Is This Discouraging, Upsetting to your weight loss endeavours?

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Do jokes / negativity about overweight people tend to discourage your weight loss or encourage it? Just piss you off and have no relevance either way? Funny and have no relevance either way?

[Simon Bar Sinister]

no relevance. If it's funny, I laugh.

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

If its a personal blow, I get mad. Don't call me fat, I already have self esteem issues.

I don't like it when people make fun of others that are over weight, cuz you don't know how they got that way. It could be a serious health issue that lead them to be that way.. you can't assume that they are just lazy. I take offense...

as far as motivating or discouraging... it doesn't affect me. I eat right because I have to, not because I'm trying to lose weight....

[GothicRavenGoddess (3)]

wait, wait, unless its a joke, like this, then its funny.

[jynxxxedangel]

Ah dubble dowg darr anny wun to cawl mee fat.

[Rev.Reverence]

Ah dubble dowg darr anny wun to cawl mee fat.

You & me both!

....there's the good natured joke...then..there is the hurtful smear....

..I don't care if it's about fat, crazy, skin shade, medical condition, sexual preference, national origin, Religious practices, Personal Style...the list DOES go on for some lines....but there's a good number of examples...

WE...as Humans...ALL of us...are SUPPOSED to "get along"...hurtful smears don't help that.

As for does it hinder ME directly..NO..certainly not...I do not have enough fat on my body to have a hurt response...but I DO have several fat friends (& some girls I know THINK they are fat) it's actually an epidemic...

[TomCat]

Ah dubble dowg darr anny wun to cawl mee fat.

You & me both!

....there's the good natured joke...then..there is the hurtful smear....

..I don't care if it's about fat, crazy, skin shade, medical condition, sexual preference, national origin, Religious practices, Personal Style...the list DOES go on for some lines....but there's a good number of examples...

WE...as Humans...ALL of us...are SUPPOSED to "get along"...hurtful smears don't help that.

As for does it hinder ME directly..NO..certainly not...I do not have enough fat on my body to have a hurt response...but I DO have several fat friends (& some girls I know THINK they are fat) it's actually an epidemic...

or to dare an call me skinny!

[Rev.Reverence]

or to dare an call me skinny!

...but we WILL! *points wildly*

[hunhee]

or to dare an call me skinny!

you are skinny!! You're ten POUNDS skinnier!!!!

With that being said, I think it's sometimes in bad taste, and demotivating, or with us low self-esteemers motivating because we'd be afraid that a certain person they really find attractive may not find them attractive anymore, so it causes a whole bunch of extra self-esteem problems/paranoia and bad bad BAD relationship foundations (even in jokes, and even not directed at them, can cause hurt feelings).

In total, it may not be a good idea, especially in mixed company? Because even conventionally THIN people may see themselves as fat, and although said in joking form, could cause them to have hurt feelings in the end or think you hate fat people, even though you really may not, but you know how people talk.

Edited February 11, 2009 by hunhee

[TygerLili]

Jokes about people in general being too fat or too skinny don't particularly affect me, but I find most of them to be in poor taste and not funny.

I personally HATE when someone, especailly someone I'm dating, makes any sort of comment about my weight, whether it's to say that that I should lose some or gain some, whether it's to encourage me, whether it's to compliment me, whether it's to say I'm fine the way I am, or whether it's to say a mutual acquaintance is bigger or smaller than me. I would never ask anyone "Do you think I'm fat?" because there's no possible answer to that question that wouldn't piss me off.

I am, however, guilty of commenting in mixed company that I want to lose weight, which I need to learn not to do if I don't want people to comment on my weight. We women, well some men, too, are our own worst enemy when it comes to this subject.

[bean]

It makes me not eat anything for a few days.

[TitsMcGee]

It makes me not eat anything for a few days.

Sadly I get upset by weight comments that it makes me eat more. I'm an emotional eatter, and if I get depressed I grab junk food and chow down. Then I end up feeling worse about myself.

[freydis]

Very poor taste.

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Yeah I think we all can agree its in poor taste. This is DGN after all not JackassesRus.com (even though we do have a few sneak in from time to time)

I'm not sure I've had any "insults" hurled my way since Jr. High. Hell, comments about my appearance at ALL good or bad are rare.

I've had a few comments, not really insults just comments like "your looking a bit too skinny" which basically didn't affect me either way about a year / year and a half ago when I was almost at my goal weight. (and at the time I still wanted to lose 5 more pounds) Wasn't relevant to me really.

My friend Lisa told me (when I was thinner) that "i used to seem like a pear, you look much better now." which, at the time I took as a positive thing. But now being porked back up by 25 pounds it just doesn't have the same ring, lol. Not that I'm all broken up about it, but it is a bit upsetting. I'm not sure its really encouraging or discouraging either way.

Having just listened to the emotionally destroyed (due to body image issues, and other things) women till 3 am in the morning virtually every day for 4 months at the hospital , my piddly little weight "insecurities" are basically non existent. Hell I'm still in contact with some of these poor girls. Its pretty gripping when some sweetheart of a girl is talking about hurting herself due to her mother telling her how fat she is every day. My empathy cells are increased like X100 over the last half a year (and 10X since the car accident 5 years ago). Hell Ima go write an email right now.