Crushed and Hurt

[FarrIL]

Well, I was sitting on my bed last night, watching 'One Piece' and munching away at chopped up Ramen when I heard someone knocking on the door. After a few seconds, I heard another knock, so I go out to see who it is and I see my friend Kelly and her friend Jackie standing there. Kelly's face was flushed and Jackie looked cautious. I open the door and Kelly's first words were "Could we use your phone?"

I let them in and hand them the phone. I quickly then escorted them to a spot in the house where it wasnt so loud, and Kelly called her sister in law, Kara. Well, Kelly didnt give any specific details as to where to pick the two girls up, so I called Kara back and told her to look for a house with a big wreath out in front. After that, we hung up and then Kelly, Jackie and I went into my room to chat. I asked what was going on and they told me that Kelly's mother had gotten stoked-up drunk and was trying to bring up past issues Kelly had gotten herself into, including a Statutory relationship. Kelly didnt want to talk about it and apparently, she and her mother got into a fight. Kelly's mom had grabbed Kelly by the hair and Kelly made sure to toss her mascara at her mother. Somehow, Kelly got away and to my house she and Jackie came.

Anyways, the three of us were talking, just sitting on my bed socializing and Kelly wanted to go and check to see if her mother had left. So, I told them that I would follow them back to kelly's house. The original plan was that we'd go half-way and if her mother was still there, we'd come back to my place. No car was there, so we started walking towards the house, then two cars came driving down the road. Car #1 = Kara. Car #2 = Mom. What happened next just pissed me off.

When Kara got out of the car, Kelly threw her arms around her and started bawling her eyes out. I told Kelly to stay put and spill everything to Kara while Jackie and i tried to grab some clothing. kelly didnt stay put. Instead, the three of us stood on the deck and heard Kelly's mother bitching about Kelly's past antics..... something we were all angry at Kelly for doing, BUT Kelly learned her lesson. Kelly's hearing her mother accuse her of ruining her parents' lives and Kelly starts bawling more. So Jackie and I guide Kelly back to the car to have her wait for her sister and then her dad comes out and tries to start crap.

Her dad comes out, pointing fingers at Kelly saying "Kelly, you are F*cking your life up." Jackie throws one at him saying "Dan, your life isnt any better." Mind you, Kelly and Jackie are 15 years old, I'm 19. These two girls are my friends, Kelly like a sister, so I'm sticking by their side. Dan is standing there, instigating a fight, Kelly tries to charge her dad, ready to throw a few punches, but Jackie and I managed to stop her before she got to her dad. So her dad tries to instigate again and I said "No, Kelly's not being the instigator here." And yet her dad is still trying to get Kelly to throw punches.

Then her brother comes out to hand Kelly her glasses, which Kelly takes thema nd tosses them onto the car floor and then her brother looks at me and Jackie and goes "what, are you two her soul Master bodyguards or somethin'?" And I said "Is that supposed to be a bad thing?" Her brother goes "Shut up, you're what 13? You cant do shit." I said "I'm 19." and I just stared at him, then he turns and gets into his truck and prepares to drive off. In my opinion, Kelly's brother is no better than her father, both are drunk @$$holes.

The last words Dan said to Kelly were "Kelly, you go to hell."

Anyway, her sister had to go into the house twice to try and grab Kelly's stuff. The second time, she came out with Jackie's clothes and kelly's shoes. So, Kara puts the stuff in the car and both Jackie and Kelly thank me for my help. I looked at Kara and asked her to take good care of the two girls and Kara goes "Kelly's my baby, I wont let anyone hurt her." I said "Thank you. Take care" Jackie asked me if I was alright to walk home and I said that I was and as they pulled away, I waved and they thanked me again and off they drove.

I swear, when all that finally sank in, I nearly cried. I've been toughened up over the years of talking my friends out of suicide or other bad situations but still, what happened last night hurt.

[TomCat]

Well, you are a good friend indeed. In my life, no truer words were ever spoken:

"Surround yourself with good people, and you'll always be taken care of when you need to be."

You friends are lucky to have you.

