Age differences

[Rev.Reverence]

The young ones are good for teaching.. Not relationships.

I don't think anyone should get serious until they are well into their 20's.. Like mid-20's.

You just really don't know what you want at a young age.. You young-ins can disagree all you want, but I'm right, and you will learn that soon enough

Someone in their 30's and so on trying to get into a relationship with someone who is around 18 probably has some control issues

Young people are often very naive, and fall in love easily.. It is not cool for an older adult to take advantage of this... Even if they seem like they know "what's up", they most likely do not.

Now, don't get Me wrong.. I flirt like hell with the younger ladies.. I love so much about them.. Their tiny-ness, their cuteness, their malleable minds. Yet I stay away from traditional relationships with them.

...yeah...we weren't talkin' about training scenarios...

[Head Wreck]

Angel and I share the same level. its all that matters to us

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

I couldn't care less about meeting women, personally. As stated in my opening - I am personally choosing to focus on school instead.

Focus and achieve ur goals the rest will come when you least expect it .

As far as the age gap goes .. there is such thing as "too old" and for me that's over 10+ years over my age.

I could never date someone younger than me because I find them too immature.

[Raev]

Focus and achieve ur goals the rest will come when you least expect it .

Don't get me wrong. Just because I'm not looking, that doesn't mean that I wouldn't take someone into my life if that *chemistry* happened to be there. If it just happens...I'm ok with it. Just not seeking it out.

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

A lot of time it seems that "chemistry" and "lust" get mixed up

[phee]

A lot of time it seems that "chemistry" and "lust" get mixed up

This is definitly true in a way... I think they are both chemistry... just chemistry that can confuse the two seperate ideas.

Now to have chemistry for love and chemistry for lust in the same person? Then essentually you win

Love and Lust are both satisfying things to quench.

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

phee you got the reason behind my madness ..

Wise man

[candyman]

I really don't care about age that much but I have never been with anyone older than me by more than a few days. Sadly I tend to drift to the younger side, damn all ages shows, which needs to stop before I get into trouble. I can't seem to find girls my age no matter what I do...the Cougars haunt the gay bar/hookah bar and teens that look much older than they are attend the all ages shows. The only girl I dated that was my age turned out to be my 2nd cousin...

[phee]

phee you got the reason behind my madness ..

Wise man

I have been referred to as wise.... we are all truly lost now.

[Simon Bar Sinister]

never really gave it much thought.

[Fidget(+)]

I think it depends entirely on the mental age of the people in question, and how their personalities/goals work together.

completely agree

[EnViOuSPoPpEt]

I have been referred to as wise.... we are all truly lost now.

There is a first time for everything..

[torn asunder]

I dislike setting firm rules because there are ALWAYS exceptions. Bearing in mind some of the issues the Raev pointed out about having compatible touchstones, I tend not to worry about literal age and gauge more on where there mind is at with relation to mine. I've dated 15 years in either direction at some point in my life. Preference-wise A youthful (Looks and soul) woman in her mid-30's is probably ideal. The one significant thing that an older woman will always have over a younger on is experience. There is a certain wisdom and confidence that pretty much only comes with age..

ditto, except for the preferred age. it also depends on what kind of relationship one is looking for, as to how big a deal the age difference is...

[Msterbeau]

it also depends on what kind of relationship one is looking for, as to how big a deal the age difference is...

I was going to mention this too.. Less seriousness = less worries about age.

[TheGimp]

i dont think age should matter to a degree now an 18 year old screwing around with someone old enough to be there father/mother is just wrong >.< you shouldnt be in your late 30's and trying to seduce a 18 or 19 year old male or female....well...wait, i think as there old enough to drink its not tooo bad...becuase myself i find myself attracted to older women...and its mostly sexual...i know a actual relationship wont work mentality is to far apart even if both parties are fairly mature, a mature 22 year old and a mature 47 year old are still not going to be compatible, the mind sets of how they were raised and styles of living are to far off...not to mention how it will affect the younger party long term, if a younger man for example starts a long term relationship with an older female, lets say the man is 20 and the woman is 40, 10 years later hes in his 30's she's in here 50's....another ten ears he's 40 and she's 60 and so on and so forth if she ends up passing away in her mid to late 60's you have a man in his 40's thats now a widower or vice versa for women...

