Sadness.....

[WishesSheWasDead]

Sometimes i just feel so alone when i am on DGN.......I mean, i just seems like everyone else has some sort of close bond with people but i just don't fell like i am in on it, bc when i do go to CC, it kinda just seems like no one really likes to talk to me.......and that makes me sad, but i still keep on going........ :tear :tear :tear :tear :tear

<3 Lick Me

[Onyx]

I'll talk to you! I love to talk. I drive people nuts I talk so much because I work from home during the week, go days without seeing a soul so when I get out I'm ready to socialize. I hope to drop by the club after the A23 concert.

Find the tired looking redhead and forgive me if it takes me awhile to remember your name. I'm really awful at it but I'm trying to get better.

Edited to add: I think nearly ALL of us have felt that way. If you could only see into people's heads you'd see you aren't alone. I could have written what you wrote about a year ago.

[Dirtywhispers]

I'll talk to you!  I love to talk.  I drive people nuts I talk so much because I work from home during the week, go days without seeing a soul so when I get out I'm ready to socialize.  I hope to drop by the club after the A23 concert.

Find the tired looking redhead   and forgive me if it takes me awhile to remember your name.  I'm really awful at it but I'm trying to get better.

Edited to add:  I think nearly ALL of us have felt that way.  If you could only see into people's heads you'd see you aren't alone.  I could have written what you wrote about a year ago.

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I may be new but look for me on sat and i'll make sure you have a good time.

[Head Wreck]

if i were in detroit. anyone who wouldnt mind my insane theories and non-healthy habits is welcome to join me at the bar.

as to why there seems to be close knoitt groups... i dont know.

may be worth it to have a dabble in the get to know you game to pick up many of the injokes and create new ones to aid banter

[gothicmom]

What I hated, was that I would go to CC and look around and wish I knew some people. But I lack the nerve to talk to people, do I felt ignored. What bothered me most was when someone said to send them a message and I did, and they didn't respond!

I've felt ignored and lost.....try to post often, hang out and soon you will feel more confident and get to know others.

I've only met a super small number of people in person, but I feel like I personally know most of them.

[gothicmom]

sorry that post doesn't make much sense.

it's that whole can't express my feelings sort of thing!

[SomeDanGuy]

Yeah, I'd advise just jumping into things yourself, instead of waiting for others to address you. Just post...whatever in all these threads and eventually people will be used to seeing your name by posts and have a better idea of what you're like.

As for CC, my question is - do you have a picture anywhere? I couldn't find one on here, and if you post a picture than it's more likely someone will recognize you and greet you.

The first few times I went to CC I didn't talk to anyone either, just sort of wandered around and people-watched. I'd say try to study the pictures of a few regulars on here and then try to spot them on Saturday and ask them to introduce you around. I can't think of anyone on here who wouldn't be willing to do that......unless of course it was late enough that they were too inebriated to do so ;-)

[TomCat]

Sometimes i just feel so alone when i am on DGN.......I mean, i just seems like everyone else has some sort of close bond with people but i just don't fell like i am in on it, bc when i do go to CC, it kinda just seems like no one really likes to talk to me.......and that makes me sad, but i still keep on going........ :tear  :tear  :tear  :tear  :tear     

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<~~~~This schmuck will talk to anybody. (Probably about too much and even inappropriate things) Just say hi when ya see me. I don't bite...

hard.

[Black Sunday9]

I might be moving to Berkley soon.

[Brenda Starrr]

Aww, hon! Just jump in! I live in Baltimore, MD, and when I joined the board, I wasn't so sure that I'd bond with anyone. I'm amazed at just how well I've bonded with people here. I'm coming up (possibly in a few months) to meet the people from here. Hopefully, I'll get to meet you as well. If you ever want to talk, there's no shortage of people here who will want to talk to YOU.

