Rejection Thread

[Troy Spiral (13)]

i has a sad.

i have a crush, and they never turn out well.

They like someone else, anyway.....

*sigh*

Might not stay that way forever.

I been there. It sucks royally.

But everyone should take comfort in the fact that it most likely won't happen forever. There is a very good chance that everyone regardless of their past, appearance, personal quirks, etc... will find someone. I felt rejected for a full 2 years before everything worked itself out. So everybody can smile

(hugs n kisses all around)

Wow. Good for you.

Rather than make up my own response to the "I don't need emotions they just end up getting me hurt" type thinking:

Yes, it works well...until it doesn't. Those of you with lots of dating experience know exactly what I mean by this.

Very true. I think we've all used the "I won't get involved so I wont get hurt" system. Eventually the desire to love and be loved overcomes the fear of loss, and we are back on the roller coaster again.

I understand that you're frustrated. But, there's good women out there, and you're a good guy. So, who knows...

Definitely.

Edit for update on situation: I just got a phone call from him. He tells me his aging dog has had blood in his urine since yesterday. He was crying, and all flipped out because he apparently doesn't have enougn money to have him treated at the moment. How his dog being sick affected his ability to pick up his cell phone and answer it, or call back, is beyond me. If anything, had he answered yesterday, I might have been able to scare up some money for him to take the dog to the vet. I'm even more stymied now than I was before! Makes me wonder what he might really have on his mind, besides the dog..

Theses sorts of reasons for not contacting someone for an unreasonably long period of time a hard to deal with. Sometimes they are legitimate though. Context matters. Very frustrating I know. Not sure whether to be angry, sad, understanding or all three. I wouldn't nessisarilly view that, even at its worst, as "rejection" though. Inconsiderate possibly.

[Msterbeau]

I'm too far away to be rejected.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

When you seem unavailable or are unavailable, in one way or another, your desirability seems to go up. You can only really get rejected if you open/offer yourself up. Unfortunately that is exactly when you tend to get rejected.

[torn asunder]

When you seem unavailable or are unavailable, in one way or another, your desirability seems to go up. You can only really get rejected if you open/offer yourself up. Unfortunately that is exactly when you tend to get rejected.

which is entirely and exactly why one should never open/offer oneself up...

[Miranda]

I just wanted to add this; sometimes rejection can be mistaken for something else and it doesn't personally reflect on you whatsoever. On the instances that you know the person was just being cruel in rejecting you with no diplomacy, you should really be thanking them.

[Defektedtoy]

I never expect anything romantic to happen for me in the first place, because I'm defective! I'm sort of like that must-have toy you pick up off the shelf in the store while Christmas shopping, but you decide not to buy that particular one, because the backside of the box is dented.

How relevant! Hence my name haha!

[MinaRose]

I apparently break hearts...how? I have no idea...I just be myself and if someone happens to like me and I don't like them back, I let them know. So I let people down and I feel bad about it. If that makes sense. There are two people I would like to be with, but I cannot be with either one of them...why? Because one is gay and the other is straight. Wow. Why can't everyone just be bisexual? lol

[MinaRose]

Eh, I can't seem to leave this thread. Not only did I get rejected, but I lost a friend too.

I somewhat feel ya on that. A friend and I were going to try and date, then I didn't feel anything more than just a "hey, you're cute and I like you", so it was broken off. Well, he said he didn't know if we could just "be friends" because he really fell for me. So I lost a friend that night...well, then he said he would try the friends thing out. I thought we would be cool as friends, like we were before we tried dating...but I have barely seen him in three weeks, mostly because it is my fault. I am always working, but when I go out, I invite him, but he never wants to hang with a group...he wants to hang with just me. The reason I hang out in groups is because I work all of the time and when I have moments for hanging, I would love to see more than one friend...so I visit multiple friends. *sigh* So things between this friend and I have been weird I guess...

[Msterbeau]

I apparently break hearts...how? I have no idea...I just be myself and if someone happens to like me and I don't like them back, I let them know. So I let people down and I feel bad about it. If that makes sense. There are two people I would like to be with, but I cannot be with either one of them...why? Because one is gay and the other is straight. Wow. Why can't everyone just be bisexual? lol

*Scratching head*

OK... I'm assuming the gay one is a guy and the straight one a woman? Otherwise, you make-a no sense!

