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[aequorea]

(oops ignore this, choosing to keep my mouth shut from here on out... otherwise i will just get angry and i don't think i'll gain anything from it!)

[Scary Guy]

who i am dating has no bearing on my dislike of bigotry, i am quite unsurprised by that childish dig, as every disagreement you have had here have been trolled with your childish cheap shots at people whom disagree with you. there is a time when adults cast aside their childish mannerisms and learn to formulate intuitive counters. Arguing here is really starting to bore me now because your not countering with reasoned arguments. just delusions, denial and cheap cracks at character not the issue.

To hear your opinions like "the majority is made up of people who shouldn't breed " is a very cold and heartless thing to say. how can anyone make that judgment call. perhaps you should drop your pretension and get to know people before you write them off. I have known many people with your syndrome and they have not been at all as bigoted as you. i think you should stop using it as an excuse, else you may find that doors will close to you.

You keep saying childish... Nice tactic there, trying to invalidate my posts with your inferring on my supposed lower maturity level. Way to attack the messenger there instead of the topic at hand (IE He's childish so we shouldn't listen to him and his opinions are invalid). Also what's with the namecalling anyhow? Saying someone is childish is pretty childish in and of itself.

Just because you don't like my voiced opinion on something doesn't mean you have to get all defensive about your position on the issue. I got to know people, most of them SUCK (and not in the way one would like either). The majority of people are walking colostomy bags that don't deserve to breathe my air (BTW this part has nothing to do with strippers or people who frequent strip joints, just to clear that up (well except for those that it has to do with)). If you haven't noticed I'm very cold and heartless as a whole, along with bitter, jaded, and generally pissed off toward a world that is nothing but the same to most people most of the time.

Also I'm not using my syndrome as an excuse here, someone else pointed it out and I just commented on the fact that she commented on it and how it makes me better than the majority of homosapeins on this floating rock of fecal matter.

[hunhee]

You keep saying childish... Nice tactic there, trying to invalidate my posts with your inferring on my supposed lower maturity level. Way to attack the messenger there instead of the topic at hand (IE He's childish so we shouldn't listen to him and his opinions are invalid). Also what's with the namecalling anyhow? Saying someone is childish is pretty childish in and of itself.

Just because you don't like my voiced opinion on something doesn't mean you have to get all defensive about your position on the issue. I got to know people, most of them SUCK (and not in the way one would like either). The majority of people are walking colostomy bags that don't deserve to breathe my air (BTW this part has nothing to do with strippers or people who frequent strip joints, just to clear that up (well except for those that it has to do with)). If you haven't noticed I'm very cold and heartless as a whole, along with bitter, jaded, and generally pissed off toward a world that is nothing but the same to most people most of the time.

Also I'm not using my syndrome as an excuse here, someone else pointed it out and I just commented on the fact that she commented on it and how it makes me better than the majority of homosapeins on this floating rock of fecal matter.

You're heartless? That's not what I observed in these past few months, seems like you care a great deal about your music, and the scene. You are hyperly critical about those things, because you care, that in my opinion takes great heart. I believe you take great pride in your job and to you may be what defines you, but that's just a part of you, it isn't who you are. Some people take great pride in their job, but it doesn't define who they are either, to them it's just something that helps them survive, and kudos to those who enjoy doing it.

We are all entitled to our opinions, and we are all entitled to disagree. Lets keep it friendly. I don't believe SG was attacking one particular person. Generalizations are made all the time about people and things.

I see movies all the time that pick on stereotypes and people find them funny. I believe some of it is because a lot of these generalizations that they make of a particular group of people are true (these are by no means exceptions, we are all exceptions to most of these generalizations). You can choose one of two paths, laugh, or get angry, neither will change the generalization, and getting angry will only make you raise your blood pressure.

[Scary Guy]

You're heartless? That's not what I observed in these past few months, seems like you care a great deal about your music, and the scene. You are hyperly critical about those things, because you care, that in my opinion takes great heart. I believe you take great pride in your job and to you may be what defines you, but that's just a part of you, it isn't who you are. Some people take great pride in their job, but it doesn't define who they are either, to them it's just something that helps them survive, and kudos to those who enjoy doing it.

THANK YOU for noticing :D

EDIT: I also wanted to say, just lock the damn thread please. Which I hate saying, I don't like when they get locked.

[freydis]

This is wrong.

Seriously.

And SG? Whether you see it or not, you ARE using the Aspergers as an excuse for a shitty attitude. Even if you honestly feel the way you do, it's poor form and poorer manners to come on here and say it, implying that most of us fall into the mentioned categories.

Aspergers doesn't make you a better person. It makes you without (or at the least impaired in) empathy, fettered in communication and interaction with others, and uncoordinated. You may have been attempting to paint a picture where you're seeing the positives, but what everyone heard is: "I don't give a shit about others, and I think this makes me a better person".

That's bullshit. Plain and simple.

Mods? Next time someone is being nasty, but not technically breaking rules, since others have been smacked for doing that anyway, can't someone simply say something, other than "Keep it nice, since people are getting upset, but I don't see a problem with what they said?" Can someone *please* stand up and say "You've technically not broken the rules, but you're being obnoxious, so cut it out?"

[Guest Megalicious]

That's bullshit. Plain and simple.

Pretty much what Jen said. Point blank.

And SG, As for you getting to know most people and they all "suck" I suggest you look into why that is and make better choices of people to surround yourself with.

[hunhee]

Closed thread.

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[Troy Spiral (13)]

Some topics are very difficult to make but take extreme care to come off not sounding like a jerk. It takes sensitivity to what topics these are (and sensitivity in general) to be careful what you say in an open setting that anyone could read.

Some topics are fairly easy to talk about with one or two friends that already understand our potentially offensive points and we don't need all the buffers in communication. But in mixed company many topics require more care. Other points are near impossible to try to make without coming off as rude and should tend to be left unsaid altogether, the drama isn't worth it and its just "not nice" to rub people the wrong way knowingly. Sure you can't help but rub some people the wrong way no matter what we say, but some points we know ahead of time are going to be drama inciting. Hopefully we are mature enough to have the number of such topics be very small.

In all cases responding to something that we see as rude , rudely in turn, isn't playing nice, its just making things worse. Two wrongs don't make a right.

I actually found the core subject being discussed here somewhat interesting, but the tone and language used it is not playing nice unfortunately. Friendliness has the edge over any so-called "just telling it like it is" at house DGN whenever it can be helped. Eventually skirting the gray area without actually breaking the play nice rules directly is actionable. Though it takes a long time as "circumstantial rudeness" is hard to moderate and is often up to interpretation.

This thread is too far gone to "fix" at this point and there are now, complaints about it. I'll talk to a few people privately. (There is a lot that goes on out of public view for a reason... apt to cause more drama than it would otherwise.)

Since even at the most active times mods can't read all threads (at least I know I can't) actually complaining about something is helpful. There is a report button under every post <-------- or just a PM or two to which ever mods you think relevant, can fix a problem faster and cause less trouble rather than waiting until someone blows up.

I'm apologize for this thread getting as far along along as it did. We ARE trying, DGN wouldn't be the place it is if we were not. I know DGN is a good place, if i didn't think so I might have to shut it down.

Per the DGN rules, if you have a (potentially drama-filled) problem with DGN or a moderator bring it up to the mod staff or me.