[DarkChylde]

Fuckin-A, sounds like alot of drama there, good thing ya chose to stay out of it (well for the most part)

[SomeDanGuy]

Well you certainly did a good last night. Sounds like you may be the most positive influence in this girl's life. The world could use a lot more people like you

[paradox]

=( not cool.

but you did good.

[Brenda Starrr]

You have a great head on your shoulders. What a good thing you did.

[FarrIL]

Thank your for the cheers folks but in all honesty, I dont care what good deeds I did. I'm just glad Kelly got out of that house last night, but the drama didnt stop there. Her brother and sister-in-law got into a fight because HE was drunk off his ass, he punched Kara in the face, but she fought back.

What I want to do is get Kelly out of that house for good..... she's a good kid who's made some really crappy decisions but she learned. She's only 15 for pity's sake and she lives in that kind of household.

She's like a sister to me. Hell, if I had the money, the place and the job, I'd take her in myself. I even looked her in the eye before Kara drove off and said to her "Kelly, you are better than that."

[Scary Guy]

Sounds like the typical white trash household. Alcohol turns people into complete bastard it seems. One of a few reasons I don't drink.

No greater joy in helping people to better themselves though. At least you have some power to watch over and help shape her into a better human being. If you weren't there she'd probably just turn into what her parents are over time.

[Head Wreck]

redneck syndrome.

you proved yourself to be a good friend and an honourable person

[Guest PumpkinPete]

it's sick how people almost gleefully hurt others.

that families can't let go of their pasts and love their present.

i am really sorry your friend is in that situation, i have heard similar stories and they never, ever make sense to me.

she is lucky to have your friendship, and whether you see it or not, you're a pretty great person to be there through this.

big hug to ya.

c

[FarrIL]

If it's one thing that always irks me, hurts me or angers me thoroughly is the hurt of a child, especially a parent hurting their own blood offspring.

I dont like Child Molesters

I dont like Abusers

I f*cking hate drunks.

I see it around me, I see parents struggling with bills, and venting their frustrations out on their kids, blaming their own kids for problems they cant deal with, probalems that arent there fault.

I swear, I should become a counselor because I feel that I'd be helping more people than what I would with my art. I can talk to kids, on their level, about the pain, and how to deal with it.

It just hurts when it hits so close to home.......... you care for that person like a family member and to stand there and listen and watch her own parents chew her apart, piece by piece......... I'm surprised I didnt deck them myself.

[Guest PumpkinPete]

well, you're an artist, so maybe, in a way, you're on the road to being a counselor.

and for now, you are a good friend.

but the future isn't written, if you want to be a counselor, of some sort, you can be.

be it a big sister.

a girl scout leader.

mentor.

whatever.

c

[FarrIL]

I was taught how to be a mentor by joining Tae Kwon Do. I became a black belt instructor 5 years later. I'm not much of a leader, at least I dont think I am. All I really can offer Kelly is a shoulder to cry on, someone to lean on when she needed support.

I just feel bad that all this crappy shit is happening to someone so young.... I mean, I know we all have to learn one way or another, but this didnt have to happen to her, not when she was trying to rebuild her life after the past mistakes she made. She was doing so good too and then this happened. It flat out pisses me off that they cant live in the postive side of things. They cant see the good in their daughter anymore, all they can see is the bad......

.....the bad that's also reflected through that stupid bottle of booze....

Fuck, I'm still angry.

[Guest PumpkinPete]

well, it should piss you, and all of us off.

but don't let that be a negative thing.

you are there for her, and whatever ill they give her, you are giving her back in positive.

no, you aren't her parent, her blood, but YOU picked her, she picked you, that's more important.

more meaningful.

help her find more people that will be good for her, and care about her. or just continue to be there. you will give her hope.

i just hope YOU have a good support system as well so you can vent.

and as for you being a leader...to me, you've already proven you're better than that. that you're a great person who leads by example.

c

[TearSandrille]

I grew up in an alcoholic home myself. I know exactly what it's like. And frankly, support from my friends and Al-non (a support group for those effected by others alcoholism) saved my life.

[Jarodaka]

That's an awful situation, FarrIL. That's very nice of you to not give up on your friend!