a couple ex-gf's.....

I've been looking for another job, but with the economy it's a bitch.

I am also running into the problem that when some places find out that I won't drop my business to work for them, they refuse to hire me. I've told them that the hours of operation of my business are pretty much completely moldable around their schedule, but there would be an average of one day a month (usually a friday or saturday) I would need off to go personally take care of a show. I've explained that I am liable for these shows, especially if there is a gurantee involved.

I've also explained that they would know of the show date at least 2 months ahead of time, so there is plenty of notice.

they just don't care....so right now, the booking is all I have....and it's starting to really pick up, after some restructuring...

I just don't know what to tell her anymore....

If this is your dream and you're making it happen, you need someone supporting you, not dragging you down. I guess it depends what's more important to you.

[hunhee]

You've got to do what's right for you. You obviously love this girl, because you've talked about her before in previous posts, you've got to decide if she's worth it, or if your company is worth it. I would imagine that if she truly loved you, she would support you.

I wouldn't exactly trust what your ex's say about the company (and your current gf), because depending on their own influences, they may not have your best interests with the girl in mind. I don't know if many people have the same kind of relationship with their ex that I have with mine.

With all these things in mind, yes, starting up a new company is very tough, most don't survive the first five years, and don't even plan on turning a profit in the first few years, in fact, losing money would be pretty on par at this point. If you're doing well enough at it now, and not spending too much in excess and it pays the current bills, you should just go with it. Companies are tough.. really tough.

Good luck in what you do. If you need any help, even if it's just moral support, PM me.

[Miranda]

You know what it entails to be successful in the business you are in, moreso than your girlfriend does. This is important to you and it is true, most businesses do not see profit for at least 2 years after starting and that is if all things go well. I don't think you need added stress and worrying about keeping your girlfriend happy and I feel she should be more than willing to support you. In no way am I intimating that her feelings are not important, they are but people need to be realistic. If you love someone you at least try to see things from their point of view and take their feelings into consideration regardless of your fears. If it is your goal to do this type of work , definitely keep hacking at it. Everyone had to begin somewhere. I'm sure she enjoys the shows you get to go to and the special treatment that comes with being a promoter. There are pluses and downsides to any career. Either she is with you or she isn't.

[Guest GodfallenPromos]

well....an update...of sorts

so I am making one of my female friends that my gf hates into one of my business partners....it's not official yet, but will be soon. This is for a couple reasons, one of them being that I believe she would be good at it, once I get her past the insane amount of back stabbing; another being that I can now attempt to run three shows at three venues in one night (look for this announcement soon: wheres, whens, whos, etc); and lastly...so I can hang out with her and my gf can't technically say shyt.

I still hate having to CREATE loopholes just ot be semi-happy....*sigh*

[Goth Brooks]

if your g/f's not supporting your dream, give her to me... hook back up with one of the lesser crazy exes that supports your business.

everyone's happy

[Destroit]

Sounds to me, between the jealousy of your business to the jealousy of you having just another female friend, she has some serious self-esteem and attachment issues.

Not a good outlook at all if she keeps on the way she is.

I mean if you can't hang out with platonic friends or run a BUSINESS...that's bad news. Where does the jealousy end?

Envy in one of the seven deadly sins for a reason.

Just keep on doing what you're doing and if she has a problem with it then let her go. Make her realize that she can't control you and mold you and that her being a child about everything isn't the way to go about getting what she wants.

It's your life, your business, your business partner decisions...if she wants to be envious then she can either deal with it and shut up or leave the relationship. Make it stern that those are her only two choices.

[Rev.Reverence]

..all really good points...

...but I gotta' ask, does your current lady WANT you to succeed or will that make her go crazy?.....

Like, if you are successful, she may not like you out ALL weekend, EVERY weekend.....as we all know you will have to..

.....BEST OF MY BLESSINGS.....

[TygerLili]

If this is your dream and you're making it happen, you need someone supporting you, not dragging you down. I guess it depends what's more important to you.

I agree, you've got to decide what's more important to you.

Rev makes a good point too, maybe she doesn't want to be with someone in your type position, who has to be away a lot.

If she's financially supporting you right now (it's unclear from your original post whether she is or not) then she has some reason to complain.

[Guest GodfallenPromos]

well...we're not out ALL weekend....but we are out at a lot of parties.

and she isn't finacially supporting me...she will "claim" that she is...but I never ASKED her to shyt...and I can handle myself on my own....and she damn well knows it

I think she is scared of me succeding because that means that I did it without needing her help....and I think it scares her the she would have someone that didn't need her...she doesn't seem to be able to seperate "need" and "want"...

...I think...actually...I know this next part....there is a part of me that wants this SO bad...the business...that it's willing to leave everyone behind for a chance at the brass ring...it's a very cold and callous part of me....but all it wants it what I had before....

I used to be that guy....the guy who would wear torn jeans to work and still talk to ppl on an international scale, CEO's and VP's all day....making international deals....$$$$$$ every time in deals.....and I've had CRAZY offers when I was younger that I was never able to take.....If I fail at this....I'm done....I'll go back to being some sorry dish-washer or line cook....

I know ppl talk "crazy offers" alot...but mine really were

I was a Sales consultant by the time I was 18, talking to Railroad CEO,s and VP's every day, doing everything from selling rail and webspace to trying to convince them my bosses weren't shysters....you know those ppl that call you looking for some companies money?...I ended up having to be the "Anti-that-guy"...cuz it turned out they WERE shysters...

I've gotten offers to work for South Eastern Laser (branch of GE Laser) as a Regional Sales Rep and an international advertising firm, dealing in SOAP of all things, from chigaco before I was 21....

I started my own Railroad sales consulting firm when I was 21...that lasted like a year because of previous bosses....

I've spent that time till now wasting my degree and my mind on being a line cook

I love the rush and the deal making...I love weaving the web....as much of a hassle and a headache that it is...I adore it...or at least...that part of me does. It's that feeling...the feeling that you can make almost anything happen...that your the miracle man...I had that....ppl wanted me FOR that....and now I'm trying to get it back...

and she hates me for it.....she hates IT....and no matter how I explain it to her....it never helps....*sigh*

[Oh_My_Goth]

well...we're not out ALL weekend....but we are out at a lot of parties.

and she isn't financially supporting me...she will "claim" that she is...but I never ASKED her to shyt...and I can handle myself on my own....and she damn well knows it

I think she is scared of me succeeding because that means that I did it without needing her help....and I think it scares her the she would have someone that didn't need her...she doesn't seem to be able to seperate "need" and "want"...

I believe you already know what you need to do.....

That is what it sound like, anyways.....

[Guest GodfallenPromos]

I believe you already know what you need to do.....

That is what it sound like, anyways.....

yeah....I know....I think I have known for a while.....timing, however....timing is important....and honestly....the business is more important too....and I have to focus on that....and if she continues...well...most the bands I work with are taking July off....that very well might be the month I end it....we'll ahve to see

jesus christ....lol....I feel like I'm having a fucking midlife crisis...at the age of 25....lol

[Oh_My_Goth]

yeah....I know....I think I have known for a while.....timing, however....timing is important....and honestly....the business is more important too....and I have to focus on that....and if she continues...well...most the bands I work with are taking July off....that very well might be the month I end it....we'll ahve to see

jesus christ....lol....I feel like I'm having a fucking midlife crisis...at the age of 25....lol

No, this is called a pre-life crisis.....

We all have them.....

Don't worry things eventually fall into place in due time.