Hot People Young Callers

[Michiko_Dreads]

Okay I made this post cuz I think this guy is hot and hes like 16 years my senior, which is 4 years younger than both my parents. I wouldnt mind dating him but the whe bang theory would be hmm a possiblity. The other thing about older guys would be the whole "found someone" thing. Im young and I dont want to settle down. He may also have kids my age which is another thing. His kids might look at me like hey your the same age as all my friends. The guy doesnt know I like him because I analyze things before I go into action. My friends tell me I shouldnt date a guy more than 5 years older than me cuz Im 18.

Okay Im going on and on anyways what do you guys think about a 18 yr old hittin on a 30 something?

[Homicidalheathen]

I dated someone 20 yrs older than me once...its ok till he starts to want to stay in all the time and your still wanting to go out and party...or if he has kids and your not ready...thats what broke us up. He started to stay home all the time and wanted kids....I didn't at the time.

My friends frown on my younger/older relationships and that has a huge effect. Can you handle the comments and stares? For years?

What if he sex drive starts to decrease with age as many mens does? He may even become impotent and trust me its not fun having to cheat all the time just to get some...

Its ok for a few years but...if your close to your parents as well, and what they think matters and they don't like it?

At the time I didn't care because I was out in AZ running round with some bikers so no one messed with me pretty much and its more common...but I am over that now.

[Michiko_Dreads]

My parents opinion matter and only a few of my close friends opinion matter but I havent spoken to this guy in a manner that make shim think Im into him because Im still analyzing possiblilties.

You are so full of wisdom. You should have an advice column or write book or become a therapist. You would be my ideal therapist black hair, lipstick, eyeshawdow and sweet ass outfits with leather and shiny distracting objects....oooooo shiny circle.............. Damn Im lost oh yeah, Full O' Wisdom

[Homicidalheathen]

Twood be good for 'sex ed' if he is hot...then he prob has experience...use a condom and have fun!

[Michiko_Dreads]

Twood be good for 'sex ed' if he is hot...then he prob has experience...use a condom and have fun!

I know its another reason why I think he is hot. Good old fashion, weird, ass smackin hair grabbin, poundin it sex

[Nerdcore]

I love me an older man !

[Msterbeau]

Whatever you're comfortable with...

I've dated 15 years older and younger at different points in my life. You do need to be aware that there will likely be life phase differences and they can the source of challenges in a relationship.

[jynxxxedangel]

My last bf was 10 years younger than me, one of the youngest I have ever been serious with.

What Marc is saying is VERY true. Serious challenges can come from the age difference.

You are REALLLLLY young, and it could be frustrating to an older man if you tend to choose your irresponsible friends and co-workers and "party time" over your time together. It is also difficult when the younger person in the relationship is attending college. I often felt very alienated and left out because of these traits of my ex's youth.

It was also challenging to refrain from being too motherly towards him; often, he would make bad choices. When I would try to talk him out of hairbrained decisions, he would become very angry and defensive. I hated having to see him make the SAME foolish sort of mistakes I made when I was young. I would CRINGE, just waiting for the consequences to happen.

The purchasing of a Suzuki Samurai that resulted in a bad accident because of his inexperience, the make-money-at-home scheme he got suckered into by an infomercial, the telling his mom off during her menopause when it was the only place he had to stay, the buying of an unfinished Jeep he couldn't afford when he already has a truck he uses to deliver pizzas that needs repairs, the listening to the advice from his two-year older cousin who has no direction in life since he's left the Army-- bloody cripes, the list of BAD CHOICES goes on and on and on. I tried and tried to be the voice of reason, but my pleas either resulted in TERRIBLE arguments, or fell on deaf ears.

He was often frustrated by me, as I am very stubborn and set in my ways. When you get into your thirties, you have a really good idea of WHAT you want, HOW you want it, and WHEN you want it. That biological clock starts ticking, and you will not want to waste your time on anything which is not worth it. That quality of my character really clashed with his lack of personal organization and direction. We had MANY bitter arguments because of my stubborness and personal routine, which borders on obsessive-compulsive behaviour. Yes, I can admit to this as being a shortcoming of mine. I know I was just as responsible for the failure of our relationship.

He also could not accept the level of loyalty I have to a social club I belong to. When I am called upon, sometimes in grim circumstances, I have to keep the details of my meetings a secret. He was constantly accusing me of cheating on him, etc, because I go out of town at a moments notice quite often, and I am incommunicado. He KNEW I belonged to this club (and that I was the ONLY initiated female member) before we even met in person, and I was a very active member while we were casually dating. It only bothered him AFTER those three fateful words were said.

