Couples workshops

[Homicidalheathen]

I recently began attending the free H.A.I. workshops...alone. I do like them, no one pressured me for sex and it is helpful to couples with issues that are poly.

No one tried to touch me or anything...no sex...the rumors are not true.

In fact, the exercises are sooo simple but effective...I felt part of my soul was healed.

Simple exercises that really break down boundaries. Make you cut right through the crap and see what’s inside.

That being said, we are not going to continue because its...

600 bucks a couple for a weekend!! That does not include motel and food!

It’s hard to find couples workshops where your poly but not really into the swinging...

So I went out and got this Receiving Love workbook by Harville Henderix and Helen Lakelly

And so far, it’s GOOD. It’s a twelve week course for couples OR SINGLES who have intimacy issues.

Many people don't think they have intimacy issues but most of us do. It helps you receive love which we all need and deserve. Being from a disFUNctional family I find even in my middle age the issues are alive.

[Homicidalheathen]

related links

http://gettingtheloveyouwant.com/

1. The theoretical roots of Imago dialogue

What’s unique about Imago?

Let’s start with defining Imago. It is a theory and therapy of couplehood, that is

based on a synthesis and extension of insights about relationships that come

from many established psychological theories and spiritual traditions. What

makes Imago unique is that couples can benefit from all of this wisdom by

practicing structured dialogues, and through these develop powerful insights

which become integrated into their lives.

[taysteewonderbunny]

Okay, I realize that it isn't actually relevant to this method, but I just think it hilarious that my parents, who struggled 26 years through a highly dysfunctional marriage TOGETHER would get divorced at the end of their Imago therapy because of my father's stunning realization that he was, in fact, gay. Knowing thyself has weird, but good, consequences. But not six months before, my parents were actually featured in a newspaper article about Imago in which they both gushed that the method brought them closer together and rejuvenated their marriage.

[gothkytten (2)]

wow thats something wonderbunny!

[Homicidalheathen]

yah thats pretty weird...hurray for imago for OPENING THE CLOSET doors to which your dad was hiding...not that he knew...or so he claimed...

[pomba gira]

Hm, I would say it was successful if it granted him that much insight!

Thanks for this info HH, it is really relevant to some issues I'm dealing with now. Just reading some of the info on the Imago site has given me a tiny bit of insight as to what I need to do next.

[taysteewonderbunny]

Hm, I would say it was successful if it granted him that much insight!

Thanks for this info HH, it is really relevant to some issues I'm dealing with now. Just reading some of the info on the Imago site has given me a tiny bit of insight as to what I need to do next.

Oh, I don't think it was the workshop that granted him the insight. Rather, I think it was the death of my grandmother, who would have disowned him, that gave him the courage to come out. He'd been struggling with the issue since he was twelve, and admitted his struggle to my mom a decade earlier. That was what was so confusing about them appearing in that article. I've no doubt that my parents were, for all of their marriage, good friends, even when they didn't see eye to eye or express their needs in healthy ways, but to make a public issue about a non-existent romance is just weird.

[Homicidalheathen]

Here is another good site

http://www.lovemore.com/

I like that there is more freedom of expression in relationship therapy these days that makes people feel free enough to come out of whatever closet they are hiding in.

http://www.lovemore.com/news/QuickNews.asp

[Troy Spiral (13)]

Okay, I realize that it isn't actually relevant to this method, but I just think it hilarious that my parents, who struggled 26 years through a highly dysfunctional marriage TOGETHER would get divorced at the end of their Imago therapy because of my father's stunning realization that he was, in fact, gay. Knowing thyself has weird, but good, consequences. But not six months before, my parents were actually featured in a newspaper article about Imago in which they both gushed that the method brought them closer together and rejuvenated their marriage.

I'm quite sure my mom would dump my dad asap if she ever went to any serious long term relationship counseling. In the early days when they first started dating if my dad had been going to psych therapy and figured out what he was really looking for, he would of never popped the question. (Not that either of them would ever GO to coulsing as its all bullshit, to quite my dad.) Sad but true.

Now they've pretty much "wasted" 40 years of their lives on a piss-poor relationship.