A Question For Women

[Der Nister]

Why do women make comments like "know that whatever happens, I still love you' when they end a relationship ?

Like, are they saying, no matter how many other guys they have sex with, they still love you. (?)

Or no matter how long it's been since you were together, they still love you. (?)

Or no matter if, they get married, they still love you. (?)

Or are they saying it because they think it makes them look mature?

How can one person dump on another and then say, I still love you no matter?

What could the answer really be?

[kat (1)]

it means I still love you but am concerned about the lack of honesty that you have provided me with. It means that I was genuine with the way I feel. It means that my fucking heart is literally hurt over this.

[Ivy_Cat]

Why do women make comments like "know that whatever happens, I still love you' when they end a relationship ?

Like, are they saying, no matter how many other guys they have sex with, they still love you. (?)

Or no matter how long it's been since you were together, they still love you. (?)

Or no matter if, they get married, they still love you. (?)

Or are they saying it because they think it makes them look mature?

How can one person dump on another and then say, I still love you no matter?

What could the answer really be?

Why do women make comments like "know that whatever happens, I still love you' when they end a relationship ?

I have never said that when i ended a relationship.. so i dont know

Like, are they saying, no matter how many other guys they have sex with, they still love you. (?)

Total different question.. you can have sex with more than one man and be in love with more than one man... (personal opinion and experience)

Or no matter how long it's been since you were together, they still love you. (?)

not really understanding this question...

Or are they saying it because they think it makes them look mature?

When it comes to love maturity i have discovered takes a back sit.. sometimes we ry to rationalize our decisions.. only because we are hurting.. not because we are trying to be mature

How can one person dump on another and then say, I still love you no matter?

i have dumped someone i was in love with.. did not tell him i was still in love with him.. but i dumped him because he was harmful to me and my life and even though i loved him deeply i saw that... (not saying that is the case every time)

[TheGimp]

i think it means even though i want another mans whoo ha and we wont ever have sex again i still think your a good person....just my opinion

[pomba gira]

You can love someone, and still know that they aren't the right person to share your life with long-term. And love doesn't just switch off like a light just because you decide it's not not best to be with this person. You can also love more than one person. We aren't born with some finite amount of love to pass around.

[Guest Megalicious]

love doesn't just switch off like a light

Exactly.

In addition, if you have shared a part of your life with someone and cared about them enough to open up and let them in, it is significant to you and you will always love them and have a special place for them in your heart, even if things don't work out.

I know it's hard to see things clearly when you are hurt, but in retrospect things will make sense.

[torn asunder]

i've said it myself, and have honestly meant it. echoing pomba & meg, just because one decides it's best to move on, that doesn't mean the love that was there is going to just go away.

[creatureofthenyte]

i've said it myself, and have honestly meant it. echoing pomba & meg, just because one decides it's best to move on, that doesn't mean the love that was there is going to just go away.

I feel conflicted by this; I both agree & disagree simultaneously with this statement.

Perhaps that's true, the love isn't going to just go away, but it Does.

When someone decides to move on, they take their love away with them and eventually give it to someone new.

I have dumped and have been dumped before in my life, and it's a lose/lose situation.

Yeah maybe I dumped the woman because she hurt me in some severe way, or whatever the case may be.

It takes a long time to get over it and get past it.

Emotional pain hurts worse then any physical pain ever could.

[torn asunder]

Perhaps that's true, the love isn't going to just go away, but it Does.

of course, it *does* change form a bit, and it *can* go away, but it doesn't necessarily have to.

[creatureofthenyte]

of course, it *does* change form a bit, and it *can* go away, but it doesn't necessarily have to.

I guess what I was getting at was, after "things are over", holding a torch for someone seems kind of pointless to me. Eventually one has to come to grips with the finality of the situation and move on.

[torn asunder]

I guess what I was getting at was, after "things are over", holding a torch for someone seems kind of pointless to me. Eventually one has to come to grips with the finality of the situation and move on.

agreed, but loving someone and holding a torch for someone are two different things... as i said, it changes to a different kind of love.

[creatureofthenyte]

agreed, but loving someone and holding a torch for someone are two different things... as i said, it changes to a different kind of love.

point taken.

[Nikalita21]

Women will always love you, no matter what. it's in our nature to love, even if the guy f****d up really bad.

[~Tszura~]

I agree with Pomba. We can't just turn our emotions on and off. When things like that are said, I believe that they are meant, but only in that moment. Time passes, and sometimes the love is still there, and sometimes not. I think things like that are also said to ease the pain, and intensity of the moment on both sides because they do care. It may not ring true forever, but in that moment, it is the truth.

As a side note, I hate it when people say, "It's not you, it's me," during a break-up. Oh, Guffaw!!!

[pomba gira]

As a side note, I hate it when people say, "It's not you, it's me," during a break-up. Oh, Guffaw!!!

I've only been the recipient of that line once... and yeah, it made me want to bite his nuts off, fry them, and feed them to my cats. It's like when people apologize in advance for doing something that they know is going to fuck you over. WTF is the point of telling me how sorry you are when it isn't going to stop you from doing whatever hurtful thing you're planning?

[Rev.Reverence]

I havn't the foggiest idea where peoples come up with the shit they say concerning love..

...for they are usually wrong...but, there is one thing that we ALL know for sure...

...TAKE IT AWAY BOYS!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2BjJbKQkgc

[TygerLili]

1) There are many reasons people break up that have nothing to do with not loving the other person anymore. I've actually never had a relationship end because I didn't have feelings for the person anymore or vice versa.

2) There is romantic love, and then there is loving the person as a close friend. Sometimes after a break up, the first type goes away, but the second type is still there.

In some ways that's frustrating because it would be easier to just stop loving the person, start hating them, and sever all ties, but it often doesn't happen that way.