Mother in laws...

[lullaby1031]

Ok I want some input here - I know I am not the only married (or has been married) person on this forum so I'd like to know what you think of them. Too pushy? Too friendly but fake?! Always in your business?! Whats your take on it? Feel free to share stories good or bad... god knows I'd like to hear some good so I'm not all that worried for the future HA!

[Fierce Critter]

"too friendly but fake". Sounds like my mother-in-law where I'm concerned.

My husband recently told her flat-out he doesn't care to be involved in her life anymore. Pretty much told her he doesn't want contact from her - period. It's a long story, but suffice it to say in the 6 years we've been married, she has never called us once. Not once. He even used to call her on his own birthday, knowing if he didn't, he wouldn't hear from her. That's just a tiny example of her worthlessness.

A couple years ago, when Clay Aiken was winning on American Idol, she sent us an e-mail and said she's sorry she hasn't called, but that money had been really tight.

A couple weeks later, she e-mails again, asking us if we'd go up into Raleigh (30 miles away) to get her a Sunday paper ($2.00 each) featuring Clay Aiken, who's from Raleigh, and mail it to her - and that she'd pay for it all.

We didn't justify it with a response.

I could go on, but suffice it to say, she's a piece of trash and while I kept out of my husband's decision to cut her off, I'm glad he finally did.

Now, if you asked Jon about my mother, he'd rave. He loves her to death and can't wait to see her again when we move back. My mother is actually a better mother-in-law than mother - and she's a pretty damned good mother.

[Brenda Starrr]

My ex MIL and I get along great. My current one is pretty cool as well. She treats my kids as if they were her own grandchildren. I guess that I got lucky.

[bean]

I love my mother in law almost as much as my own mother. She has a personality very similar to that of my mother. I can tell her/talk to her about anything (even if I'm complaining about her son!), and she gives very good advice. I sometimes even tell her things that I might not tell my mother just because she has a more subjective view and is not as likely to worry as much. I'm lucky to have her in my life.

[Nightflyerswmn]

my mother in law is in the "always in your business" category. she lives right across the street from us and is always over. like everyday all day. it's a good thing i have a job and go to school or roudy and i would be divorced already. she even uses our address as hers, so all of her mail comes to our house and she has to come over and pick it up. up until the day roudy and i got married, which was last july, she carried HIS checkbook and signed his checks for him. even though it was his account, he couldn't write any checks or use any cards without her knowing about it.

we went to florida right after we got married because that's where roudy was working that month, and she expected him to send her practically all of his check so she and his sisters could go shopping with our money that we needed for food and stuff because we were staying in a motel for 3 weeks and gas and all that. that pissed me off because it wasn't just us down there, we had a 15 month old baby with us too. and most of you know how expensive that is.

so i guess its safe to say my mother-in law and i clash heads on a lot of things.

[pixiefae]

My mother-in-law is quite intimidating. Mind you, I'm just over 5 ft tall. She's over 6 ft, and is built like a line-backer. She's definately one of the nicest people I know (as long as she likes you). She is a certified master mechanic and works for a Dodge Dealership and is the head mechanic. She has helped me out with car issues and never asked for anything in return. I love my mother-in-law. :grin

[lullaby1031]

Mine is all three.. Nothing I do satisfys this women.. I come and clean her house 5 days a week since I have nothing better to do and I cook dinner for her family on those days too. I've tried to be like a daughter to her but she tried to get in my business in ways that my own mother wouldn't.. then I tried the friend way telling her out right "Look, I have enough mothers in my life, if you want to be like a friend, I need them more then anything". I hope I grow on her adleast over time - Christ..