It doesn't help that I am an exotic entertainer, either. He could not get it through his head that I CHOOSE to be with him. I could have had ANY of those rich old guys from work paying my bills, but I chose his poor man's roses rather than a rich man's gold.

It was me who let HIM go, out of self-preservation instinct. The stress was ruining our lives. I STILL love him very much, but I know we can't be together because of the differences in our life experience.

[JaneDead]

"Okay Im going on and on anyways what do you guys think about a 18 yr old hittin on a 30 something?"

personally- i think yuck. but that is just me being judgemental.

[Homicidalheathen]

You know what? If its just a booty call, your friends and family...DONT NEED TO KNOW everything....do you tell them when you take a shit? No. Everything that goes in your mouth? No. Its a human NEED. I would give one you trust who has gun, big dog...will travel ect ect....your where abouts when on a new date....contact info...

Here is a good rule of thumb. Meet in a public place the first couple times...have an excuse to leave if necessary....like have a friend call and have a code word like I gotta sneeze...and if you say that she makes an excuse to get you the hell outta there like I have a flat tire come get me or something....have someone outside waiting in the car....just something or someone in case you get a weirdo...

Other than that fuck it have fun. I wouldn't tell everyone unless it starts to get serious...then...family and friends usually know you pretty well and can give advice....

But booty calls? Its YOUR BUISNESS and they don't need to know!

The guy I dated that was 20 yrs older....he taught me many things....I have a few fetishes now thanks to him. Quite honestly all the young guys SUCKED in the sack...no oral...no skills and VERY low kink levels.

Hell I didn't even know I HAD fetishes until him....it was great in that way...one thing about older guys...its more ok in societies eyes (when your out in public) than the other way around but they do sometimes want CONTROL. Don't let that happen...controlling jerks sometimes get physical...don't let him know where you live.

[TygerLili]

When I was young and foolish I had my share of crushes on older guys. I think most of us develop a crush on someone much older at some point. It's exciting, they seem more mature, more stable, more knowledgable and experienced.

I have to wonder, though, why an older person would want to date someone 10 years or more younger. What would you have in common, and how could the maturity difference not drive you up the wall? I just don't know what one would see in someone that much younger, aside from the obvious, which is kind of shallow and a little gross if you want my honest opinion. At 28, it recently occured to me that I could legally date someone 10 years younger than me, but, ummm, just no. My guy is 4 years younger than me, and sometimes that age/maturity difference drives me crazy.

[know_buddy_kares]

Have fun robin' the grave!

[Goth Brooks]

I have to wonder, though, why an older person would want to date someone 10 years or more younger. What would you have in common, and how could the maturity difference not drive you up the wall? I just don't know what one would see in someone that much younger, aside from the obvious, which is kind of shallow and a little gross if you want my honest opinion.

Trophy factor.

At 28, it recently occured to me that I could legally date someone 10 years younger than me, but, ummm, just no. My guy is 4 years younger than me, and sometimes that age/maturity difference drives me crazy.

12 years younger. Have fun

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

i dated someone 10 years older than me. it was great. i had a good time...

we aren't together, now I'm w/ someone only two year's older...

i have dated someone who was 3 year's younger... that was different....

personally, unless they guy was old enough to be changing my diapers, or is young enough for me to do jail time over, then they are open season. don't let a thing like age make or break your decision... unless its obvios that you aren't going to be wanting the same things out of the relationship.

[jynxxxedangel]

Well said, GRG..

[AstralCrux]

I'm thinking my grandma was way smarter than she ever let on....

People make their own decisions. If it works for them, don't stop it. If it doesn't and you get in the way or try to force your opinion on the situation it doesn't help. Just accept the person for who they are and the choices they make. In the end it tends to work itself out.

Could just be that I stubborn myself into sticking crappy situations out when someone tells me not to.... LOL

I've dated someone 12 years older- maturity wise he was way behind me. *sigh* One can always hope. I need to make some sort of dating application in the future.

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

Well said, GRG..

ty, ty

*takes a bow*

lolz

[Michiko_Dreads]

You know what? If its just a booty call, your friends and family...DONT NEED TO KNOW everything....do you tell them when you take a shit? No. Everything that goes in your mouth? No. Its a human NEED. I would give one you trust who has gun, big dog...will travel ect ect....your where abouts when on a new date....contact info...

Here is a good rule of thumb. Meet in a public place the first couple times...have an excuse to leave if necessary....like have a friend call and have a code word like I gotta sneeze...and if you say that she makes an excuse to get you the hell outta there like I have a flat tire come get me or something....have someone outside waiting in the car....just something or someone in case you get a weirdo...