[Msterbeau]

I somewhat feel ya on that. A friend and I were going to try and date, then I didn't feel anything more than just a "hey, you're cute and I like you", so it was broken off. Well, he said he didn't know if we could just "be friends" because he really fell for me. So I lost a friend that night...well, then he said he would try the friends thing out. I thought we would be cool as friends, like we were before we tried dating...but I have barely seen him in three weeks, mostly because it is my fault. I am always working, but when I go out, I invite him, but he never wants to hang with a group...he wants to hang with just me. The reason I hang out in groups is because I work all of the time and when I have moments for hanging, I would love to see more than one friend...so I visit multiple friends. *sigh* So things between this friend and I have been weird I guess...

I get the "one on one" thing you're talking about. Even though it's fun to be in groups, I communicate best and feel most comfortable with just one other person. Part of this, for me, stems from my life's experiences. I can't tell you how many times I'll be talking with a group of people... I'm speaking and someone else opens their mouth, and all of a sudden everyone ignores me. It's like I ceased to exist. After years of this I figured I was better off speaking with just one person at a time, that way I have their undivided attention. And likewise, they get mine.

[MinaRose]

*Scratching head*

OK... I'm assuming the gay one is a guy and the straight one a woman? Otherwise, you make-a no sense!

You are....correct! lol. The gay one is my best guy friend and the straight one was one of my best girl friends...it sucks. One I hang out with all the time, the guy, and the other one moved a few years ago and we rarely talk.

[MinaRose]

I get the "one on one" thing you're talking about. Even though it's fun to be in groups, I communicate best and feel most comfortable with just one other person. Part of this, for me, stems from my life's experiences. I can't tell you how many times I'll be talking with a group of people... I'm speaking and someone else opens their mouth, and all of a sudden everyone ignores me. It's like I ceased to exist. After years of this I figured I was better off speaking with just one person at a time, that way I have their undivided attention. And likewise, they get mine.

I do see where you are getting at. I know last weekend at the diner everyone was talking all at once. My friend and I at the end of the table just sat there pretty much with our mouths dropped to the floor...confused as hell! lol. So I can see about hanging one on one. I guess I should just take it easy on trying to do everything all at once! I believe that is how I got sick...

[Oh_My_Goth]

I am neglected & rejected.....

[Nightgaunt]

I am neglected & rejected.....

:(

[StormKnight (1)]

With all respects to Babylon 5:

"It was the dawn of the Third Age of Mankind. I was doomed from the start."

[Guest greyhalo]

Damn it, I'm here again. Same person--another week. I've known him for years, so I can't easily "get over it."

[TitsMcGee]

being the best friend = kiss of death

[Msterbeau]

Everyone here looks at me like I'm a freak. Oh... wait. I am.

Sorry. Wrong thread.

[littlepinkkitty]

i dont take rejection well. I actually will cry. I also hate being flaked on. When that happens i climb under the covers and don't come out. I hate feeling like i am not good enough for certain people.

[JaneDead]

i am not "rejected" but often find myself dealing with a certain someone who doesn't seem to know what they want, at all, ever. this seems to fit every aspect of their life and it can be quite frustrating. it can be viewed as/feel like rejection but i know it is not. i know it's "not me, it's them" because they are just a mess.

[thewhiterecluse]

The best way to deal with rejection is to move on and not let your feelings get in the way. I learned that it's just better to remain friends if you can't get what you want. If your friends reject you than move on, there are plenty of people out there to make better connections.

[punk_princess]

The best way to deal with rejection is to move on and not let your feelings get in the way. I learned that it's just better to remain friends if you can't get what you want. If your friends reject you than move on, there are plenty of people out there to make better connections.

Exactly.

[Homicidalheathen]

this thread is so emo

i too am guilty though, usually bash it with a good dose of metal

[CypherZero1]

5 Ways to cure/prevent feeling rejected:

1.) Be excessively pretentious. Example of overly pretentious mantra: "I'm always way hotter/smarter/better than the next person."

2.) Get a kitten! Kittens are wonderful and make the world a better place. (So do puppies for you dog people.)

3.) Comfort food is amazing. (Just don't overindulge if you have a slower metabolism.)

4.) Be optimistic, because "This too shall pass." It always does.

5.) Trust your instincts. If you have a bad feeling, chances are your right.

[Msterbeau]

*Looks around*

*Wanders off*