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So, I'm contemplating putting my daughter into a youth martial arts class. She isn't sure if she wants to or not though. On one hand she knows daddy loves it and wants to be part of it for that...on the other hand...it's the only reason she thinks about doing it.

My thinking is this though -

Daddy won't be around forever to protect her. She will be able to learn self defense, get good exercise, help maintain self esteem (though she isn't lacking that lol) and *hopefully* help teach humility.

If she decides she doesn't want to do it - I've thought about enrolling her anyway. Not sure which way I'll go on that yet but it does call for some consideration. As a parent, I have the duty to act in the best interests of the child in everything that I do. So now I'm a little torn.

I encourage her to express herself, find her own identity, be comfortable with herself and always strive to test herself and the boundaries of her ability. Know thyself, know thy limits, accept only thy personal best.

So if I force her to do this, for the reasons of her best interest with health and safety - I stand the risk of contradicting that which I try to teach her with finding her own identity and losing credibility in her eyes and causing resentment.

So, I'm asking for civilized opinions. Outside perspectives, from people who are notorious for thinking outside of the box (which is why I <3 yall). Who knows, maybe I am just overthinking it all. Anyone have insight to share, see something in this that I am missing?

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In my opinion ... she doesn't know if she'll like it until she tries it... what could it hurt to have her go for a month or two as a trial kinda period then after that when she's gotten a real taste of it if she still doesn't like it honestly i'd say let it go but thats just my thinking on it

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Even if it is only for a little bit it can only help...

Kids are growing up way too sheltered today and most of them look for their own way to fight back...which is not good. I like carrying my knives and guns and will never give them up...but that is something I don't suggest for many people and I would rather have kids learn the right way.

The best interest is NOT letting them learn on their own...until she gets to the point where she can be on her own this is one of the things that you can do to help.

Also, teach her that nothing is wrong with mohawks, piercings, and tatoos...and that "sweet" cars don't make for good dudes...

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Also, teach her that nothing is wrong with mohawks, piercings, and tatoos...and that "sweet" cars don't make for good dudes...

Seeing that daddy is mohawked with tattoos...and her mother is very tattood, I don't think that will be a problem :)

From the day she could understand the words I say to her though, I've told her that any boy who won't open a door for her isn't worth her time. She now actually scolds the boys in her class if they don't open and hold the door for anyone coming through behind them lol. It's kind of funny to watch, because they seem to be afraid of disappointing her lol.

(side note - daddy holds the door for anyone who is with him and for strangers who just happen to be coming through after him).

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Seeing that daddy is mohawked with tattoos...and her mother is very tattood, I don't think that will be a problem :)

From the day she could understand the words I say to her though, I've told her that any boy who won't open a door for her isn't worth her time. She now actually scolds the boys in her class if they don't open and hold the door for anyone coming through behind them lol. It's kind of funny to watch, because they seem to be afraid of disappointing her lol.

(side note - daddy holds the door for anyone who is with him and for strangers who just happen to be coming through after him).

Nice...very nice...

I think most of the people up here at school are retarded because most won't hold the door for anyone no matter how close them are to the door. I try to but sometimes in a rush I just need to get to class and there are too many people around. There was a girl at my gradeschool that would yell at all the guys if they didn't hold the door...her voice still makes me jump...

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So, I'm contemplating putting my daughter into a youth martial arts class. She isn't sure if she wants to or not though. On one hand she knows daddy loves it and wants to be part of it for that...on the other hand...it's the only reason she thinks about doing it.

My thinking is this though -

Daddy won't be around forever to protect her. She will be able to learn self defense, get good exercise, help maintain self esteem (though she isn't lacking that lol) and *hopefully* help teach humility.

If she decides she doesn't want to do it - I've thought about enrolling her anyway. Not sure which way I'll go on that yet but it does call for some consideration. As a parent, I have the duty to act in the best interests of the child in everything that I do. So now I'm a little torn.

I encourage her to express herself, find her own identity, be comfortable with herself and always strive to test herself and the boundaries of her ability. Know thyself, know thy limits, accept only thy personal best.

So if I force her to do this, for the reasons of her best interest with health and safety - I stand the risk of contradicting that which I try to teach her with finding her own identity and losing credibility in her eyes and causing resentment.

So, I'm asking for civilized opinions. Outside perspectives, from people who are notorious for thinking outside of the box (which is why I <3 yall). Who knows, maybe I am just overthinking it all. Anyone have insight to share, see something in this that I am missing?

Honestly...with the state of affairs on this planet..I'ld recommend demanding with a certain level of training...say to the second or third belt (what ever art it is)...for ANY child...AT ALL. If they want to stay in more than a year or two..cool..if not..also cool..they will have studied that...& their body may react when it needs it...& if they wish to take it (or another martial art again)...their body will adjust to being in training again......also..Yoga for pre-teens & teens...MANDATORY.

....dance goes good with Kung-Fu/Karate as well... ;)

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In my opinion ... she doesn't know if she'll like it until she tries it... what could it hurt to have her go for a month or two as a trial kinda period then after that when she's gotten a real taste of it if she still doesn't like it honestly i'd say let it go but thats just my thinking on it

this sounds good. :)

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I remember when I was six taking it and they wanted me to break a board with my foot. I basically told them to fuck off in the words of a six year old.

Acting in the best interests of your child isn't always following your child's interests. Most parents do this and end up screwing them over and it gets passed down from generation to generation. Ozzy never taught his kids religion, he waited until they were old enough and let them make up their own minds.

Explain things to them in simple non bullshit terms and hold nothing back, then let them decide. Maybe she wants to be a pacifist which you might not agree with (nor I for that matter) but some people are just born not to fight.

Then again there are lots of pacifist monks who could kick your ass if they wanted to.

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Let her try it. We enrolled my younger daughter in Judo a couple years ago. We had tried many sports but she just wasn't into them. This one seems to have stuck, which is a surprise since there's some discipline involved and that's not her strong suit. Now her sister has decided to do it too. Give her one sessions's worth of time to see if she likes it or not.

The sefl-protection aspect of this is one of the only reasons I would consider insisting that my children do something. She may begrudge you now but thank you later for insisting on doing it.

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