[creatureofthenyte]

You've got to be able to relate to each other though.

To relate to each other and be able to talk on the same level and connect is essential.

If you're dating someone who is young enough to be your kid, that can be very awkward.

What if it gets to the meet the parents stage, and you meet them and they're Your age ??

Maturity is definitely a factor; it can nullify concerns about an age difference or it can make them worse.

Often the nature of the age difference can be a factor.

A 40yr old and an 18yr old are less likely, IMO, to succeed in a relationship then say a 40yr old and a 30yr old.

Nikki Sixx(Motley Crue bassist)is 50yrs old.

Kat Von D, his gf, is 27. He was 23 when she was Born.

They seem to be quite happy together, but how they relate life experience to each other is beyond me.

It really depends on the people involved I guess.

Edited December 1, 2009 by creatureofthenyte

[Msterbeau]

You've got to be able to relate to each other though.

To relate to each other and be able to talk on the same level and connect is essential.

If you're dating someone who is young enough to be your kid, that can be very awkward.

What if it gets to the meet the parents stage, and you meet them and they're Your age ??

Maturity is definitely a factor; it can nullify concerns about an age difference or it can make them worse.

Often the nature of the age difference can be a factor.

A 40yr old and an 18yr old are less likely, IMO, to succeed in a relationship then say a 40yr old and a 30yr old.

Nikki Sixx(Motley Crue bassist)is 50yrs old.

Kat Von D, his gf, is 27. He was 23 when she was Born.

They seem to be quite happy together, but how they relate life experience to each other is beyond me.

It really depends on the people involved I guess.

Money and fame bridge all potential pitfalls..

[creatureofthenyte]

Money and fame bridge all potential pitfalls..

That's true.

I guess in that scenario, the real test is what happens when both of those things run out.

[AmieLamie]

There is no rule. Of course, I never liked to follow them anyway. I have seen large differences work, and no difference not work, as well as vice versa. I think I actually have an undeserved wrap as being a cougar type, due to the large numbers of males 10+ years younger than me that seek my company. They seek me, not the other way around. Honestly, it is men closer to my age and older that pique my interest more. Not to say that the younger ones do not or can not, just less often, for reasons not unlike what Raev listed. There are many males that have years on their side, but are less of a man then their younger counterparts. There is issue with the older as well. I have dated much older, believe me, they didn't look it! The problem was differences in interest in social activities. Partially due to age difference, but I am sure not an issue with all, as different people have different interests. More important than numerical age, is the person. For me, if they have their shit together, drive me crazy in that good way, make me feel like I should be made to feel, and we enjoy each others company, then what the hell does age have to do with it?

Yeah, what she said.

[Tacohitts]

Money and fame bridge all potential pitfalls..

I have dated and dumped gold diggers,can't stand em.

[TygerLili]

My limit is 4 years younger or 6 years older than myself. I wouldn't seriously date someone if there was a bigger age difference than that, and I'd prefer someone as close to my own age as possible. That said I've never actually dated anyone where there was less than a 3 year age difference.

As far as others are concerned, it's really not my business whom they chose to date. As others have said, the older one gets, the less substantial the age difference seems. I will say from a personal standpoint, however, that relationships where there's more than a 12-13 year age difference really creep me out, as one is old enough to be the parent of the other.

[StormKnight (1)]

I have no hard and fast rule outside of legal/cultural mores. If you can keep up with me, mentally and physically, have similar interests, have fun in similar activities, and if there is mutual attraction, go for it.

[Homicidalheathen]

rules are ment to be broken.

[Msterbeau]

Uhm...well, I think it depends on the situation and the people. Some people are more mature and open to such cases.

For me...now that I'm 19, I would stretch down to 17. And stretch up to 23, with maybe a couple exceptions depending. Though my mom is always an issue...she dislikes me dating men older then 22, usually. And she keeps ranting...bahh!

But as I age, I change my range.

Your mom is weird. Explains a lot.

[AmieLamie]

Well, my grandpa is nearing seventy years old, and his girlfriend in in her late twenties and they just had a baby and they seem to be doing just fine. lol just thought I'd share.