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I'm so not ready for this. Last night my 11-year old daughter told me that a boy in school gave her a letter and the funny thing is.. she let me read it!

All over the paper where "I heart you very much" with the boys name, number and address. I was asking Samantha what she thought of this kid and she goes on to tell me that he's a good friend and that when ever she has trouble in school like being bullied or some other social problem, he's always there for her and he always sticks up for her... how sweet.

I went on to ask her if she wants him to be her boyfriend and of course she said no and eww yuck " he's just a friend" Yeah, I've heard that before. I told her if he ever touches her or kisses her anything in that manner, that I will kill him and then I will come after her! I said all of this with a big smile on my face :laughing

B~

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Aymee has had a boy like like her since kindergarten! She doesn't have a boyfriend now, but she has alot of boys for friends. A few have asked to be her boyfriend.....but i don't think she cares too much right now.

She had her heart broken twice in the last year so I think she's going to lay low for the time being!

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Aymee has had a boy like like her since kindergarten!  She doesn't have  a boyfriend now, but she has alot of boys for friends.  A few have asked to be her boyfriend.....but i don't think she cares too much right now. 

She had her heart broken twice in the last year so I think she's going to lay low for the time being!

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When I was 10 I brought a book home from the library that gave a complete over view to love, sex, and procreation. My stepmom freaked, but my dad breathed a sigh of relief, realizing I wouldn't need "the talk". I wish I could remember the title, something along the lines of "Love, Sex, and ..... " unfortunately there's dozens of such titles now.

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detai...=glance&s=books

Dear Lord, please bless me with sons only, and bless the pygmies in africa.. amen.

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"HOw to teach you daughter to be a whore 101"!

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Oh no... there was a MUCH better book about that.. I wish I could remember the name of it. We would go through it in the back of B&N and just be amazed at what adults were writing for 13yr olds to read.

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I have a daughter and I've been trying to devise a way for teaching her to become a lesbian...I know what you mean.

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my husband is doing the exact same thing with my daughters. i said sorry but you can't teach them to be lesbians. they either are or they arent. he doesnt want to believe me. ;)

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=) i like your way of thinking lol =)

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Hey thanks ~ As for what your brother did, I too did the same for my younger sister. This one boy, wouldn't leave her alone made the mistake of showing up on our doorstep one day while I was home. I said a few things to him and for some reason, he never talked to her again. I wonder what it was? :whistling

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i wish I had an older brother. i stood up for my sister though.

I dread the time when my daughter is into boys or vice versa. My mom was really protective of me and my dad didn't care as long as I was happy. I don't really know for sure how I'll react. My husband says he's gonna lock her in the garage until she gets old enough to buy her own house.

my friends always had the "little chat" with my boyfriends. especially my best friend, gayle. she told my ex she would make his life a living hell if he ever hurt me. and ever since he put me in the hospital, she's been true about what she said. I love having good friends!

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I too dread the day my daughter takes interest in boys. That's why as a dad I need more tattoos and multi colored hair so I can scare the crap out of any boy that thinks he can touch my little girl.  :devil

I pitty the fool!

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So far, her girlfriends think I'm cool. The boys waver between "your mom is hot" and "she's gonna hurt me, isn't she?"

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Educate her like she's never been educated before.

B~

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Holy Hell, If you knew some of the crap she pulls. First off, this year alone, she's already gotten into two fist fights, (chics jumped her, once for dancing with some girls boyfriend and the other we still don't know,) had a friends uncle called her school to sign her out as her dad, lies on a regular basis to anyone, takes clothes to school to change into them for that "oh so slutty" look (which is why we went through her stuff and tossed it all away). Then last wednesday, she snuck out of her bedroom window to go out to god only knows where... I've gotten it threw her head that chics do not like when other girls are hanging around their boyfriends the way she does and thats not totally the problem now. But she still gets on the phone and yacks at them - that isn't a big deal either (if we know who she's talking to).. its the fact that she's liking these older boys around 14-15 and she's 12...BIG difference mentally. Her 18 year old sister is pregnant now (she was 17 when she conceived) and their mother is PROUD of this... How can a mother be proud of a child who doesn't have the education or skills to take care of baby?!! If you knew this girl, you would understand why I say that. There are some teens who can handle and deal with their responsibilities but this one cannot. I for one would be worried if I was their mother, but she's to busy to put down the bottle herself, and I would look into adoption or gaurdian options. So it doesn't shock me that my niece is trying to follow in her big sisters footsteps... she just doesn't see anything wrong with it.. and thats sad. Trying to sit down and have heart to heart chats with her is like looking at a deer in headlights. The "lights are on upstairs but nobody's home".

I mean, all in all, once a child is past a certain age, how things are is how they are in their eyes and its no going back to "fix" them. All the basics like cause and effect, social, and family values this girl never ever had and trying to get her to learn them now at the age of 12 is hard as hell. :doh :blink =( I honestly worry about her future.

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If they had a center for teenage mothers/rehab centers here, I would drag her down there and get some of them to talk to her. I'm thinking about taking her to Edmonton with us sometime this summer to one of those places. That seems like our last resort before she finds herself in some huge trouble... Sad thing is, her biological father is always in/out of rehab or jail and it doesn't help when he's calling her telling her lies as well, getting her hopes up and letting her down. We've tried to cut off all contact with him for her own good but she ends up calling his mother to let her know where she's living since she moves back and forth from here to her mothers... Last time we sent her back to her mom's was because we asked her to stop smoking (she's been doing this since she was 8 or 9) since she was stealing ours along with lighters. We said "if you cannot quit smoking and follow our rules, you are going to have to move back home, it's your choice." And her response was "Well, I might as well move then cuz I'm not going to quit." "Ok fine pack up." It's not like we would leave our stuff laying around either.. It was kept in our bedrooms and in drawers - so she had to go through all our stuff. If she was related to me by blood - you better believe any of this would not EVER be an issue. I pretty much raised my 4 year old sister from birth since I was the only one ever home for her and she will never pull this crap. Kids need to be spoken to and treated with love, honesty, and compassion on a daily basis, not just shoved off to their rooms each and every day without explaining the reasons why to their actions like they do. It's almost like they've damned her to be one of those "throw away" kids and that breaks my heart.

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