[dragoth]

Im a recent virgin of CC, but I keep an open mind and love talking to random people. Just eye me out and ask to talk. No need for the drama.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Unfortunately feeling "unliked" at times is a fact of life. Your not always going to be "popular" i felt "alone" at CC for years on and off as well as many other places. Hell i still feel that way sometimes even with 5 people standing around. (for various reasons)

Try not to have to high of expectations. How long have you been going to CC ? 2 months? I was going there for 2 years before i had anything resembling a "group of friends". Tell yourself your going out , to go out and try and be social. If your expectations are to high, when they dont meet up with reality , its pretty rough.

Try not to view your own opnion of yourself , based on how many people talk to you or "like" you. Thats recipie for drama.

Just try to relax and be friendly, get involved in conversations and dont get to distraught when reality doesnt meet up with expectiatons. I know its a lot easier said than done, but its good advice.

[paradox]

jump into the 'get to know you' thread and 'person above you' thread.

look what they did to/for me...

[mycroft220]

You know! I really should go to CC myself. Although, last time I was there I lost my coatcheck ticket and stayed until 4:30am. Some "friends" bailed on me too. After I drove them to the H.I.M. concert.GRRRRRRR! I liked the vibe, but mostly ghosted.(observed and did not feel a part of) I had an ok time and the people do seem friendlier than the other clubs. If somebody ever says," We are taking you to Wild Woody's", either run or fight for your life. Anyway, I'll talk to ya! I gotta say hey in person to the people on this board.

[Homicidalheathen]

I felt that way at first too. When I go with my man no one talks to us. When I go alone single guys talk to me....that's about it. So I try to go with freinds. City club is no different than any other club to me in that way. Actually the most freindly club in town is a gay club. Girls even talk to me there and arn't at all catty. Rainbow room. But they play that 80's disco shit.

[WishesSheWasDead]

Thank you everyone for you support.....but anyways, i just feel lonely.......i don't know, it is funny how people can say that they want to be there for you and then when it comes down to it, you still end up all alone!! :tear

[Daevion]

Thank you everyone for you support.....but anyways, i just feel lonely.......i don't know, it is funny how people can say that they want to be there for you and then when it comes down to it, you still end up all alone!! :tear

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I understand what you mean. I don't know anything about your situation but will say that at the absolute lowest and loneliest point of my life I had no one to talk to, no medications, no one to listen to my problems, I had just broken up with a GF at the time, lost my job, grandfather died, a friend committed suicide, lost my vehicle, lost some friends ( due to them taking sides with the ex ), probably lost my mind for bit as well...Damn, thinking back Im not sure how I made it thru that crap.....maybe force of will or something.

your right, when all is said and done, you still end up alone..wow..damn thats depressing. =(

[WishesSheWasDead]

i totally know what you mean. But i feel like that all the time, i can be in a grope of people and still feel alone.....But nothing ever makes me feel totally "part of the group." I mean, i know people have there own lives but, i mean i just would like to talk to more people and make some more friends, bc that is what i don't have, i don't have just a bunch of people that won't judge me, i have people that i am constantly on trial with....and i just don't understand why to put up the fight, i am who i am.......and for anyone who wants me to change..........F**K Y*U!! :devil

:blushing Sorry, that was my alter-ego popping out to say hello.....well sort of.....

[mycroft220]

i totally know what you mean. But i feel like that all the time, i can be in a grope of people and still feel alone.....But nothing ever makes me feel totally "part of the group." I mean, i know people have there own lives but, i mean i just would like to talk to more people and make some more friends, bc that is what i don't have, i don't have just a bunch of people that won't judge me, i have people that i am constantly on trial with....and i just don't understand why to put up the fight, i am who i am.......and for anyone who wants me to change..........F**K Y*U!! :devil

:blushing Sorry, that was my alter-ego popping out to say hello.....well sort of.....

