playing matchmaker/going on blind dates

[Simon Bar Sinister]

does doing either of these ever actually work out for anyone?

[Slogo]

I'm always too shy for them to work

[Confess]

The idea of a blind date sounds good. I mean you can meet someone thoroughly cool that you may not have ever talked to in other circumstances.

But It's a bitch when you are too shy for it to be successful.

[StormKnight (1)]

Two words about my experience with these: EPIC FAIL

[~Tszura~]

My introduction to DGN began when my blind date never showed. It was an EPIC WIN for me After waiting all night at City, I went up to Fin to see if perhaps he was the person I was looking for~nope! We had a good laugh, a nice chat, and he spoke of DGN. So I joined, and now here I am with my wonderfulamazingsexy Nightgaunt, and awesome DGN family

Soooooooo, while blind dates may suck sometimes, blind dates that don't show are the best!!!

[TygerLili]

My introduction to DGN began when my blind date never showed. It was an EPIC WIN for me After waiting all night at City, I went up to Fin to see if perhaps he was the person I was looking for~nope! We had a good laugh, a nice chat, and he spoke of DGN. So I joined, and now here I am with my wonderfulamazingsexy Nightgaunt, and awesome DGN family

How cute!

I don't like "dating" period, I like to either become friends with the person first, or get to know them through group activities before we start dating. Typically, when I meet someone I'm interested in, we'll swap numbers and talk on the phone at least 2-3 times before I agree to a date, so by the time we get to the date, I already have a pretty good general idea what his personality is like, and we have more to talk about.

As for friends setting you up, it really depends how subtle they can be about it. If they just make a point of introducing you to someone a couple times, then cool, maybe you'll hit it off. If they do the whole double-date-trying-way-too-hard-to-push-you-together bit, it can be pretty uncomfortable, especially if you're not clicking with the other person.

[Simon Bar Sinister]

yeah, but have you ever tried to match up any of your friends? I don't want to wreck any of my friendships, so I'm very leery about doing so - even though I've thought about it. As for blind dates, I had 2 that were absolute disasters. Never again!

[StormKnight (1)]

How cute!

I don't like "dating" period, I like to either become friends with the person first, or get to know them through group activities before we start dating. Typically, when I meet someone I'm interested in, we'll swap numbers and talk on the phone at least 2-3 times before I agree to a date, so by the time we get to the date, I already have a pretty good general idea what his personality is like, and we have more to talk about.

As for friends setting you up, it really depends how subtle they can be about it. If they just make a point of introducing you to someone a couple times, then cool, maybe you'll hit it off. If they do the whole double-date-trying-way-too-hard-to-push-you-together bit, it can be pretty uncomfortable, especially if you're not clicking with the other person.

Hence why the person I would want to go out with MUST ABSOLUTELY AND UNEQUIVOCALLY be met in a common environment/interest, ones that I frequent, and ones that I have an interest frequenting. If they have more common interests when we talk, I would try to talk with them further elsewhere.

Artificial setups feels exactly like that: a setup. And in my case, it has ALWAYS been a set-up for abysmal failure (and my heart being worked over by the worst that Mohammed Ali, Tyson, Bruce Lee, and Chuck Norris can dish out.)

yeah, but have you ever tried to match up any of your friends? I don't want to wreck any of my friendships, so I'm very leery about doing so - even though I've thought about it. As for blind dates, I had 2 that were absolute disasters. Never again!

I just introduce them to each other in a common environment IF they both frequent it, and let them go from there. If something happens, great. If not, at least there was some conversation.

[B0bii]

im usually too shy for it to work out

[AstralCrux]

I'm good at telling if people have alot in common, but randomness tends to be how I accidentally matchmake people.

I find myself extremely disappointed in how little my last friend that set me up knew me. I really wouldn't put myself through that level of disappointment again, she thought we would be a good couple because she felt we were both "workaholics." He had work and living with his parents, I have a life- but I felt that she doesn't feel that way.

[~Tszura~]

I've never set someone up on a blind date, but I have introduced people to each other, hoping they will hit it off. And with that introduction, yes I have shamefully tried to support and even create an enviornment that I thought would help the whole situation out. It's never worked :( For the future, I will continue to introduce people, but I'm going to leave it at that. "Owen, this is Delilah. Feel free to talk amongst yourselves. I'm outta here."