Other than that fuck it have fun. I wouldn't tell everyone unless it starts to get serious...then...family and friends usually know you pretty well and can give advice....

But booty calls? Its YOUR BUISNESS and they don't need to know!

The guy I dated that was 20 yrs older....he taught me many things....I have a few fetishes now thanks to him. Quite honestly all the young guys SUCKED in the sack...no oral...no skills and VERY low kink levels.

Hell I didn't even know I HAD fetishes until him....it was great in that way...one thing about older guys...its more ok in societies eyes (when your out in public) than the other way around but they do sometimes want CONTROL. Don't let that happen...controlling jerks sometimes get physical...don't let him know where you live.

I know what ur saying. Its not going to be anything more than a friendship or a friend to fuck. I dont want to be in a bf/gf relationship. Im just looking to have a good time with someone who is into the same shit but smarter and expeirecnced. Yeah another reason wouold be the sex Im just so curious. I know how to date guys, me and my friends usually double date or if its just ne on one I jot down his drives licence and license plate number and give it to my friends.

When I was young and foolish I had my share of crushes on older guys. I think most of us develop a crush on someone much older at some point. It's exciting, they seem more mature, more stable, more knowledgable and experienced.

I have to wonder, though, why an older person would want to date someone 10 years or more younger. What would you have in common, and how could the maturity difference not drive you up the wall? I just don't know what one would see in someone that much younger, aside from the obvious, which is kind of shallow and a little gross if you want my honest opinion. At 28, it recently occured to me that I could legally date someone 10 years younger than me, but, ummm, just no. My guy is 4 years younger than me, and sometimes that age/maturity difference drives me crazy.

Me personally I have been driven up the wall by almost all the guys I know and dated so this would be a better expeirence for me. I started talking to older guys more this year and its like OMG I actually enjoy your company, you can have an actual conversation. Me and this mystery man have lenty in common. I met him at a place that was just hey we could talk about this all night and it would be great. Shit we do it already.

Have fun robin' the grave!

I will. Maybe You Guys will be like WOW.

[Constantin]

dating people older then you is hard i have done it 3 times already and it hasent been good usually i find myself more mature then them. but yeah about 5 years is a good difference unless it is for pure unadulterated hot deep hard thrusting sex oh im getting moist.

[Msterbeau]

Younger women should always date older men...

[Michiko_Dreads]

dating people older then you is hard i have done it 3 times already and it hasent been good usually i find myself more mature then them. but yeah about 5 years is a good difference unless it is for pure unadulterated hot deep hard thrusting sex oh im getting moist.

Im looking for that and conversation.

[Shade Everdark]

Younger women should always date older men...

If that happened, who would the younger men have to practice on?

[Homicidalheathen]

my husband is 10 yrs older.

We have, music writing in common....love of kids....poetry....sci fi movies...pot...dont like to drink, we are both bi....poly....very artistic...love of family....we believe in all the same things...both pagan nudists...the list goes on and on.

I will play with younger guys but have always liked older guys some says its cause I have an old soul. I did have a flash back of a past life we shared when we were both men working on a pyramid.

So yah...10 yrs older....we have a lot in common. And the thing about MENTALLY MATURE MEN (this has nothing to do with age) they DONT think they are invincable...and will USE A CONDOM out of respect for themselves and yourself.

The only guys who try to pull the no condom thing I have found are 25 and under. NOT black or white. The rumor is black guys don't like to use comdoms....BULLSHIT.

5 white guys have asked me not to....one black guy has. Its about maturity....and if you feel uncomfortable about NOT using one and someone preasures you about it he is an immature asshole

When I was young and foolish I had my share of crushes on older guys. I think most of us develop a crush on someone much older at some point. It's exciting, they seem more mature, more stable, more knowledgable and experienced.

I have to wonder, though, why an older person would want to date someone 10 years or more younger. What would you have in common, and how could the maturity difference not drive you up the wall? I just don't know what one would see in someone that much younger, aside from the obvious, which is kind of shallow and a little gross if you want my honest opinion. At 28, it recently occured to me that I could legally date someone 10 years younger than me, but, ummm, just no. My guy is 4 years younger than me, and sometimes that age/maturity difference drives me crazy.

[kellygrrrrrl]

oooo girl, wait til your at least 25-30 for such age diffs.

You've got a lot of expirience to gain yet, alot of stuff to get out of your system.

I'm goin on 29....

I started to get itchy at age 25...which I think was when I started to really get to know myself.

And I'm STILL learning....

I wouldn't get too involved.....really....

You'll find someone....

that will have less baggage, not stuck in thier ways, etc...

[Msterbeau]

If that happened, who would the younger men have to practice on?

Why should we care?