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I wrote something awhile ago when I was feeling the same way! I still do feel it sometimes. I mean, I know I am different from alot of people and sometimes I love that and sometimes I hate it. I've never drank alcohol, never did any kind of experimenting with any drugs, and go CLOCKWORK ORANGE(without the Ludwig Van) when somebody describes a sexual act.(Weird! I know!) And you are right! You are who you are. You are not who anybody else is. Just be an individual, the perfect copy of you. Sorry, to get all motivational speaker on ya, but I DO know the feeling and have fought it off many times! Be cool!

ONE

One is a lonely number

A number I've always known

It is the state of my life

For I must live it alone

I cannot find comfort in others

I must be my own light

So why is it I feel comfort in darkness

Like a creature of the night

There are many people around me

There's discussion everywhere

It seems I'm not part of it

Like I'm not even there

Should I feel angry

Should I feel left out

It seems that I feel nothing

I don't know what feelings are about

But if you see walking all alone

Don't feel sad for me

It is my choice to be one voice

To be all that one can be

One is a lonely number

A number I've always known

It is the state of my life

For I must live it alone

[WishesSheWasDead]

No matter how hard i try, nothing seem to end up right......but i guess i shall just move on, i haven't really been going to CC lately......But i was thinking about attending, it just seems like no one seems to like me, and so i haven't been attending........Things in life need to change and they need to change soon.......it is driving me nuts........but when people get outa hand, and don't even understand the shyt that they are talking it goes.....CRAZY.....when people doesn''t even belive the shyt they are talking.......why do they keep on talking it?¿ But that is how stupid problems start, and then they might not end.......I GIVE UP ON LIFE AND DUMB PEOPLE..........

[Onyx]

Sometimes there just isn't any choice but to turn your back on people who cause you trouble and move on. I've even been forced to do that with some of my close family members. It's sad, but sometimes necessary.

There are good people out there. Not easy to find at times, but worth the search.

[TomCat]

[soothsayer]

as to why there seems to be close knoitt groups... i dont know.

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It's unfortunate that cliques happen. I prefer to avoid that sort of mind frame. I don't believe I have made you feel alone here but if I have smack my bitch up. :laughing

........and HW,if you're ever in town I am gonna have to have a drink or two with you.

[Msterbeau]

i totally know what you mean. But i feel like that all the time, i can be in a grope of people and still feel alone.....But nothing ever makes me feel totally "part of the group." I mean, i know people have there own lives but, i mean i just would like to talk to more people and make some more friends, bc that is what i don't have, i don't have just a bunch of people that won't judge me, i have people that i am constantly on trial with....and i just don't understand why to put up the fight, i am who i am.......and for anyone who wants me to change..........F**K Y*U!! :devil

:blushing Sorry, that was my alter-ego popping out to say hello.....well sort of.....

Alter Ego? How about the real you!! Let her out.

Why stick with people that constantly nag and judge? We have freedom to choose ....so choose friends that are worth your time, and that truly DO support you and your lifestyle. I get lonely sometimes ...sometimes that's a conscious decision on my part to not be with anyone, romantically or otherwise. I don't consider it a bad thing. I appreciate the company I do have more when I've known what it's like to be without it.

Welcome to the group...I'm new here but I like it so far. Looking forward to meeting others for real.

*hug*

[Onyx]

Alter Ego?  How about the real you!!  Let her out. 

Why stick with people that constantly nag and judge?  We have freedom to choose ....so choose friends that are worth your time, and that truly DO support you and your lifestyle.  I get lonely sometimes ...sometimes that's a conscious decision on my part to not be with anyone, romantically or otherwise. I don't consider it a bad thing.  I appreciate the company I do have more when I've known what it's like to be without it.

Welcome to the group...I'm new here but I like it so far.  Looking forward to meeting others for real.

*hug*

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Isn't that the truth!

I have very few people in my life who I consider true close friends, but they are like gold to me.

I have many more who are acquaintances but I don't open myself up to them like I do those who are close to me. Sometimes you just have to ignore those who want to change you.