AstrulCrux~your comment about being dissapointed in a friend who should have known you better reminded me of a similar experience. Long ago an old friend of mine invited me to the Renaissance Festival, letting me know that one of her husband's friends was also going to be there. She thought we would hit it off, and kind of got me excited about it. So I show up, and right from the get go it was a juvenile disaster. He pointed at big boobs all day, laughing, dared people to spank him with his whip, goaded the performers, and the absolute worst thing I saw..........he let out a "snot rocket," and was PROUD of it! We were all eating at the time, which made it even more special. I looked at what I thought was one of my best friends, and said, "really? This is what you think of me?" She spent the rest of the day apologizing as she should have

[punk_princess]

Ive never done either but I wouldnt mind being set up on a date. As long as the guy is either a sagittarius, scorpio, or a capricorn. Anyone want to help me out?

[DarkRacer]

Never been on a blind date before, wouldn't mind giving it a try.

[TygerLili]

AstrulCrux~your comment about being dissapointed in a friend who should have known you better reminded me of a similar experience. Long ago an old friend of mine invited me to the Renaissance Festival, letting me know that one of her husband's friends was also going to be there. She thought we would hit it off, and kind of got me excited about it. So I show up, and right from the get go it was a juvenile disaster. He pointed at big boobs all day, laughing, dared people to spank him with his whip, goaded the performers, and the absolute worst thing I saw..........he let out a "snot rocket," and was PROUD of it! We were all eating at the time, which made it even more special. I looked at what I thought was one of my best friends, and said, "really? This is what you think of me?" She spent the rest of the day apologizing as she should have

Off topic, but Renaissance Fest is a horrible place for a date unless it's with someone you already know pretty well, in my opinion. I went there with a guy on our third date, so I knew him a little, but our first date had been a double date at the movies, and our second date had been a fairly short lunch date, so we hadn't talked a lot one on one. Well, he chose that day to tell me that 1)he was super religious and 2)he couldn't wait to start having kids. He seemed appalled by just about all the performers at Ren Fest, he kept going gaga over babies in strollers, and he acted offended if I wanted to pay for anything, including my own bottle of water. Unfortunately, unlike a regular dinner date, since we had ridden together I had to stick it out with him all day. The best part was on the ride home he told me that I needed to find Jesus. Grrrrrr! Never again!

[LulaLaRose]

Off topic, but Renaissance Fest is a horrible place for a date unless it's with someone you already know pretty well, in my opinion. I went there with a guy on our third date, so I knew him a little, but our first date had been a double date at the movies, and our second date had been a fairly short lunch date, so we hadn't talked a lot one on one. Well, he chose that day to tell me that 1)he was super religious and 2)he couldn't wait to start having kids. He seemed appalled by just about all the performers at Ren Fest, he kept going gaga over babies in strollers, and he acted offended if I wanted to pay for anything, including my own bottle of water. Unfortunately, unlike a regular dinner date, since we had ridden together I had to stick it out with him all day. The best part was on the ride home he told me that I needed to find Jesus. Grrrrrr! Never again!

In my humble opinion, it sounds like in your situation Ren Fest may have been the BEST place to go. Although you were miserable, wasn't it good to find out about his views/opinions before you invested too much time and effort in a relationship with him? Maybe the environment of the Ren Fest brought a certain side of him out that you may not have seen otherwise. And if anyone wants to go on a date to the Ren Fest they should drive separately so you can ditch if the date goes bad. lol!

Sorry if it seems I am continuing on off topic, but I think it kind of relates to the topic as this discusses where to go on dates with people you met recently.

[Guest Megalicious]

I am with SK here - epic fail.

Its not that I am to shy, it's that I know what it is that I want and looking for. I am particular, and there is a VERY thin line.

I have been on one "blind date" in the last few months. He was awesome, he still is awesome but I find myself in a spot in my life where I can not give him the attention he deserves.

So, it's one of two things.

They never get pasted the first date - because they DO NOT interest me ( I am looking for a dork that ... wakes something inside).

Or, They come along at the wrong time. Timing .. timing, timing. *sigh*